putting in a complaint re parents in the cloakroom?

hijack

My daughter is four, has been in pre-school and/or nursery since she turned three and has rarely had any help other than an initial "Aha! This would be where your peg be hidden!" moment. I refuse to be a packhorse and I strongly encourage her to get on with it all herself.

Watching mums refuse to let their kids get on with it narks me, I often think that if they just buggered off and left the kids to it the tantrums would stop and the kids would be better for it.

Heigh ho.

Agnes

Not being unreasonable

My DD went in on her own in reception

If I ever did have to go in to see the teacher it was a nightmare with loads of parents squashing in

(and my DD started fulltime schhol at 4 yrs and 1 day!!!!!!)

Unreasonable. You do what you think is best with your child and leave other parents to do what they think is best with their child. However, if other parents are constantly getting in your child's way then tell them to shift.

but also .

i would just walk away calmly and smugly thinking what drippy parents that cant leave their kids alone

Parents aren't allowed into my dd's school under any account unless you are collecting directly from the classroom in the case of very bad weather. The corridors are so small and there are any number of obstructions, display tables, bulging coat racks, tv sets, boxes of sports equipment etc there isn't the room for a possible 120 parents (2-form intake each year) in the Infants corridor plus children, teachers and TAs/classroom assistants all milling around.

YANBU.

Bring back National Service

DD started school in September aged 4 years and 3 weeks. I have never gone into the cloakroom with her and no parents ever have as far as I am aware. We leave them in the playground and we pick them up from the playground, I also have a very clingy dd, the teacher has had to more or less carry her in some times. But, I am happy with the system, she would cry the whole time I am there so its better I just leave her quickly, she soon recovers. So, dont think you are being unreasonable but not sure they will do much so late in the term.

When DS was 4, he was expected to hang his coat up, and the school was quite militant about it.
Good thing too.
It rubbed off on DS who pulled me up when in late rush I helped him.
I was ordered out.

Although, our TA 'mans' the cloakroom to help with this kind of thing.

True LIZS - it's tricky for them when they are still tiny and have umpteen bags. In the winter it's worse when they have pe bag, book bag, lunch box and are also battling with big squashy coat, gloves, scarf and hat!!

Oooh, dunno, but from Easter ds2 has been going into school nursery on his own which involves

hanging coat up
finding name and sticking up on the board
writing name in the big book ('signing in' )
putting elastic band tag on milk carton

they have to do this now - we don't have any choice! they all seem fine with it.

In an ideal world that is fine but dd is still only 5 (also Year 1) and today had her book bag, a swimming bag and a dancing bag . She cannot physically take off her jacket and hang all these up then sort the contents of her book bag without my help while fending off the elbows of other kids doing the same. Theoretically we have been banned from the cloakroom area (actually just in the classroom) since first half term of Reception but in practice it just doesn't always work. If it were just a coat and book bag then ok but it so rarely is for us.

It's not a lot of time - just a few minutes - but it makes all the difference. When my dd1 and ds1 were in that class (different teacher) parents were made to feel quite superfluous. I think it is nice if there is a little overlap between home and school, rather than being effectively two different planets.

too Tricky - what about the mums that have to dash off to work, they cant spend the time in the classroom like that.

Oh yes, wagons would be great!

Parents are allowed into my ds2's reception classroom in the mornings, makes for a gentle start to the day, the atmosphere is friendly and children can show their parents what they have been making/doing/playing with.

Laneyday - the class will not get started until they are all coatless and sat down, leave it be. if your DS waits until the Mithering Mums are gone, he can hang his coat in peace and sit down.

You will get a reputation if you pipe up about this kind of thing - save it for the things that matter. My advice is Do Nothing Further!

As per harpsichord....

How do you get to not be a packhorse Twig?

DD has to carry a bookbag - usually with 3 books and a box of words in it, drink bottle, packed lunch, PE kit with trainers or swimming kit with armbands and big towel.

She's quits small and just can't do it - she comes out of school laden down with all that plus coat and added bits of junk model / baked things / shoe box houses etc. I find it really hard to carry it plus supervise 2yr old and two 5 year olds along the road. I think school should issue them all with a little wagon.

I may complain, and demand wagons. Red ones.

Better to tell theschool and get it off your chest than have a falming row with anothe Mum kn the cloakroom, perhaps the school may review their policy on it now.

Helath & safey and all that - too many people in the cloakroom etc etc