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To be upset that my friend just cheated on her husband while he is in hospital?

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milkchocolateStarryStarryNight · 16/06/2007 17:59

I so do not know how to handle this one.
My friend just told me she met up with her ex boyfriend from long ago last night, she took him home (her dc at grandmas), they spent the night having sex, more than once, and it was so great.

Her husband is in hospital for the last two weeks with heartproblem.

By my friends own admission she will not have sex with her ex boyfriend again as husband is due out from hospital on monday, so the possibility will not lend itself.

FFS! She has been married 7 years, as a 3 your old, and she just told me she has cheated and shows no remorse? Ok, she and her dh had an open relationship before they got married and had kids, but even so?

What am I to think about this? Shall I just ignore it, or ?

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milkchocolateStarryStarryNight · 16/06/2007 18:10

I am just shocked. I cant apply my own moral standard on her. I guess, as a friend I shall just listen to her, and be there for her, as I assume that maybe the problems she has in her marriage is even deeper than I thought...

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TranquilaManana · 16/06/2007 18:07

and a stonking good thread on mn should help you come to terms with the shock

TranquilaManana · 16/06/2007 18:06

you are allowed to tell her you are shocked. she doesnt have to like it... but so what? if you genuinely feel upset by her behaviour and feel you cant just let it lie, then tell her how you feel. got nothing to lose if youre thinking of not seeing her anymore nyway...

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milkchocolateStarryStarryNight · 16/06/2007 18:05

God no, I would not ever say anything to HIM! I just dont know how to deal with this revelation mentally for myself.

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TranquilaManana · 16/06/2007 18:04

what do you propse to do? tell a man with heart trouble his wife cheated on him?
if she was so open about it with you, maybe he knows..

personally, id butt out. horses fro courses and all that.

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milkchocolateStarryStarryNight · 16/06/2007 18:04

Part of me feel like not talking to her again. I am so shocked. But I also know that they have had some problems in their marriage recently.

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singingmum · 16/06/2007 18:03

You know the old saying 'With friends like that who needs enemies' for your friends dh it'd be
'With a wife like that ......'
Feel v.sorry for her husband.
Gives women a bad name.

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milkchocolateStarryStarryNight · 16/06/2007 18:03

I have all sorts of recriminations and moral preaching going through my mind at the moment, but should I just keep mum, or remind her to change bedsheets before her husband is discharged?

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ShinyNewShoes · 16/06/2007 18:01
Shock