To be annoyed at my DM still treating me like a teenager?

Mind you, Artful as a mum I'm exactly the same. Move that from there or you might fall over and crash into the wall and crack your head etc ect. Roll your sleaves up when you're cooking. My dds like "Mum I'm sure you think I'm stupid". I'll hold my hands up I'm just total safety freak
What's known as the fear I.guess.

purpleme12 that’s awful and I know not every mother is overly concerned, but just horrible bullies.

Aww I think it’s really sweet. My wee mil used to say, “your children never stop being your children”. She also used to tell my DH, then partner, that as long as he was paying house keeping he was still living at home (Irish Catholic mammy) He paid house keeping for two years, while living in my flat. It only stopped when we bought a house. 😁

My mother was a wanker, so I probably have a different take on it.

Thank goodness for Mumsnet or I’d be swimming across the Irish Sea, every time my middle child sneezed. 😳 Mind you, I still think he’s far too young to be in charge of his own team. He’s 25. 🤣

Yes my mum's like this too. But I find it really disrespectful. Like she doesn't see me as a person.

Once when my child was a toddler and we were going out she said does she have a coat. I said no (she had a cardi which I knew would be fine) she punished me like I was a child! She said right well you're not coming in the car then! (I don't drive, we were going on a family day out and I was going in their car) all because I didn't listen to her what she thought was best for my daughter! Our relationship isn't great. And I'm not doing things she does with my daughter

We moved last year and now have a front garden my mum keeps telling me the neighbours are going to fall out with me because I'm mot cutting the grass enough every time I see her she asks if I've cut the grass, I'm 44!

Oh yes, I know what you mean. My mum is well into mumsplaining, drives me mad! I've been living away for 13 years, I'm in my 30s, I'm a mum myself and yet when she's around she makes me feel like I'm 12 again!

my grandma told me she was looking forward to us all staying in the same place on Christmas Day so that she could "watch me open my parcels". Well, why not? It's nice watching people open their parcels whatever age they are.

Remember that we've got to know our children through 18 years, or over 6500 days, of pretty daily contact of several hours a day. And that since then we've seen them for perhaps 6-12 days a year. Is it any surprise that we think of our DC as they were as children and teenagers? We know their adult selves less than their friends do.

Come to think of it, my dad is a bit the same. Not as much as attributing a personality type to me, but he seems to think he’s the only adult in a situation.

As an example, I bought a new car recently. Well known, reliable brand. When he found out, he told me I shouldn’t buy X brand, I should buy Y because that what he’s always had and they’re great. I said that was nice, but I wanted X and was happy with it. Then he kind of tutted saying I should learn to take advice

I find it best just to turn it back on him. I said “Dad, when you were my age, you had 3 kids and your own business. Did you ask your dad’s permission to change your car?” I like to think it made him think a little, but maybe not!

My mother is like that. If she’s visiting, she’ll tell me ahead of time not to “spend hours trying to get the house clean”

She also seems to think I’m still 12. If she sees anything with glitter or feathers, she’ll remark that it’s like something I’d wear. I went through a typical Claire’s phase in my tweenage years.

I’m 36 now, and don’t wear pink boas.

And aunts too. My aunt tells everyone I'm like a child. I'm 51!

My MIL does this to me all the time.

I didn't meet her (or DH) until I was in my 30s, so she's ascribed me random traits that belong to her own children eg. I always lose things. Drives me insane when she slowly explains things to me like I'm a little bit stupid - and it's not even something I do anyway!

If I'm out with my mum and my child, if she pops to the toilet or something she will ask if I'm going to be okay watching my son...

I once listened to my FIL telling DH how to fill up and boil our kettle. Big standard kettle. That we've had for years.

'hold it right under the tap now or some of the water will escape. Slowly does it. Make sure you go above that line there, it's the least you can boil...'

Don't know how DH didn't accidentally spray him with the cold water. God knows how he thinks we boil the kettle (or look after the kids!) normally.

Hit puberty, not got!

My parents assigned us labels/ rolls before we got puberty and stopped noticing anything that contradicted the boxes they'd put is in after age 11 I suspect... Sometimes they mix us up and insist that we did such and such with good friend xyz when that was a sibling...

It is annoying not to be seen or known by some of the people who claim to know you best, and I hope I won't do it, but who knows. I guess it's hard to see your parents clearly as individuals, the way you would if you'd only met them as an adult too. Too close for comfort.

Yep, my Mum is the same.

DD1 (aged 11) has just gone abroad with Guides and a week ago we were talking about the trip and my Mum says to her "Has Mummy checked that your Passport is in date?".... No, of course she hasn't you cretin. We were just hoping they'd let her over the border with her Library card. FFS, I'm 38!

My mother still wants to know exactly when I’m away and where I’m going - even for work trips. She gets annoyed if she doesn’t know, and I’m supposed to phone the instant I get back. It drives me mad. I left home 25 years ago and have my own house/family/life.

I'm 37 (and moved out at 18) my mum still tells me to be careful if I'm using a sharp knife and on occasions tries to hold my hand as we cross the road 😂

My late DM was exactly like this. I left home just before I turned 19,and throughout my 20s,30s and 40s,she continued to talk to me and about me as if I was a 13 year old teenager. She would frequently make remarks about me getting up late. Yes when I was a teenager I did,but as a 25 year old married mum with 5 year old DD to get to school,I was hardly going to be laying in bed until midday. It was the same regarding tidyness. I admit that up until I was 15 or 16,I was very untidy. Then,something happened in my brain (I don't know what!) and I literally grew out of it overnight. But right up until shortly before she died,she was berating me for my so called untidyness. I can honestly say that for last 20 years of her life,I was tidier than she was!

No, you are not alone. It is a Dad thing too. Messy bedrooms from over 30 years ago are harked back to as if they are last week

Yes, my mum is the same I’m afraid! Sends me crackers

My Mum does slip into this on occasion. She loves to do mock horror at tidiness. Which has got very old.

PIL are the absolute worst with their children which has extended to their children's spouses and their grandchildren.
We're renovating a house and FIL is forever telling us we'll have an eye out, finger off, be electrocuted or fall off a ladder 🙄

My mil does this, she seems to think we still live in the same conditions we did when we lived in student houses. She Skype us on Xmas day and was horrified there was wrapping paper all over the floor and reminded us we needed to clear it up before family came round boxing day. As if we hadn't noticed it and was just going yo leave it there!

My mum also loves to offer to look up my train times for me when I come to visit and remind me that I need to buy a ticket!

Mines the same.

When I went to put makeup on... "if you come down looking like a clown, we're not going until you've scrubbed it off!" I'm 42. I've never looked like a clown.

When I bought a moped... "I need to have a serious conversation with you about the fact you need to wear a helmet." Again, 42. If I don't want to wear a helmet, that's my call (I will)

It's a family joke.