Why are some families so loud!!

So what do the noisy lot do when they go to the library?

Urgh can’t stand noisy families. Bad manners.

I read the OP to mean unhealthy children - fed rubbish and no healthy stuff, no discipline, dragged up rather than brought up. Left to do what they want or ignore their parents hence why they’re like foghorns with everyone grimacing around them.

DH’s family aren’t as bad as this, but still very loud. No need, my ears work perfectly well thank you. The TV volume is fucking unreal. I can’t watch.

I lived in serenity as an only child, but accept I have to share this planet with others if I want to remain living in a functioning society.

“Because they are having fun. You might like to try it sometime. HTH“

What? So you can’t possibly be having fun without screaming at each other?

Because they are having fun. You might like to try it sometime. HTH

You can still have fun and not be loud.

I think it's partly inherent. My mum is very well spoken and not shouty at all but god her voice cuts through walls. My gran was a head teacher and I think my mum inherited The Voice from her. My DD1 seems to have it too, she simply does not realise how loud and carrying her voice is - again she is not shouting exactly, just Very Very Clear. Sorry neighbours. No amount of asking her to be quieter seems to have any impact, nor do sanctions, it's inbuilt. DD2 is not exactly a quiet personality (she is a confident 3 yr old) but she is normal voiced, so by comparison we hardly hear her. Exact same training applied for both...

My kids are very loud

I've seen several posters say this as if it's an irrefutable fact with no possible solution.

They are only loud because you let them be loud.

It's only very basic manners and consideration for other people.

Why don't you teach them to listen to their surroundings and adapt their volume accordingly? Self-awareness helps, alongside awareness of other people and your impact on them.

Don't schools or parents teach 'indoor voice' any more?
Don't you have to be next to or near someone if you want their attention, rather than bawling at the top of your voice from the house to the garden?
If you are in a group and someone else is talking, let them finish before you speak, do not shout over them.

Were all the loud people never taught this as children?

YANBU op, I haaaaate loud, uncouth fuckers like this

hmm... and you are clearly so refined!

Op - what does pasty mean? Is it very white skinned? or overweight?
And why is how they look relevant in terms of body shape or skin colour?

Why are some people so quiet?

I am constantly trying to keep my 4 from shouting because I’m worried about being judged.

Oh to live in a world where families can converse and children sing on their holidays without judgement!

We're probably quite a loud family. DP is partially deaf so naturally kind of shouts when he speaks, I do try to tell him but to him that's just normal volume. I tend to speak reasonably loudly and try to be quite articulate as otherwise he says 'what?' ALL the time. Also we have a nearly one year old who I'm constantly chatting to and playing with, and she giggled and yells 'dadada' a lot. So yeah, we probably are loud. Oops.

Because they are having fun. You might like to try it sometime. HTH.

@nice, can I ask why you speak quietly? Is it deliberate?

I think the world in general has got much louder over the last few decades. So people feel they have to compete with everyone,and everything else,to be heard.

I suspect they catch it off TV presenters, particularly children's presenters. Lauren Layfield! Jockin' Hell! STOP SHOUTING YOU OAF

My kids are very loud. We’re not inconsiderate though and do try our hardest to keep the noise down.
Pasty kids comment is totally unacceptable and seems as though you are attempting stereotyping them. Very nasty to comment on another child’s skin colour.

DH's large family are like this, especially when all the siblings are together- it drives me insane.

A conversation can start out at a normal level, and then things just get louder and louder and LOUDER as people compete to be heard over their brothers and sisters shouting.

I agree with a previous poster that it comes off slightly arrogantly- as if what the loud person has to say is of course so important/amusing/intelligent that obviously it should be easily heard by neighbours in the next street.

My Dad is completely deaf in one ear. He speaks very loud and therefore we learnt to speak loud too.
I’d just like to remind you,
If you can be anything, be kind.

It is a bit common though. Nobody wants to hear a loud booming voice asking their kids what they want for tea ffs.

Maybe they are a little loud, maybe they’re having fun- pasty or not (does complexion matter).
Meanwhile, you’re on your phone- ignoring your family.
I know who’s group I’d rather be holidaying with.....

Try living next door to a family like this. They dont talk, they shout, just make it more interesting, ever second word is a swear word, that includes the kids. The kids are out in the garden shouting and screaming at each other until midnight, when the kids give up and go to bed, the parents start arguing, this goes on until 4am most nights.

I'd welcome only putting up with this for a week or two a year!!

I think it’s arrogance too. It’s rarely people talking about anything other than THEMSELVES and what’s going on in their lives.i recently had to ask someone to please speak a bit more quietly. He was on the phone banging on about how important he was so loudly that we couldn’t hear each other speak on our table because of his noiise from the other side of the cafe.

YANBU.

I'm a very quiet talker. I know because people often tell me me to speak up. I've always told my children to talk quietly when in public. I hate families who shout and yell at each other with no consideration for people around. Especially in restaurants. It's ignorant.

You have my greatest sympathy. Bad enough having to put up with this if at home but on holiday - nightmare. Don't think there is anywhere nowadays where you won't find shouters and screamers. Where I live there isn't a child who doesnt scream when playing. Think the adults are too busy on their phone to notice. I certainly couldn't put up with my kids making that noise. It's all me, me, me. I want, want, want so no one can stop me doing what I want.

lolll

loud uncouth fuckers . Ummmm.

Pandarific - YANBU op, I haaaaate loud, uncouth fuckers like this

Oh the irony .......

You had me until you said “pasty kids”. You now sound like an arse