DTs came home from PILs today with NAIL VARNISH on...

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Morningpaper - do you really? I think that is lovely but I wouldn't dare try. I just reply to all the letters to the fairies that DD2 leaves under the pillow.

inamuckingfuddle - completely understand why you reacted that way, and agree wholeheartedly. Would have been a lot of shouting at PIL and rushing out to buy polish remover if this had happened to me!

Who would have guessed that nail varnish for tinies could polarise people so?

I would have agreed with the OP, but it is quite a fun thing to do, and the point of grandparents is that they let you do things that your parent's don't issn't it? We've generally stuck to tonails, because then we can do silly colours. I wear makeup once in a blue moon, and then pretty much only nail polish, so neither dd or ds have much choice anyway. I thik they enjoy the painting bit most, and it's much less faff than getting out the face painting kit!

I think nail varnish on little kids looks hideous - but each to their own. I certainly won't be encouraging dd to mess around with makeup - when she asks about it we'll cross that bridge. I understand that most of the time its applied as a bit of fun though and not intended to look classy or normal .....

inamuckingfuddle - your post of 19.21 mentioned a girl...

I paint DD's sparkly pink in her sleep

Then it dries neatly and I tell her that the Fairies did it

I hate the thought of my DD (3.5) wearing make up - BUT have relented on having her toe nails done..

We had such fun (and I am not a girly girl)..

She knows that I will not agree to fingernails, but toe nails ok (as can't be seen my anyone but us)...

Was surprised just how excited she was and how much fun it was..

What a nice grandad to do something so attentive as to paint their nails. If you are upset, next time ask him to just do their toes.

I don't think it is a big deal. To stop DD biting her nails we used the nail polish card - a little bit at weekends (Barbie nailpolish peels/wears off in a few hours and comes in very pale colours you can hardly see)if she didn't bite. She'd have been 3 around this time I guess. Worked a treat too She's never been allowed to wear it properly, just as a bit of fun and dress up. If I knew we were going out and about polish went on toes rather than fingers generally.

DD isn't allowed to wear real make up. Just dress up fun bits when playing make believe (princesses, etc.) - this polish stuff and a bit of lip gloss. Not for going out though.

I think you are being too hard on grandad. They were just having a bit of fun. I doubt he meant any harm by it and I would imagine he'd be upset that he has made you so cross.

OK, you don't like it. So tell FIL that you would rather they didn't have nail polish in future.

yesterday i saw a toddler girl with full hair extensions now that is something to worry about, poor little thing it must have taken ages and i bet it hurt, they were all braided in.

ds has no interest in nail varnish or i'd do his like a shot. i did the dog's claws once.

I don't let mine wear it - 4 and 2

mainly because of the STINKING nail varnish remover to get it off

if I could find some childrens stuff maybe

but it looks odd imo

DD came home from PILs with nail varnish on when she was about 2/3 and I felt uncomfortable. Til I realised she wasn't doing it for vanity. Now at 3.5 her and her best friend disappear up to the bedroom, put on princess dresses and plaster themselves in kiddie make-up. Even my husband puts it on her now because all she wants to be is a princess. I on the other hand, rarely wear make-up, always make a hash of it when I try and paint my nails and was admonished by DD for not having any pretty dresses so she doesn't get it from me! Girls will be girls...

Am I the only one wondering whether grandad might be a closet tranny

My dd was always having her nails painted when she was littler. Not so much now she's in school.
And in fact my dad was forever putting it on for her, after she did his of course
Poor man went out one day with a different colour on each of his nails because he's forgotton about it. pmsl
I think it's lovely that her grandad is interacting with her, and what little girl doesn't like nail varish!

Ds2 (4) likes a bit af nail varnish, but I only let him have it on his toes

Oh I agree have never used remover. It just comes of on it's own, especially during the summer, wearing no socks and shoes as mine do around the house.

ime, littlies forget about the nailpolish and it sjust comes of by itself.
i dont like remover either, and have never used it for them. it chips and cracks off, and theri nails grow so quickly its hardly there for any time.

I think it's quite sweet! Maybe he was doing things he thought they would be interested in! Or maybe they just wanted to try it out. DS wants to try my make-up on so I let him.

I think I know where you are coming from though. I think the danger comes, especially with girls, when adults think they look better or prettier with additions like nail varnish and make-up, thus making them feel they should have that kind of thing because they are ugly without it. So then it's not an innocent imitation of adults like so many other things children try, it is actually tying into the early sexualisation of girls and the societal pressures faced by women about their appearance.

well i didnt know wehether they were girls or boys. it makes no difference at age 3

your fil is painting the nails himself instead of telling them to go to gm as he cant do it because he is a man. that would be gender stereotyping. he isnt. thats what i am saying. so it is good that he isnt.

Not read the whole thread but both of mine DD and DS wear nail varnish and have done since they were probably about 18 months. Infact DS and DD are currently sporting a fetching gold on their toes BTW DD is 6 and DS is 3.

Ds2 was a big fan of painted nails from 3-5.Given up now he's 7 though.Ds1 was never interested.Ds3 hasn't asked yet,he's 3.
Don't sweat the small stuff,you're going to have teenaged twin daughters one day,save your energy for then.