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to want to give away a cat

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goldenwings · 23/06/2007 00:03

dps sister friend found a kitten the other week abandoned in a box she couldnt keep it as she had a reaction. anyway dps sister took it in but she to had a reaction so the kitten came here so dps nephew could see it as he has grown attached.

anyway all was fine and dps sister got the jabs done half price on benefits as she was going to have the cat back because she didnt react to it after a while. but this cant happen now

however we have reached a problem and that is the cat scratches and bites i have an 8 month old who is crawling and weve had to stop the cat scratching him. hes just scratched my stomach (the cat not my son lol) and dp is caked in scratches. the kitten cant stay anymore as i dont want my son to be scratched.

dps sister has said that we cant give the cat away but we can sell it at £40 so she gets the injection money back. fair enough but ive tried pointing out its a non pedigree tom and noone will pay 40 quid for it. yes hes toilet trained but still noone will pay that much. so we seem to be stuck with him and im not sure what to do. he can be a sweet little thing but will not stop scratching and biting hes so bad for it. i just want him to go to a decent home but seriously noones going to want to pay 40 pound.

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goldenwings · 24/06/2007 17:08

kittens do bite and scratch and usually its playful. however this kitten will go for your face even if your not doing anything. he just constantly scratches and bites. you cant even stroke him unless hes tired.

my friend who offered to take him has changed her mind because i explained thouroughly his temperament. she has young kiddies and does not want them getting scratched and/or bit.

i have given dps siter until tomorrow to contact them otherwise i will do it myself.

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barney2 · 24/06/2007 13:42

Kittens will bite/scratch/be a pain in the arse....any kitten that doesn't bite/scratch etc is an absolute exception. You have a kitten you have to expect them to do this. All they want to do is play and biting/scratching etc is all part of them being young.

The Stubbington Ark in Portsmouth is an absolutely lovely Animal Centre - you also have the Blue Cross down there.

Surely its more important to find the kitten a new lovely home than worry about getting the vaccination money back??!!!

alicet · 24/06/2007 12:10

goldenwings how about getting back in touch with the people that offered to take him before? It sounds like he will be well cared for there (better than a shelter).

Obviously if this is no longer a goer then shelter it has to be whether she likes it or not!

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goldenwings · 24/06/2007 09:42

the cat is still here. however she is phoning an animal shelter tomorrow. although i havent spoken to her since

dp is starting to feel sorry for him but dp isnt the one who constantly has to keep an eye on the cat in the daytime. also if the cat did ever scrath or bite our son dp would straight away kick it out on the street so its only right that he goes somewhere else.

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UCM · 24/06/2007 01:22

Oggs could you send it back then. Sadly, no one else wanted it.

alicet · 23/06/2007 12:13

You took the cat in as a favour to her as she had a reaction to him and have kept this cat for some time for her to have back at a later date at some cost to yourself (food etc). Now she doesn't want it back but doesn't want to pay for the jabs she had and is therefore insisting that you sell this cat for a frankly absurd amount of money so SHE doesn't miss out. And you're actually thinking about paying her the money?????

Um - am I missing something? I think she is being very unreasonable. You have helped her out and now she doesn't want either the cat back or to lose out financially. Tell her is she doesn't want the cat you will find him a good home but you will not be charging anyone to take him nor will you give her the money. If she doesn't like this then tough

NurseyJo · 23/06/2007 11:11

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bookwormmum · 23/06/2007 11:06

It's a harness for small cats or dogs. She wasn't allowed out for a few weeks until she'd had all her jabs so it was to walk her in the back garden with. Btw, it wasn't a huge success!

WinkyWinkola · 23/06/2007 11:00

Cat lead? Can you get leads for cats? Will they be led? 'mazing.

bookwormmum · 23/06/2007 09:22

We adopted a cat in February/March from a friend-of-a-friend and if we'd been asked to pay £40 for her,she'd still be homeless (we had to ask for her dirt tray and basket as the girl tried to hang onto them). I understand that your sister is narked at having paid out but money spent on a cat is effectively gone - you can't recoup it if the cat doesn't suit.

We've spent hundreds (literally!) on Treacle with jabs, worming, chipping, cat lead, cat food, cat litter and kennels over Easter but if she ran away tomorrow that would be that. Good luck to your sister .

IsabelWatchingItRainInMacondo · 23/06/2007 09:04

one week with the cat and she will understand your point!

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goldenwings · 23/06/2007 08:52

well ive spoken to her this morning on msn. she told me to send the cat over to her and she will rehome him. think shes pissed off at us but we cant keep him. and i hope she accepts that.

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oggsfrog · 23/06/2007 01:17

UCM, forgot to say "thankyou" for the Dummies.......

t'was no mention of golden showers, just April Showers

I was actually trying to post a sparkly "parp", or "troll spray" but couldn't get them to work without giving my address....

Saturn74 · 23/06/2007 01:07

Kippers Sparkly and Anal Sparkly - who are they?

UCM · 23/06/2007 01:05

Only on a Sunday after Kippers and Anal Sparkly

oggsfrog · 23/06/2007 00:55

Trip, trap, trip, little april showers.....

UCM · 23/06/2007 00:53

Oggsfrog I would like it back, but will ask on A&C. I am very sorry I didin't see that farking pincushion

oggsfrog · 23/06/2007 00:52

Twinkle, then I had it right in the first place ?

It never looks right though , does it

Twinklemegan · 23/06/2007 00:46

No need to feel bad at all GW if the cat can go to a good home. Just sort that SIL of yours out.

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goldenwings · 23/06/2007 00:45

hmmm dont think i will hit him with a brick lol.

another thing dp is worried about is that ive got to have an operation at some point and will be laid up for 6 weeks. my son isnt going to get enough attention from me (wont be able to pick him up much ) so the cat definatly wont be getting attention. also i will have to have stitches and theres no way i want him scratching me.

i know it seems like im making excuses but seriously we just cant do it. i think the cat can be so sweet but having an 8 month old an operation and a cat just doesnt mix.

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Twinklemegan · 23/06/2007 00:44

I think the latter Oggsfrog. People very rarely laugh AT each other on here.

oggsfrog · 23/06/2007 00:43

NurseyJo, are you laughing at me or giving me the correct spelling??????

madamez · 23/06/2007 00:41

It's not your problem that she spent money on the cat. She didn't sell it to you. Either give it to a cat-homing charity or hit it with abrick and tell her it ran away.

NurseyJo · 23/06/2007 00:40

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Twinklemegan · 23/06/2007 00:39

GW - sounds like you really do need advice from somewhere like Cats Protection. Hope they can help. DP keeps threatening ours with the same thing, but I don't think are problems are quite as bad. I guess we just don't like cats quite as much as we used to.