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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

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Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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OkMaybeNot · 14/06/2018 12:57

Tatty you need to spend all your money on a tattoo first.

TattyFrench · 14/06/2018 12:52

Can you put Nutella in Victoria Sponge? I can make Nutella brownies.

Can I have my back account filled up now please? I've been waiting at least 10 minutes.

OkMaybeNot · 14/06/2018 12:49

Why not drop it now, eh?

Yeah, or else.

niugboo · 14/06/2018 12:49

@sanptillidie would you if someone was lying about you? There were no screenshots out of sanp. That’s a lie. Quite simple. No one put anyone at harm. I have seen the post. All of it. I know what was said. The admin are full of shit.

And as for the snake stuff referenced above, that’s the kind of shit you’re supporting.

FizzyGreenWater · 14/06/2018 12:48

This is great although after the first 20 posts I just scrolled at speed

So much to learn. What is Nutella Parenting? If you're Science Aware surely you'd swap to that Biona hazelnut chocolate stuff?

Barbara is kicking herself for ever starting this.

TheOrigFV45 · 14/06/2018 12:47

Can I join the group?

By virtue of the fact that I am not an unnatural parent (boggle) I must be a natural parent. I am science aware because I am a professional scientist.

I don't have a Nutella addiction though.

ZionistShizLord · 14/06/2018 12:45

There's at least one person in the group, let's call her Victoria Sponge, that is going around the internet harassing a vulnerable person by endlessly posting snakes under her comments. Very bullying. Always going for the weakest

sanptillidie · 14/06/2018 12:43

Gonna have to disagree on that one niugboo. Why not drop it now, eh?

MissBax · 14/06/2018 12:43

Hahaha this is the most bizarre thread. OP,
EXPLAIN MORE!!

niugboo · 14/06/2018 12:42

Also @sanptillidie there were no screenshots taken out of sanp. That was a lie.

TattyFrench · 14/06/2018 12:41

Can I get my bank account filled up please? What do I need to do? I've got 12 empty Nutella jars (that I drink wine from) that I'm happy to donate to the cause (whatever your cause is, other than being really weird).

niugboo · 14/06/2018 12:39

Closest yet. Although many ex members would disagree re who the vulnerable people are. The one who’s had her bank account filled up AGAIN and presented a bullshit version of what happened to further her own position probably doesn’t fit the bill.

OkMaybeNot · 14/06/2018 12:38
Grin
TattyFrench · 14/06/2018 12:38

Shit! Barbara's at my door!! She's got salty sandals - even though it's rainy. What shall I do?
Gary and Tony are with her and they have a spider plant in a macrame holder.

sanptillidie · 14/06/2018 12:38

The problem as I see it is, one prominent rcently ex member is taking the brunt of everyones anger, even though she is not in the group so could hardly have been doing the screenshotting mentioned. People on both sides are jumping to conclusions about whats going on in groups they aren’t in, and its not helping the vulnerable people at the heart of the drama.

throwcushions · 14/06/2018 12:35

This is amazing.

IDontBowlOnShabbos · 14/06/2018 12:35

Fuckoffoutofsanpthen outside Barbaras house like.

AIBU to be upset about a facebook group
niugboo · 14/06/2018 12:34

@spudlet thanks for the heads up. I wasn’t sure who I was so it’s good to know it’s obvious.

ZionistShizLord · 14/06/2018 12:34

I'm definitely not Terrance :bleugh

BringMeTea · 14/06/2018 12:33

Fight, fight, fight fight!

ZionistShizLord · 14/06/2018 12:32

I'm Barbara

niugboo · 14/06/2018 12:31

@fuckoffoutofsanpthen I wasn’t aware I was trying to conceal who I am? Or was that a threat?

watchingwithinterest · 14/06/2018 12:30

Leave and join something more fun, you can't be emotionally dependent on a bunch of strangers on the internet. If you need a hand hold go and find a real person to spend time with.

It sounds unhealthy even without the addiction elements to chocolate spread Confused

Atthebottomofthesea · 14/06/2018 12:30

User we also need to know how to tell a rabbit and hare apart.

midgetgem2211 · 14/06/2018 12:28

Stop it I'm supposed to be working!