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Original poster

to not want sil to spend half tem with her kids here when I've just had a baby.

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maisym · 16/06/2007 23:08

we've spent hols with her & her kids at parents in laws house during the summer holidays. She does nothing to help & dumps her kids on me.

I have four kids & she's offered to spend a future half term with us to help with the cooking & childcare!! I'll have a newborn.

dh has said fine to her but he'll be at work.

OP posts:
TooTicky · 16/06/2007 23:23

Can you have something outwardly invisible but very contagious?

Original poster
maisym · 16/06/2007 23:20

have tried with dh but it's his sister & there's not much I can do iyswim. Will have to think up coping strategies.

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JodieG1 · 16/06/2007 23:12

I'd say no way!! Spend the time with your lovely gorgeous newborn, you know time goes so fast when they're that age Mine is 6 months soon and it feels like yesterday I brought him home as a tiny baby, make the most of it without someone imposing on you.

Original poster
maisym · 16/06/2007 23:12

I spoke to dh he said he'd be happy to have another pair of hands if I was still in the hospital but I have a 1yr old that needs to be looked after & she spends her time reading whilst her kids will do their own thing. I'd be so worried about ds.

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TooTicky · 16/06/2007 23:11

Say no. Say you have other visitors, or that you are going away, or that your family needs time to adjust to having a new baby.

ratfly · 16/06/2007 23:11

can you not have baby brain (much worse than pregnancy brain) and forget to organise it?

emkana · 16/06/2007 23:09

Follow your instinct - if you don't want her there, don't. That initial time with a new baby is so precious, you want it to be just the way you want it IYSWIM.

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