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in thinking my DP has complete double standards and he has no balls??

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kittylette · 05/06/2007 09:41

As you can see Im very

He has complete double standards when it comes to my mum and his.

He is a mummys boy and wont say 'boo' to her

My mum borrowed £20 and said she would give it back thursday - he was ranting over this.

But his mum borrowed £300(!!) of our wedding money about 5 months ago and hasn't given it back!!

I TXTd her and asked for it backa nd she said shes into her overdraft and owes her own mum money so cant give it us!!

She also promised us £500 which we arent getting it seems.

So the wedding has been cancelled till next year.

I TXTd her to tell her the weddding is cancelled (and mentioned it was because we haven't got all the money we had hoped to) and she repilies ..

'really? ok - can i come pick the boys up tomorrow'

no sorry i cnat give you your money back ect...

and of course DP doesnt say a word, if it were my mum e would be fuming and calling her allsorts!

like its acceptable!!

I dont care anyway, were gonna do it ourselves without her help.

but i still want my fecking £300 back!

What kind of mum borrows £300 from her soses to give it back?

rant over!! lol

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kittylette · 05/06/2007 09:49

she owed us £800 in total

we probably could do it on a shoe string in november, but the stress is just too much!

id rather take my time and wait till june.

am really pissed off with DP today though!

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kittylette · 05/06/2007 09:47

Im trying to stay positive and am thinking it would probably have been raining in november and this way ill have a lovely summer wedding!

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Carmenere · 05/06/2007 09:46

KItty postponing the wedding is a very sensible thing to do. If you are worried about a £500 contribution from your mil you simply haven't got enough money yet to have the type of wedding you want. Reorganise it for next year, save like bastards and you tell her that you need the money by a specific date to cover a specific thing. That way she will know that if she doesn't stump up you won't have any flowers or a cake or something exact. ie make her responsible for paying one particular thing.
And yes your dp is being a wuss

Lolly68 · 05/06/2007 09:45

Boys and their mothers... I have the exact same with my DP so no you are not being unreasonable!!

kittylette · 05/06/2007 09:43

sorry last line was supposed to be ..

what kind of mum borrows £300 from her sons wedding fund and doesnt give it back?

oh and just to compare, DP earns about £160 a week

shes doing a months teaching supply work at the moment and is on £120 a day !!

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