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To be annoyed when my friends children butt in on our conversations..........

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FLIER · 12/06/2007 12:51

..........and for them not be told to wait while adults speak?.....so I get ignored....and we never seem to finish a conversation.....It happens all the time.
and its really pissing me off now.

Please tell me its not just me.

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ChasingSquirrels · 12/06/2007 20:00

like the holding up hand/finger thing, going to introduce that - see how dh likes it

Nymphadora · 12/06/2007 19:51

I hold my hand up to the kid to stop them unless they are joining in.dd1 has started signing at me though and its usually 'I want a drink'

UnquietDad · 12/06/2007 17:06

Doesn't work for all conversations, of course!

kittywits · 12/06/2007 16:24

too right

Greensleeves · 12/06/2007 16:18

Absolutely. What they want is a good thrashing every Saturday, whether they deserve it or not

kittywits · 12/06/2007 16:15

Can't stand it when kids are allowed to interupt, it's bad manners both from the parents and the kids. These kids are probably over indulged in all sorts of areas.

Twiglett · 12/06/2007 16:13

Compared with

"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - - the POSTWOMAN!! Would you believe it? Of course, Dave was livid, etc etc."

Now darling what was it?

UnquietDad · 12/06/2007 16:07

If they want something, there are ways of doing it without breaking the flow of a juicy adult conversation, though.

Compare:
"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - - - What? What IS it, darling? Well, where did you last SEE it? Well, how did you manage to lose it?" etc.

with:

"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - (try your bedroom, darling) - the POSTWOMAN!! Would you believe it? Of course, Dave was livid, etc etc."

ChasingSquirrels · 12/06/2007 14:30

having now read the thread, I agree it's not just children, dh starts to talk to me when ds is speaking, I say to him "Just a minute, ds is talking to me".

katwith3kittens · 12/06/2007 14:23

Oh I hate it. Its terribly bad manners and it reflects badly on the parents.

But my kids do it ... and they have been told not to zillions of times.

HonoriaGlossop · 12/06/2007 14:22

I see my four year old ds waiting patiently every morning to talk to his teacher, who is always talking to other teachers or parents; he waits and waits and when she finishes she sometimes looks down at him and he starts talking, only for her attention to immediately be taken by another adult. i find that really rude.

I also find it rude when we visit certain relatives who will do a duty one or two sentences of conversation with ds then expect him to not talk for the rest of the time so that they can go on about work or their last cruise

I'm not offended by kids interrupting really....a much older kid I suppose would annoy me but I haven't come across one who does!

ChasingSquirrels · 12/06/2007 14:18

ds and friends do it all the time, and i tell them that mummy (or friend, or daddy, or grandma etc) is speaking and to wait. ds is getting pretty good at it, his friends look at me like i have 2 heads (i am probably the only person who says it to them). he is 4y8m. i don't expect him to remember yet really, but he does occasionally. I am telling him to wait for a brief lull, say "mummy" (or whoever) then wait for acknowledgement before speaking (which is either "yes ds" or "xyz is just talking, wait a minute").

niceglasses · 12/06/2007 14:15

ooo must be feeling vulnerable-crap muffer today. Youngest just come in with hands covered in red paint. Having bad day and promised myself would not drink today.....................

Must say it doesn't really irritate me when other kids butt in so maybe thats why I vary with mine (which is worse than being consistent I know).

theressomethingaboutmarie · 12/06/2007 14:11

My SIL's kids do this frequently and she always turns her attention to them straight away. It wouldn't be so bad if they weren't all in their mid-20's.....

oliveoil · 12/06/2007 14:10

I normally screech "oh can ANYBODY have a decent conversation in this house!!!!!!!!!"

and go and retrive polly pocket's skirt from under the fridge or whatever

FioFio · 12/06/2007 14:08

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handlemecarefully · 12/06/2007 14:04
Grin
oliveoil · 12/06/2007 14:03

shut it HMC

(yes in August)

handlemecarefully · 12/06/2007 14:03

Nearly 3 though isn't she OO?

oliveoil · 12/06/2007 14:01

it is not on my list of worries tbh

mine are 4 and 2

you try getting a 2 year old to shut up, you are a better person than me

Twiglett · 12/06/2007 14:01

yes they do

mwahhahahahahahhaaa

FioFio · 12/06/2007 14:00

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niceglasses · 12/06/2007 13:59

Oh God, am bad mother again. I sometimes let mine interrupt, sometimes not, depending on lots of variables. I never took it as the ultimate sign of bad/good manners. Wrong again.

PrettyCandles · 12/06/2007 13:58

Absolutely. After all, we're doing it to make a point, not to exert control over them.

imaginaryfriend · 12/06/2007 13:58

Twiglett, my friend's dd can spend a whole conversation saying 'excuse me mummy excuse me mummy' over and over like a robot, then when you finally turn to her to ask her what she wanted to say she's almost always forgotten!

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