To be upset that my friend just cheated on her husband while he is in hospital?

your posts are perfectly reasonable milkchoc. I am more judgemental than you though, I could not stay friends with someone who behaved like that.

slag is the term for the behaviour described, and I would also apply it to a man who cheated on his hospitalised wife.
this is not a person exercising their sexual freedom, this is a person who has no respect for their child.

what is it with slag/sl*g? it's such a crude, revolting term for one woman to use about another...

motherinferior - i agree wholeheartedly

Blimey if my mum had cheated on my Dad everytime he was hospitalised, she wouldn't have had a bed left for him to sleep on when he came out of hospital . I suppose you can either say she realises how precious life is and wants to make the most of it or she's just an opportunist sl*g. Would you feel less shocked if she'd not told you? IYSWIM?

Sorry, that last post was probably OTT, but honestly I think it isn't your business.

And I still feel like telling you all stuff for you to throw brickbats at me about.

Go and offer her husband a consoling blowjob if you're so worried about his welfare.

Oh for heaven's sake, she's probably just winding you up. I feel inclined to regale you with all the appalling things I've done once upon a time, just to get you lot gossipping and condemning me.

Has anyone thought that maybe she might be reacting to the stress of her hubby been ill?

Onbviously its a bizarre way to react and not one I would condone in a second, but people are very irrational at times when under stress, pressure?????

OMG . Just read the OP and skimmed thread. I really don't know what to say.

Agree that women should NOT be calling other women "slags", that in itself is pretty dire..

It is really up to her what she does, karma does have a way of sneaking up on people and biting them on the butt..
she probably shouldnt be boasting but as her friend please try not to judge, we all make mistakes, i know i do.

Just remember Karma- she will reap what she sows. It is very comforting to repeat that to myself sometimes, I find LOL

When I was having DS1 a fellow patient was having a c section for severe Pre-eclampsia. My BIL worked with her OH and apaprently, whilst she was ill and under the knife, he was bedding a 14 year old then boasting about it!

fast foward 3 years later, her pic in the paper amrrying some bloke that I know to be wonderful and a great find.

Karma Is a Wonderful Thing

tiredemma - thanks

desiderata -yeah, watch it or else!

Well, it's up to you how much you let her behaviour bother you. I think she's trying to provoke a reaction in you (look at all the fun I'm having, could have been you) or at least recruit you as a partner in crime (it's not so bad if someone knows and laughs about it)

It's her marriage, she's old enough to know the risks, if it's been open in the past then her husband may not mind that she gets her jollies with other people, but he may mind a lot that a) it was her ex b) it was while he was in hospital and c) that his child has been involved.

Sometimes being in an open relationship can lead to blurring of the boundaries, and a need to keep flirting to feel sexy. It sounds to me like she's addicted to the rush of having someone attracted to her, whether it be the chemistry with someone new or the excitement of hooking up with the ex for some tried and tested fun. (There's something particularly thrilling about sex with someone you shouldn't even be talking to)

And it IS all for attention, which is a bit tragic really. You'd think having a child would sober most silly types like that up and make them realise they have too much to lose.

sounds to me like half the fun is telling you about it... she's seriously weird, i think. let her get on with it, don't give her any attention, i think that's actually what she wants tbh. like a naughty girl... [yawn]

Not on my moral radar either. Up to you whether you continue the friendship - I'd have a pretty hard time maintaining a relationship with a person like this (though of course I know nothing about the other aspects of her character).

She must surely know that her 3 year old is going to say something. My ds is a shade younger, and I know that when Daddy got home from hospital, he'd have the low-down before his feet got through the door.

Lots of issues in that - woman as either virginal madonna or whore etc Also I suppose they had an open relationship how would you know if that had changed?

Silly her on all kinds of grounds never mind telling you which wasn't very sensible either. The statistics for people cheating are horrendous. Just forget about it. It's her business, not yours.

TM- I apoligise if I offended you with the word.

milk cho, jus for the record, i ont thin you ar judging. it is the use of the word 'slag' i have taken exception to. i know its a complete tangent from your thread, and apologise for that, but i rally dont like to see that sort of thing and not say how i feel about it.