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Original poster

to be really p****d off at sahm neighbour upstairs who is making me want to clobber her!!

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itbird · 24/05/2007 21:23

try to brief - i have ds(2) and DD(10) i go to work five days a week out of the flat by 7.45am, drop ds at cm and dd at school, i come home and elephant woman sahm sunbathing all afternoon, her kids coming in my garden, her drinking wine all afternoon, on benefits that i pay for, then i have the stomping about and screaming kids til at least 9pm!!!i no longer talk to her as i complained and she turned quite nasty and wanted to argue the toss about it on the doorstep, i could complain to landlord about it, if it gets much worse over the summer i probably will, ok calm now that i have got that off my chest!!

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mishw · 25/05/2007 20:10

even when its been explained several times over? In that case people need to get a grip - sorry.

In the past people have said things on mn that offended me, however when I realised I read them wrong I accepted it and apologised for reading it the wrong way. However some people on here keep going on about the same issue even though its been explained.

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itbird · 25/05/2007 20:08

sorry nappy thought you meant every night x

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babyblue2 · 25/05/2007 20:07

In real life, yes, on mumsnet, no, because it can offend/be misconstrued by a number of people, as demonstrated.

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itbird · 25/05/2007 20:07

Nightowl of course its neighbor nuisance issue, if she had a detached house she could live as she pleases but she is ina 1st floor flat. She was here one evenin when we were friendly and i was helping her set up an emil account, the kids were upstairs, she could not believe the noise from her kids jumping off the sofa, it went quiet for a bit and gradually got worse

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mishw · 25/05/2007 20:05

IT WAS A RANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you never say anything that is irrelevant when you rant?

nappyaddict · 25/05/2007 20:05

yes i am a single mum nightowl. and actually 3 days a week he goes to a childminder so he has to up at 8am. those days i put him to bed at 8pm and he goes down and gets up fine.

babyblue2 · 25/05/2007 20:04

We understand she wasn't slating them all etc, its the fact that she had to mention them when it was unnecessary. She could have just talked about her noisy neighbour, no need to mention her situation, its irrelevant really.

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itbird · 25/05/2007 20:02

Nappy you reap what you sow love - you are going to have so much fun getting him out of bed when he has to go to school, About the thin ceilings - when her mother or ex visit it is so quiet - not a peep.

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mishw · 25/05/2007 19:58

OMG she wasn;t slating all SAHM whether on benefits or not just her own neighbour - are people not allowed to rant anymore.

OK rant over!!!

nightowl · 25/05/2007 19:58

are you a single mum too nappyaddict? (apologies, i cant remember)

nappyaddict · 25/05/2007 19:55

some people actually enjoy staying at home and looking after their kids depsite their being many good jobs and great childcare facilities.

nappyaddict · 25/05/2007 19:54

this woman's children are not yet at school. i think it should be a parents right to stay at home and yes claim benefits if they need to without getting jumped on, at least until all their children are at school.

i keep my ds up til 10pm sometimes, because yes i like a lie in. i think it is up to her when she sends her kids to bed.

also they may not actually be stomping. this year i lived in a ground floor flat and the flat above were always "stomping" around. it wasn't til we went up to complain we realised they were just walking about normally and the ceilings were really thin.

nightowl · 25/05/2007 19:53

ok itbird point taken, but i do get wound up about this because i hated claiming benefit and i was put down and patronised at every turn when i actually wanted to work and was trying to get another job. even a joke like that would have probably made me cry all night.

as for noisy neighbours, yes it must be annoying but heck, dont bring benefits into it! so working parents can't be noisy? of course they can!

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:52

And how do sahm on benefits survive, i received a paltry amount, couldnt survive longterm on benefits, what about all your expenses : car, clothes, decent food, holidays, insurances etc ? How do you do it? i couldnt!

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:48

Calm down nightowl it was said as a joke lol notice at the end. I was on income support for about 18months when dd was a wee baby, could not stand the intrusion, wanting to know everything about your life, found i had no say in anything to with my finances, so i went back to work pdq. If that doesnt bother you then fine, but dont stomp on my damn ceiling!

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nightowl · 25/05/2007 19:43

sorry itbird, not itgirl

nightowl · 25/05/2007 19:43

oh how funny.

you should be glad you pay for these benefits itgirl because one day you may be unfortunate enough to need them.

and then i'll come on and tell you to get a bleeding job.

from someone who has worked ever since leaving school but had to claim benefits twice, after redundancy twice

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:41

But what are the benefits to being a lazy mum?

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:37

Mishw, exactly what it was, a rant. Aplogies to all sahm on benefits - you have the hardest job, one that i could not do! Now go and get a Bleeding job!! (joke)lol

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nightowl · 25/05/2007 19:35

not every mum on benefits is lazy.

not every lazy mum is on benefit.

mishw · 25/05/2007 19:28

itbird if I were you I would ignore the comments. Maybe saying SAHM wasn;t the best idea, however anyone with any sense would see you were having a rant about your neighbour, not at SAHMs in general (as I said I'm a SAHM and you didn;t offend me at all!) the same goes for benefits.

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:28

How lovely that life would be Daffy!! All quiet at the mo, fingers crossed for an elephant stomping free evening!! In fact i might crack open a bottle of something and put me lovely Amy Winehouse on the stereo, it is friday after all, hard week at work, time to relax, no work until wednesday Yippee!!

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DeviousDaffodil · 25/05/2007 19:13

I mean people on here who have never come into contact withthe likes of your neighbour..

DeviousDaffodil · 25/05/2007 19:13

Unfortunately ITbird there are people who probably never come into contact wwith people like your neighbour.
There are a large number of people out there who are happy to collect their benefits and do bugger all day in day out.
They do sit around drinking and fagging it. Why bother getting a job? They have no ambition and are quite happy to spend the rest of their days livivng on handouts whilst their delinquent children roam the streets.
I sit back and await teh Daily Mail reder comments.....

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itbird · 25/05/2007 19:09

Yes really jealous, would love to be at home with my ds ooow for about a fortnight is tops for me. Cant see how it is rude and patronising somehow. Enlighten me, what are the attractions of a sahm on benefits when you have the choice to go and work ? Lots of jobs around this way, lots of part-time work, excellent childcare facilities, the problem is what?

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