To be upset that my friend just cheated on her husband while he is in hospital?

and of course you are allowed your opinion. so long as we all know mine is right and yours i wrong

define slag for me please?

because afaik, it is the word or of a group of words (ho, slut, slosher, whore) which is always thrown at women whenever they do anything deemed 'wrong' be it, smile at the wrong boys on the bus or sleep with a football team.
its purely sexual condemnation but used to insult all sorts of behaviours.
itsused in a 'lowest of the low' way, which to my mnd, is ignorant and (that word which means nasty and sexist??). esp given that having sex is just having sx, whereas, for eg killing people should be considered quite a bit more disgusting.

god i wish i were eloquent and able to express mysef better!!! agh, need to switch my brain on more often...

TM- why is so 'disrespectful' of me to call someone who behaves like a slag, a slag??

Im sorry if we see this differently- surely im entitled to my own opinion on this?

i wish i had some advice. if it were my friend (actually mine are dropping like flies atm) i would cut her out of my life. sounds harsh but theres no way i would want to be involved with her and her shenanigans.

I agree with Custardo, Carmenere and TranquilManana.

that would be fkin hilarious!

does she know you post here? Maybe she's just messing with your head to see what you'll post? Sort of a troll by proxy?

then attack her for the things you dont like. if you think shes a disrespectful, hurtful irrespnsible bitch, call her that. calling her a slag just makes you a disrespectful, hurtful irrespnsible bitch.

You've only known her since Christmas. I would guess that she has an open marriage with her dh and as she has spoken of such things before with you, that you wouldn't be offended by her behaviour. Maybe her dh isn't up to sex atm(or in the past few months) and this is their way of dealing with it. NOT my idea of fun but different strokes and all that.

I would be slightly concerned about her ds being confused and upset but otherwise I would just let the friendship cool for a while.
You could of course ask her how her dh feels about it......

Hi - if he has heart problems maybe they have an arrangement. Maybe he can't have sex due to his health or medication. Maybe she should try a vibrator. Who knows what goes on behind closed doors eh! Best keeping out of it. Hubby bound to find out & what goes around comes around at the end of the day. You are not unreasonable to be upset you obviously are the caring type

Im with tiredemma on this one.

She brings a bloke home AND lets him read to her child WHILE childs daddy is in hospital.
She clearly has no respect for her hubby, her child her home her marriage or herself.

milkchocolate, is this the same woman you were referring to in the thread about your flirtation? If I recall correctly you said she had been in an open relationship with her husband and he didn't mind her having encounters with women?

If it IS the same woman, do you think maybe she's saying these things to make you jealous and rub your nose in it that you didn't take her up on her offer? Apologies if I have the wrong end of the stick, it just rang a bell for me. If it is her, she sounds like she has few restrictions on her behaviour, and you might have to just shake your head and accept that's who she is. She sounds like a bit of a bugger!

You don't know the details of your friend's relationship with her dh. Maybe he's a sh*t.Give the woman a break.

I do think that a woman who invites a man around for sex while

1. her own husband is in hospital
2. her child ( hubbys child also) is under the same roof

is a slag.

Nothing to do with 'enjoying sex', more about having a bit of bloody respect for your family.

i find women calling other women 'slags' disgusting tbh.
you have a little bit of thirdhand information about a woamn youll never meet, and you see fit to condemn and summarise her entire personlity as beyond reproach because she dares to make a mistake and, horror of horrors, have SEX. sex she enjoys no less; the dirty wee slag.

the view nice from up there on your horses, is it??

Blimey, am shocked by her behaviour and by her lack of shame.

Agree. Maybe she just wants a damn good shag! She clearly hasn't totally thought through the consequences and it's certainly something I personally wouldn't be boasting about, but what she does in bed and with whom is entirely up to her - she's an adult, if she wants to treat her hubby in this way it's her business not yours. Don't get involved and don't judge.

If you still like her enough, just be there for her when it all goes tits up!

its non of your business, you can only judge on whether you want to remain wfirend s with this woman rather than her sexual exploits.

a friend of mine behaved like this, then she "uped and offed" with the new man, leaveng a very upset husband. New man then dumped her. Let her know your disaproval, but be prepared that she may need your support, if you are prepared to give it in the future.

Sorry, I deleted part of my post in error.
It should read:
"And nor would it be prudent to put her relationship at risk by telling her husband about her infidelity, as the fallout would cause hurt and upset to her child".

I wouldn't.
What she has done is horrible, sneaky and cheap, and I would make sure that my friend knew that I found her behaviour unacceptable.
But she doesn't have to demonstrate remorse to you - you're not her husband, nor are you her mother.
And nor would it be prudent to put her relationship at risk, and thereby cause hurt and upset to her child.
And two people can be friends if they have differing moral compasses, as long as they bother accept these differences.
If you get on well (apart from this issue), perhaps you could look to maintaining your friendship.

Let us know how it goes!