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to be furious that DP and DS got driven out of a baby changing room by a group of rude obnoxious women?

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bewilderbeast · 02/06/2007 16:32

Just spoken to DP he had taken DH into town for the day to buy me a birthday present and let me get on with the DIY at home in peace. He took DS into the boots baby changing room (note baby changing room not mother and baby room). There was a queue for the three changing mats. Apparently they were all having a laugh and chat when he walked in but went silent as soon as they saw him and kept staring unkindly at him and ds. Eventually he said "come on ds we're obviously not welcome here" and left to take ds somewhere else to change him. I am fking furious. why can't people accept that its nice that fathers take an active roll in their kids lives rather than being suspicious of their motives. I am so angry right now. Do we need dad and baby changing rooms and mother and baby changing rooms? Why can't we all just get on and accept other people. It was their first trip out together alone and I am so sad for him that he was made to feel like this and his day was spoilt by these nasty bit*hes. sorry its a bit of a long rant

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bookwormmum · 04/06/2007 21:54

I used to avoid M & B rooms as I felt intimdated by the inhabitants already in there. I used to take my Mum shopping with me in case I needed to change DD so she could protect me /help clean up the mats first as I felt quite vulnerable when she was very new and I still wasn't back to my full strength. FWIW, a lot of the M & B rooms I encountered were so manky, I preferred to change my dd in her pram and then ditch the nappy in a public bin rather than run the gauntlet of the stares.

Kevlarhead · 04/06/2007 21:47

Of course you're being unreasonable.

A man with a child is probably a paedophile. Real fathers impregnate their wives, then piss off back to a 60hr week at the office until they retire. Haven't you read the Daily Mail recently?

TnOgu · 03/06/2007 17:32

only someone with a real Irish mammy would have been able to do that

It's very funny

I shall show it to her when she's next here for tea and brack

Pan · 03/06/2007 17:18

oooh you clever thing!

TnOgu · 03/06/2007 16:51
TnOgu · 03/06/2007 16:51

see she speaketh sense

She is 'The Sage' of the village

TnOgu · 03/06/2007 16:50

LOL!

OMG!

I'm feckin quaking in me boots now

TnOgsmammy · 03/06/2007 16:45

What, ya eejits!! You spend a glorious God-given day to talking all of this sh*te when you could be out in ya gardens with a nice cup of tea.

Well I'll sort you out.

  1. Man in question - build a bridge and get over it. We women have to put up with all sorts of shoite from you men, like odd looks and whispers and insults, so toughen up ya big mard arse..one or two look at you funny and you stomp off in a huff and your wifey bores the rest of the world about it...o for feck sake!!

  2. You lot. Get back to your little ones and making lots of nice cakes to go with the tea.

and TnOg......I've been reading your posts..your mammy knows everything...I'll call you tonight. Be in.

handlemecarefully · 03/06/2007 16:35

Please do TnOgu - I'm curious to see what she'd say

TnOgu · 03/06/2007 16:19

is this still being discussed?

right, I'm off to get my mother to sort this out

Pan · 03/06/2007 16:09

and, juuust incase anyone queries..I was kidding too...........no,really.

NineUnlikelyTales · 03/06/2007 16:04

Oh Aitch I was only being silly, as if I would mean it!

beckybrastraps · 03/06/2007 15:50

Now I can see that raising a few eyebrows Pan!

Yes, it is harder for poor dh now that our two are out of nappies. Taking them into the gents for a wee just isn't the same.

Pan · 03/06/2007 15:47

Oh he is sooo right becky.....such a babe magnet factor...dd is 7 y.o. and is heartily sick of me shoving BIG nappies on her, so I can be admired, and perhaps even cop off...I am so ruthless!!

beckybrastraps · 03/06/2007 15:45

DH would be so busy being a demonstrative dad that he wouldn't notice. He just assumes all women are charmed by the sight of a man who is comfortable around nappies

unknownrebelbang · 03/06/2007 15:44

DH would never have left - he'd have smiled sweetly at them and carried on.

ProfYaffle · 03/06/2007 15:43

I asked my dh how he'd feel about being stared at by women in a baby changing room. He said he'd assume they fancied him and it wouldn't occur to him to leave

handlemecarefully · 03/06/2007 15:42

Sorry but I am a bit about all of this. None of these women actually said anything to your dh. Think he may have misinterpreted what was going on.

unknownrebelbang · 03/06/2007 15:42

pml Pan.

unknownrebelbang · 03/06/2007 15:42

Oh, I agree he allowed himself to be "driven out", but I can still imagine a group of women glaring at him and making him uncomfortable. (I can also imagine him feeling uncomfortable, like I said, I wasn't there.)

Pan · 03/06/2007 15:40

sock-minded...means you are in two minds, but they are both fluffy and a bit wooley.

Aitch · 03/06/2007 15:38

but even if it is a culture shock, why would they glower at him and 'drive him out'? i really don't understand. what area of the country is it anyway? i live in scotland, large parts of here think it's still 1975, but that wouldn't stop dh from changing dd's nappy if she needed it...

unknownrebelbang · 03/06/2007 15:32

I can see how likely it might be.

I don't think they necessarily thought he was a paedophile, (and no, it's not what springs to mind) but there are still some areas where it would be quite a culture shock for a bloke to change a nappy (yes, even in the 21st century).

And erm, sock-minded???

TnOgu · 03/06/2007 15:31
Grin
Quootiepie · 03/06/2007 15:30

no, I did, I didn't say sock Read wrong post.