To be annoyed when SIL encoraged her DS to pee on my garden?

WHy would a 2 year old weeing on your lawn bother you? It's a bit of wee from your nephew joining the rest of nature that makes up the outside world....

It would bother me enormously too. In fact, I have a friend whose son is 5 and when we are out together, he often needs "tree wees" as they call them. Now, fair enough if we are far from the toilet, but he has done it in the middle of a playground with toilets right nearby and I have seen him wee against the the car tires right outside her house rather than go in! OK at 2 or 3 maybe, but not 5.

On a seperate note, my ds2 just potty trained this past week and we are out and about onFriday in a wetlands centre. He would NOT wee in the grass even when I encouraged him too as he asked for a wee and there were no toilets nearby. He held it instead!

i haven't read everything and this usually means I come out with some total non sequiter and kill the thread but:

don't like it, and wouldn't encourage it when there's a potty available because it could result in the child thinking creatively about where to loo INSIDE as well.

Since there was a potty available, it would have defo been POLITE of her to encourage her son to use it in your garden really. In emergencies, whatever, he's two. but i'm sure that's not your issue either.

when i lived in EEurope, the men weed outside with disturbing regularity!!! a practice which was NOT attractive. of course, this is different but best not to really go there me thinks.

I think wee is supposed to be good for compost.

There was a stage with DS when he would have got the grass wet either way, and we were just happy if he remembered to remove his pants.

Anyway, if it upsets you just say - your house, your hospitality, your rules.

Yes weeing in bushes fear is a real PITA so I often encourage this activity, just not generally on friends' lawn.

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my friend dd is potty trained before my ds. She tells me that pee is good for my flowers, so tips it there. Is this true?
Or is she being too lazy to tip it down loo?
i did just believe her without question, at the time

when potty training my son and using a potty he would only wee in that potty...he would not use any other potty..at friends, playgroup etc, which made progress very slow so we had to let him know that when you need to go you pee in any potty, toilet or bush....i didn't want any anxiety about holding on, so my son wees on the grass in my beautiful garden...it doesn't scorch the grass so i have no problem with it.... though when they are completely trained i would think its lazyness not using the toilet and after a certain age i would think its inappropriate.....

And agree with greensleeves - your grass is covered in urine and excrement of thousands of creatures, from foxes to birds and insects. A bit of baby wee isn't going to change much.

I wouldn't mind. Am genuinely astonished that it would bother anyone so much. If you don't like it, that's OK, but you have to tell her. She's not a mind reader.

you'll find your garden is in fact socked in piddle and poo from at least 30 different species of creature anyway - it's just a function of the planet we live on I'm afraid

I couldn't give a monkeys about a bit of baby wee in the garden. Come to think of it, I don't bat an eyelid when friends' children (or my children) piddle on my carpets either. Kiddy wee just isn't all that noxious to me for some reason.

If it bothers you though, your SIL should respect it, as long as you've made it clear to her that you object. If you haven't...well, lots of people don't mind little kids weeing outside, it's not something she would necessarily assume.

Say something or move on.
He'll be fully toilet trained in a few weeks anyway, so the problem will resolve itself.
He's not going to be piddling on Aunty's grass when he's 15 is he?
It's really, really not worth risking ill feeling over, and certainly not worth avoiding them.

Agree with filly. I think it would only bother me atm as am pg (CMV issue) and otherwise not particularly (not in a 2yo - it would in an older child, though), but if I didn't like it I would politely but clearly say something.

Why three times if the first time bothered you? If it made you that cross why didn't you say something?

snuggle, you are clearly and that is what matters

so SAY something. either to her or to ds eg "no SIL's DS in this house we at least try to wee in the potty"

or make up some tale about wee and your lawn, dunno WHAT

nah don't hold with potty training, really

they just get on with it in their own time, IME

They are only 2 I mean!

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. They are only ffs! I couldn't care less if kids wee in my garden. What's the problem with it?

completely agree 4sonsmum, Why is she teaching her child this type of behaviour? - at the end of the day I know potty training is hard, of course there are accidents etc.. Would completely understand if you were out walking or picnicing somewhere with no quick access to a toilet - by all means! but for Gods sake! - a potty nearby and a toilet inside - whats this going to teach him? why bother training him if hes just going to "go" anywhere at all? - I thought the point was to teach children to use the toilet

well i would have an urge to get my flip flops on!I know there is cat and dog wee probs already there - but no thanks!

A child doing this wouldn't bother me (when we stayed in the yurt we were asked to wee on the grass- ladies too- as the compost toilet needed to stay dryish or something). Agree that if it bothers you enough to make you fume you have to say something (when it then becomes unreasonable of her to do it).