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To dread turning 50.

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Luckyguess · 29/10/2018 22:46

Really struggling with this. Is it really all down hill from here?

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SimpleSimonstherapist · 29/10/2018 23:04

It’s a bleak sort of decade if TV is to be believed and comes with the joy of menopause BUT it’s a time to shrug off your mum shoes and rediscover who you are. When you don’t have children’s timetables to abide by you’ll be able to be more spontaneous. Time to go and do some of those things you’ve been meaning to get around to trying but kids meant it wasn’t practical. New hobbies, all of that sort of stuff. Find out what you love doing or get back to doing something you used to love.

It does sound so different to being in your forties but I reckon it could be good Smile. Fingers crossed I’m right.

DramaAlpaca · 29/10/2018 23:03

I'm in my 50s. It's fine. I've much more freedom now my DC are grown up, I'm fit & healthy, I'm still working in a job I love, the mortgage is almost paid off... There's lots to look forward to.

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Luckyguess · 29/10/2018 23:03

Just feeling in a really bad place at the moment. Problems with ageing parents and illness. Just need to get some perspective I guess.

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Over50andfab · 29/10/2018 23:02

My name says it all Grin

Aquamarine1029 · 29/10/2018 22:58

Oh stop your whinging! 50 is YOUNG. Your future is all on you. My parents are nearly 80 and they are amazing. I know multitudes of people 80+ that are active and remarkable. If you want to give up and sit on your arse, that's up to you. Being 50 has nothing to do with it. Your options are living a healthy, active, engaging life or dying. Take your pick.

SureIusedtobetaller · 29/10/2018 22:58

It’s fine. Just a number. I have tried to treat it as a start rather than looking back. Lots of things left to do and see!

Finfintytint · 29/10/2018 22:56

It’s better than the alternative Smile.
It’s great. No kids at home to please. Still feel about 25.

Sparklybanana · 29/10/2018 22:54

I understand your state of mind but think about all the people you’ve known who haven’t been able to turn 50. Each milestone is a reminder that you’re getting older but I think turning 50 is preferable to the alternative. Cherish the years.

Mum2jenny · 29/10/2018 22:52

An age is just a number, get over it, sorry you feel bad about it tho WineFlowers

Athena51 · 29/10/2018 22:52

I turned 51 recently. It's fine. The world didn't end when I reached 50.

LoniceraJaponica · 29/10/2018 22:50

Or Nigella

cardibach · 29/10/2018 22:50

What do you imagine will be any different when your label is 50 not 49?

desperateforsleep2 · 29/10/2018 22:50

Didn't do Kylie any harm!

BackforGood · 29/10/2018 22:49

Of course it isn't all downhill.
Why would you dread it ?
I spread my celebrations out over about 3 months. I love moving into a new decade.
It is great being in your 50s.

LoniceraJaponica · 29/10/2018 22:47

Why?
I will turn 60 on Friday. I am not dreading it.
It is just a state of mind.

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