To find it offensive when people query the paternity of my sons?????

I looked at yours. They are gorgeous and I think it means you have really good genes well mixed if children look very different. I have blondes. I have brown haired. I have very skinny. I have rugby player in the making. Full spectrum and then you see other families where they all look like peas in a pod.

I've collected the twins from a creche before now and the staff haven't even known they were brothers they look so different!

it is extremely rude, and I get this too, because my children have very different looks.

heh heh heh!

Nope a different one each time.

I do get chatted up by a chap in the chip shop though. He's chatted me up through two pregnancies now.
Bless him.

Actually, now wondering if I'm the object of some weird-ass fetish.

God, I hope so.

When dd1 was born dh and his sister took her out in the pram and a stranger said that their baby was gorgeous. Yes she was the spit of dh but I was so offended that thay thought she was anything like my cow of a sil

is that the same strange swedish man? DO you think he might have a crush

sorry

I often get mistaken for dd's Swedish au pair.

If I had a pound for every time a strange Swedish man has started chatting to me in Swedish, I'd have ....about a fiver.

I've seen your pics before from my 'member profiles' thread and I hadn't even registered the difference between your boys. My little sis is a red head and I'm dark brunette, she has pale skin and green eyes and is several inches taller and broader than me who has brown eyes and sort of olive skin.

We do look alike but to most people we probably don't.

I have 3 dc with 2 dads between them.

I do think it is nosey, irrelevant and rude. I have to try hard to not start explaining the different parentage of my 3 because inevitably one gets awkward looks when one actually does have dc with different dads!

So what, it's not like most people who look aghast have only had one sexual partner so I'm not sure what associations they are making that don't apply to them also! And, anyone can split up, re marry and have more kids so what's the big deal nosey people?!

Your boys are gorgeous and do look alike if you look beyond the superficial.

Me and my sister looked nothing alike when we were kids.

My mum was often asked if my sister was adopted.

It used to really piss me off when people at school would refuse to believe she was my sister. I couldn't understand why they thought I would make it up.

NOw my sister looks the spit of my mum and also quite similar to me.

I think sometimes people don't think before they open their mouths. But to say something like that in front of your dp is astonishingly thoughtless.

What do they think you are going to say? I mean do they expect you to turn round to your dp and say, 'Darling there's something I've been meaning to tell you...'

My dh has four children from his first marriage, and they all look completely different!

Fools indeed.

You're right TE, people don't look beyond obvious things like hair colour. I've got a friend who is really blonde. Both her parents and her brother and sister are really dark and everyone used to joke about them not being related, but facially they are sooooo similar it's hard to see how anyone could question her background. BTW, being really nerdy and all... generally women are better at spotting familial (sp?) similarity than men, the bit of our brains that deals with that sort of thing is better developed than in men.

It's very rude. I can't believe people come straight out with stuff like that.

Any how, I can see the similarity between them the best from Pics 1 & 4 - same nose, mouth and chin.

They're both bloody gorgeous, btw.

my friend has vv dark hair, her brother has ginger (v ginger) hair and her sister is dark blonde, they were often asked if they had different dads and their mum used to say that E was the postmans J was the milkmans and A was the bailiffs. used to shut them up.

seriously, cant believe how rude people can be, your ds's dont look THAT dissimillar

Apart from the different hair colour, which is I guess what people notice first, I think they look quite similar facially. Both got very similar eyes and and mouths. You might want to suggest a trip to the opticians next time someone questions their paternity

I know how you feel. Dd has dh's colourings while ds looks like me and my colourings. I've often been asked if dd is a child I look after which I take great offence to.

I wish people would mind their own.

Yes, from the pictures they do look fairly different. But TBH, so do many siblings IME.

Me, my brother and my sister do not look alike. The differences between me and my younger sister are very noticebale TBH.

I think the people questioning ar ebeing a bit daft TBH!

but I guess it's the sort of thing they wouldn't say in front of dp/dh isn't it

I get this too tiredemma

normally first line

'aren't they different'

second line

'is she yours?' (looking at dd)

then

'what nationality is her father' (i.e. is he non white as dd's skin is much darker than mine and ds's)

arrrghhhhh

it's just nosiness really - something to talk about I guess!

moi?

Ahhhh! I get you now (not very quick today)

Can see why it would bother you - but still think tperhaps more thoughtless than offensive.

I have the same. Blond blue eyed dd1 and brown eyed very dark hair (Spanish looking) dd2. The rest are luckily a combination of them so they all kind of blend
It surprises me so many have said it to you, think I only had the midwife with ds2 asking me.

you don;t think it is rude or insensitive to have the paternity of your children questioned in front of their father!?!?!?