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To feel annoyed? ... oh I know i bloody am, just ranting

32 replies

snowleopard · 24/05/2007 20:33

Twas DP's birthday a few weeks ago and DS and I made him a cake - it fell apart a bit and was decorated by DS (pink icing, sweets everywhere, wonky candles etc) but it was actually a very nice cake as well as being heartwarming and lovely etc.

Well cue birthday evening and DP is having his mates round (we had had other bday celebrations earlier and lunch out) - one of them brings his girlfriend and she has made this uber-posh cake which totally outshone my cake. Now I'm not a housewifey cake-proud type at all but it was embarrassing, we were the only two women there and it felt like some kind of village cake contest etc, DP went on and on about how fab her cake was, I seethed and felt upset on behalf of DS (though he was in bed! )

Well tonight he is going out with his mates to a gig, I was invited but felt like a night in. The same woman comes round this evening to get a lift with my DP (her boyfriend is in the band) and they sit in the kitchen and DP starts up again about her FRIGGING CAKE and how it was so amazing and the best cake he's ever tasted, blah blah blah de blah. Lying bastard! Meanwhile I am taking out the bins, doing various chores etc and our friend only turns to me to ask me some polite questions about DS. These friends are a lot younger than us, oh also did I mention this woman is stunningly beautiful and stylish, and I just felt a thousand years old, boring, frumpy, furious with DP, FURIOUS with myself for getting competitive over a CAKE and just basically a complete and utter saddo.

I don't think there's anything going on or anything, I don't not trust DP, but I do think he probably fancies her a bit and was sucking up to her.

Sorry this is so long and blimmin pointless and trivial, just needed a rant, if anyone wants to join me in a glass of red wine I'm off to get it.

OP posts:
snowleopard · 24/05/2007 20:50

Aaaaaaah thank you all so much - feel a lot better.

I've chosen this bottle, I think there'll be enough for us all...

OP posts:
Desiderata · 24/05/2007 20:45

Aw, that can't be nice. You write very well. Despite the fact that you're (understandably) pissed off at the mo, you did make me giggle in places there.

For what it's worth, I think it was presumptuous of her to bake a cake. Did it not occur to her that you would have already made one?

Ah, rant away. I'm just going to top up my red wine.

rowan1971 · 24/05/2007 20:43

I think it was a leetle presumptuous of her to bring her own cake without checking with you first - making the cake is usually wifey's responsibility, is it not?

My DP used to have the most blatant crush on a woman he worked with, although he would have denied it under the most extreme torture (I tried once or twice). Thankfully, she was a lesbian... However, since we've moved away, she's fallen completely off the radar - I've been a bit surprised by how thoroughly he seems to have forgotten about her (without any prompting from me).

Rise above, rise above...

kickassangel · 24/05/2007 20:40

just tried linking to a pic of red wine & can't get blardy new style link to work. AIBU to be annoyed?

ikwym - ALL men suck up to pretty women! they should be stabbed between the eyes.

colditz · 24/05/2007 20:37

Oh I don't blame you, how annoying!

I'd have had him choring his arse off while she was there.

toomuchtodo · 24/05/2007 20:37

I'll pour!!

you have my sympathies, this would drive me nuts too!

just us women feeling a bit insecure and men who are acting like a sad sweet dreamer!

pour away....................

cathcart · 24/05/2007 20:35

we hear you snowleopard! Hope you feel better after that rant