to really struggle with the school run, how does your morning look?

Up at 6.15 or what ever ass crack of dawn time my DD gets up
Wash, dress, drag a brush through hair. Check work emails
Get DD washed, dressed, fed
Sort out washing up, hide toys if theres time.
Out the door 7.55 for 8am breakfast club
On 8.06 bus to work. Start on conference calls and doing emails on phone
Finish work at 5
On the 5.15 bus, usually on a conference call with US colleague starting their day
Pick DD up from after school club by 5.50
Home and get food cooked and on table ASAP.
Get DD fed, washed, in PJs for 6.45 ready for stories in bed 7pm
7.30/8ish DD will be asleep

Collapse and try to figure out how I'll do.it all again the next day

This is a weird thread OP? You just have to do these things when you have children!!

I work term time only.

I get up at 7.45am. Dd1 is up earlier so dh gives her breakfast. I wake dd2 to get dressed, and she gets breakfast after. Then dd2 comes up to get dressed. I iron as I go, so their clothes are freshly ironed (great in this cold weather). I get myself ready with shower, dressed, make up, hair.
I then bark out orders for cardigans, shoes, coat and to get out the door.
I then leave at 8:43, school starts at 8:45 (the school is the next road from us) I drop dds off and skip back home to have 5 minutes leave and leave for work at 9am to start work at 9.30am.

How you can lie in bed when you don’t really work and get you dh to do it, is beyond me.
I suffer with insomnia, and if dds are ill up though the night I sort it. So dh does his bit in the morning.

Dh wakes at half six, showers, takes dog out (with a coffee in a mug) i get up about 7, shower, get the kids up at half seven by which time the house is 'awake' (radio on, breakfast table set) I make the packed lunches (for 3 of us) while making breakfast. DH gets back with the dog about 7.45 and he takes over sorting the kids (teeth/hair/nagging) While he's doing this, I tend to be rumbling round in the background, doing letters back to school/making sure the 'stuff' we need for activities is ready to roll /that that nights dinner etc is defrosting/ there's a wash on/ that whatever we need for dinner is 'in the house' (or write a list to make sure one of us picks it up).
One of us will set off walking the kids to school about twenty past eight, and the other leaves at half 8 and brings the car up- we then meet about a five minute walk 'on' from school. Whoever has the car that day drops the other to the station and carries onto work. It took us ages to get this organised and is not a natural state for me.
I think you are taking the piss a bit to be honest.

My alarms set for 5:50 but I naturally wake at 5:30, I have 10 mins or so faffing in bed. Then get up and make it.
Next I put the harnesses on the dogs and have a nesspresso or two. Every couple of days out a wash on.
Drag on some clothes and walk the dogs from around 6 to 7:20 at the latest.
7:30 start getting the dd's up. Dd2 eats breakfast, gets dressed and watches tv all at the same time. Dd2 gets dressed has bathroom time (she gets breakfast at school). Hang the wash up or alternatively out it away if I did it the day before, check school bags put in lunches I made previous evening.
8 to 8:05 out the door for dd1 to get bus and dd2 to breakfast club, once at breakfast club we do our morning routine of me saying "be good, learn lots, be clever, have fun enjoy yourself and if anyone bully's you tell a teacher"
Then off to bus and at my desk between 10 to and quarter past 9.
Thankfully the bus stop for dd1 is directly outside the flat and dd2s school is a five minute walk. If it's the school holidays the dd's get an extra 45mins in bed as holiday club is a 10 mins walk and I'm at my desk at 9:30

Some mornings there is stropping, that's tough, cos it makes it a shitload more difficult

I've got a craptonne to be greatful for cos I do this all by my self

Mine are 4, 7 and 9 BTW.

The only way we manage this is that the kids have been trained to sort themselves out. They get ready while I do, and have done for ages. The oldest one sorts breakfast as well.

I do have fairly spectacular kids, tbf

to repeat, if you need to factor in the best part of an hour of faffing about, snoozing the alarm, staring into space trying to wake up etc, then set your alarm an hour earlier.

You will be then at your current 9am mental 'ready to start the day' point at 8am.

Trying it for next week, set the alarm for 6:20am, snooze until 6:40am at the latest. See how much better you feel by the end of the week.

OP it’s awful getting up early. Most people are groggy first thing and hate getting out of bed. But that’s life! You just need to suck it up and get on with it. Sorry to say it but you do sound a little lazy lying in bed whilst your DH gets on with it. I imagine you could probably grab a nap during the day and he can’t do you are being rather self indulgent.

6.50 alarm; shower; fully dressed; makeup.
7.15 make lunch x 5, set table for breakfast
7.30 call dc for the first time; make coffee
7.40 call dc for the second time
7.45 tell dc ‘the kitchen is closing in 15 minutes’
8.15 full dishwasher; teeth brushing and coat/hat/bag getting
8.30 leave house
8.40 school drop
8.50 get on train to work

I parent four children (aged 5-11) alone four out of five schooldays, so op trust me, you can do this!

If you have 1 child,just go back to bed after school run.
We all hate getting up in the morning.What motivates me is getting rid of the kids for a few hours😂😂

Get everything ready the night before e.g. making packed lunches, packing bags & checking for school letters. Hang up coats by the front door and have shoes cleaned. Go to bed earlier, leave ipad and mobile outside of bedroom so in the landing. You'll stil be able to hear your alarm from there. This will help you go to sleep quicker as you won't get distracted by them. Get up earlier, 7am would be better, so youre not rushing. Think you just have to get on with it I'm afraid. Drink lots of water and coffee during the day. Give yourself a better routine.

6:20 I get up
6:30 kids up
They get dressed while I have a shower
7:00 We all leave the house. Childminder feeds them.

(on lazy days we get up at 7:30, get ready for breakfast at 8:00 and leave at 8:30 to walk to school)

It gets a bit wearing at this time of year, esp as I'm on my own.

You just do what you need to do though, don't you.

(p.s. Get up earlier)

Pre school age here, plus younger child. We all get up together at around 7. I will have made packed lunches, packed spare clothes etc and got everything (coats, bag, hats etc) into the car the night before. So we get up, I get tea and milk and take it upstairs. Read a couple of stories. I get ready for work (office so clean tidy and make up), get children washed and dressed. Downstairs, into car and off to pre school for 8-8.15.

This is a obviously either made up, or some kind of weird reverse.

On the off chance it’s not, the advice is very simple - Shape Up!!

get up at 6:30
stare into space with cup of tea until 6:45
get ready
kids up at 7:20 the latest (often they are up earlier), they eat what's on the kitchen table. weetabix bowls prepared previous evening, they only need to pour milk.
kids do teeth a d get dressed after breakfast
out the door 8:15

do you have depression or anxiety which stops you ?

I have severe anxiety and only work part time and get really stressed in the morning so my dh gets the rough end of the deal by getting the little one ready by steering and supervising toilet, hand washing, teeth and getting them dressed in uniform, battling about pinafore or skirt, socks or tights etc while i shower but the older one needs no assistance at all at 8 years old.

Up at 7.15, i have breakfast and sort out bottles and pack school bags.

7.30 i give kids have breakfast and dh had his shower.

7.45 dh helps the little one get ready and supervises older while i get showered and dressed.

8.15 dh irons his shirt whilst i get the kids to put shoes, get their hair brushed/put in pony tails and coats on.

8.20 i leave to drop kids to breakfast club and go to work.

8.30 dh locks up and leaves for work.

What time are you going to bed?

Mornings are harder if you lie there pissing about with the snooze button. The main time I had trouble getting up was when I was actually struggling with my mental health. Now that I’m taking a break from work, it’s easier to get up.

I’d be pissed off if my dh dozes in bed while I got up and then went to work!! Just get up and try and do something invigorating. Exercise? Are you taking care of your mental health.

I have to have everything ready for the next day. Everything laid out for me and 2 kids the night before. All bags ready by the door, lunch bags done and in the fridge. I'm definitely not a morning person too

Alarm goes off at 7am. I immediately wake DC. I make a brew and take it back to bed whilst DS has breakfast and DD brushes her teeth and gets dressed. Then DD going downstairs to pack her lunch, brush her hair and do her chores whilst I get showered, dressed and quick brush through my hair and slick on some concealer whilst DS brushes his teeth and gets dressed then goes to do his chores. I arrive downstairs at 7:50, fix DD hair and leave the house just before 8am

Well, op, it’s nice to read about a man who pulls his weight. But this does sound unfair the other way!

I get up at 6.30. Dd on bus at 7.15. I don’t love it but have to do it.

If you;re really, really struggling to wake up, maybe you need to see a GP.

I'm up often from 3am, unless I've taken a sleeping tablet to help me get through until about 5.30. Kids are one or the other shouty/up/sleep talking etc in the night so it wakes me. We're often up from 5.30am though. No one cares about what any of us parents look like on the school run. We're in an average area - most mums have to work, barely anyone wears make up. No one judges. I think sometimes women over think it? As in, HAVE to wear make up, etc. I think, as long as you get your kid into school on time, fed, clean, etc, mostly no one except the weird vacuous ones care about what the mother looks like.

we dont have a school run as they are home educate but we go to sleep anything between 6-8am as both are disabled and one of their disabilities is bad sleeping.

You really get to sleep at 6am??

What kind of disability includes bad sleeping? I assume you don’t mean bad sleeping, just sleeping at different times than most people use during the day? How long do they sleep for when they are asleep?

So you know you take 2 hours to be fully alert in the mornings - so you need to shift when the 2 hours starts.

I'm not a morning person either, I understand the "can't wake up quickly" feeling, so I don't try to wake up quickly, I give myself time to do it.

Set your alarm for 6:20am instead of 7:20. Snooze for a max 20 minutes, then force yourself in the shower.

While it might be tempting to stay in bed until the latest possible moment, that's actually making your problems worse, not better.

(This is something most "not a morning person" people learned in their early 20s, you seem to have missed that life lesson - if you need 2 hours, you give yourself 2 hours, not 1 hour and feel like shit for another hour because you can't wake up and be ready to start the day in 1 hour)

7am get up
kids eat breakfast, I get me dressed in trakkies and tshirt
7.30 kids get ready
8ish we get in the car and go.
8.25 I drop DD at the bus stop she needs to be at for the bus to pick them up at 8.25
8.40 I drop DS at his school.
9.15 I get home, then I shower, dress properly, eat breakfast and get on with my day.

I am not a morning person, I rarely get more than 5 hours sleep due to DS's disabilities.

I dont actually have to see anyone in the morning, my DD is dropped at her bus stop where there is a designated adult that gets them on the bus, then DS is just evicted from the car as his school has a drop off point (Special Ed School) where the TA's meet them and walk them inside, so its easier for me just to get myself showered and dressed in peace when I get home after 9am.