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to be furious that DP and DS got driven out of a baby changing room by a group of rude obnoxious women?

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bewilderbeast · 02/06/2007 16:32

Just spoken to DP he had taken DH into town for the day to buy me a birthday present and let me get on with the DIY at home in peace. He took DS into the boots baby changing room (note baby changing room not mother and baby room). There was a queue for the three changing mats. Apparently they were all having a laugh and chat when he walked in but went silent as soon as they saw him and kept staring unkindly at him and ds. Eventually he said "come on ds we're obviously not welcome here" and left to take ds somewhere else to change him. I am fking furious. why can't people accept that its nice that fathers take an active roll in their kids lives rather than being suspicious of their motives. I am so angry right now. Do we need dad and baby changing rooms and mother and baby changing rooms? Why can't we all just get on and accept other people. It was their first trip out together alone and I am so sad for him that he was made to feel like this and his day was spoilt by these nasty bit*hes. sorry its a bit of a long rant

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meto · 02/06/2007 18:01

(btw I also smiled at the man before i'm accused of being mean to him - I didn't mean mean to him ment mean to DH! lol)

Nightynight · 02/06/2007 18:01

that wasnt very nice. wish I had been there to have a rant about it being a PARENT and child room!

meto · 02/06/2007 18:00

how mean were they??

when DH and I took DS into mothercare's area there was a dad feeding his LO - my exact words to DH were see other men feed their children!

end of the day we're all parents together arn't we?

bagpuss · 02/06/2007 17:59

TBH I am surprised at this. I remember when ds2 was very new and needed changing while we were at John Lewis. While I was changing him a new dad came in with his baby and started using the mat next to ours. It would never have occurred to me to think it at all odd that he was using the room. Having said that he was just about the only man I have ever seen using these facilities which I think is a shame. The women your dp encountered were IMO very odd to behave like that. I feel very for your dp.

MamaG · 02/06/2007 17:54

Silly bitches. I bet they maon that their DPs don't help out much

bewilderbeast · 02/06/2007 17:49

apparently he stuck it out for 5 minutes before walking out.

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bewilderbeast · 02/06/2007 16:41

he wasn't being paranoid, he will usually stick out just about anything but apparently they weren't jsut quiet they were all staring at him and glareing. Now usually in my experience when people go quiet when you walk in a room they don;t stare at you they looka away. It was the stareing in an unfriendly manner that made him leave

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compo · 02/06/2007 16:39

Could it have been he was being a bit paranoid though?
Maybe he felt self conscious.
Sometimes when someone new coes into a room people do stop talking... it doesn't necessarily have to be malicious.

MrsBigD · 02/06/2007 16:38

oh your poor dh That's just so sad. DH so far has had not negative experience in changing rooms however he generally changes ds wherever i.e. park bench, park green etc. . The only time I could semi-understand women haunting a man out of the baby changing room is when, like in one M&S it's also set up with comfy chairs for feeding baby. Still no reason to be hostile though. Hope his next outing will be better and that your birthday otherwise went well

Pixiefish · 02/06/2007 16:37

Poor dh. So sorry this has happened to him

Desiderata · 02/06/2007 16:37

YANBU.

I'd feel the same as you.

And no doubt they bang on about womens' rights at every available opportunity, without extending the same rights to men!

kittypants · 02/06/2007 16:37

thats horrible,your poor dp!

fireflyfairy2 · 02/06/2007 16:36

The world is being over run by hysterical women who view all men as potential peadophiles.

I feel sorry for all the men who try to do this I remember a mother glaring as dh changed dd's nappy in a Mothercare changing room.. I was knackered, I sat in the chair & rested whilst she glared at dh

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