Okay - so i am being precious, but someone just took my baby name! Gah!

Well, I have a name chosen for the uterine occupant, and although there will inevitably be a fair few of that particular name about, there's not likely to be many with the same spelling

You stick to your choice m'dear, and revel in your hormones

Agnes

yes you are being unreasonable but at least you realise it.

Go ahead and use the name anyway. We had chosen a name for dd2 - never told anyone - but an acquaintance went on to have a little girl and named her exactly the name - first and middle - we had chosen. We kept the first name as it was what we really liked and just changed her middle name.

My ex and I had been talking babies and names. He left me after having an affair with my married best friend. They ended up together and had a baby - named their dd the name ex and I had chosen for our dd! Felt very strange but no problem - the name is sooo popular now and I can't imagine anyone of my 3 dds called that now.

It is a very popular name, but very lovely all the same.

My stepsister and I were both expecting babies close together (hers is 7 weeks older) and were considering the same girl's name. But I learned I was expecting a boy and Hannah had a son too (fortunately she didn't use the name I planned once I learned)

When i was pg with ds2 (didn't know it was a ds) I told everyone i knew that if the baby was a girl i would call her Megan.

MIL gets herself a mangy old dog and calls it?? Yep bloody Megan!! Told her i was bit annoyed and very upset as i was planning to call our baby Megan if it was a girl. She graciously said if i wanted to to she wouldn't mind if we copied her. WTF???

Thank god we had ds2 eh? Now have 2 dd's and didn't call them Megan,went right off the name for some reason lol

Quint - it was a very bohemian delivery ward, don't y'know....

We had ours copied after DS was born. Another member of our antenatal class was actually going to call their DS one thing but changed their mind at the last minute when they heard what we had called DS! Now that is weird. And what I (and my other friends in the group) find weirder is that they actually admitted to us they had copied us! They could have played innocent as it's not a really unusual name. Odd! It's a pain though now though as if her boy is being told off my poor mite thinks he's in trouble and looks bemused!

wow - lovecat's such an unusual name

Oh, and I was one of twelve Lovecats in my class at school - there were 3 of us alone in the delivery room, born on the same day!

Aargh - I feel your pain - my psycho ex-SIL and I had a conversation many years ago about girl's names and I said how much I liked Freya and Eden and I would call my little girl one of them if I ever had one.

3 years down the line, she has an affair, leaves BIL, has other man's baby and names it... Freya Eden.

Still, by the time I got round to having dd I'd gone off Freya completely, so I didn't care by then, but at the time - ooh, I was livid!!

Haven't read through all the replies, so sorry if I repeat...
I feel for you, but if its something pretty common there isn't much you can do but smile sweetly and bear it - you will have to deal with the fact there are other children with the same name at school eventually anyway if its not unusual (I( I rememebr there were 2 Noahs and 2 Ellas in my mum and toddler group!!). If you love the name, stick with it, though. x

Ds is a Tom, not a Thomas. But I really hadn't realised quite how popular it was. Hey ho. The only boys name we could agree on and it really really suits him. Just Tom.

oh, I just remembered, the same friend had her DD's name copied, first and middle name by some one she went to school with.

One of my best friends is pregnant. I already know that if it is a girl she will have same name as DD because hers is the only name her husband will contemplate. I think it's quite sweet (Baby is also due on DS1's birthday - geez, she's such a copycat )

raspberries to easy labour but not early... as a mum of a little one 5 weeks early i know all too well the impact that even a few weeks early can have. It's not as if Thomas is an uncommon name , my best friend called her little boy this last week, just go for it anyway! he was never going to be the only Thomas and I wouldn't be surprised if when he starts school there will be a couple in his class - my dd has a very popular name and it's nice when we hear other little ones with the same name when we're out.

LOL

You are not half as bonkers as someone I know, who fell out with a formerly good friend because she took "her" baby's name.

The irony being, that said bonkers friend is now 41 and single, and has not yet had children, and is looking increasingly unlikely to. Meanwhile, former friend's child is 10 years old and friend hasn't seen him since he was a baby.

You are so sane. Congratulate yourself!

Can't remember the last time we all met up by the way.

There were three Scarlett's in my ante-natal group.

I had the same thing happen to me but we went ahead and we lost contact with the other family about a year later.

Go with the name you like and don;t worry about it.

One of the names I was very keen on for dd - a friend of a friend announced at a party we were both at that she was planning to call her baby that if it was a girl...and it was (and born a few months before my dd). I know I could still have used it but somewhat irrationally I didn't want people to think we were copying her....

If dd had been a boy we had chosen her first and middle names - when ds1 arrived we used the same names but the middle as the first and vice versa because it went better with dds names that way..... a friend of mine had already called her ds the same first name. I honestly couldn't think of another name I liked better, dh pointed out that the friend had moved abroad so we would hardly ever see her (in fact we have totally lost touch now..) so we decided to stick with our choice (though I'm sure my friend did think we were copying her!)

A fried of mine and her sil had chosen the same (unusual) boys name for thier babies ,when they were pregnant at the same time. It was a race to get the babies out to claim the name!

I have two much married much older brothers - and a lot of names that I liked were ruled out because they were the names of their ex wives/girlfriends!

Difficult not to get slightly upset about it, esp with pregnancy hormones buzzing!!

We struggled sooo much with names when I was pg, I liked one but DH wasn't too keen, so we settled on a few potential. Loads of friends were pg at the same time, and these names I liked got used up! One girl had a first and middle name of which were two of my shortlist names.

DH then said I could choose, so I picked the one I'd liked in the first place, and couldn't imagine her being anything different!

With this friend only being somebody you know through antenatal club, it wont be an issue to have the same name - my situation was slightly different as they were long term friends!!

I think you will probably need to move to another town, you know. Clearly that's the only way to get over it. Where there will be no Thomases at all, of course.