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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

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Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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StealthPolarBear · 13/06/2018 19:22

Nutella addiction?

Idontevencareanymore · 13/06/2018 19:21

Wow this is shitty. Leave the group seeing as you know EXACTLY what's gone down.

ALiensAbductedMe · 13/06/2018 19:19

Isn't natural parenting just attachment parenting? How are you science aware? What does this all mean???

EmmaSwann · 13/06/2018 19:19

We had a similar issue with a group that was supposedly set up for people in our area. But it turned into a clique of friends of the admin who bullied others and people being chucked off if they said anything against the clique.

So we set up our own group. And it's well moderated and everyone is nice to each other.

There's nothing stopping you setting up your own group and only having positive people in the group.

If you don't want to do this you have two options. Stay and put up with it. Or leave the group.

Yokatsu · 13/06/2018 19:16

Its like anything in life. Do you "gain" more that you "lose" by being in the group? Is the emotional cost of being in the group hurting you personally?

BitchQueen90 · 13/06/2018 19:14

What on earth is natural parenting?

Misses point

PedroLostHisGlasses · 13/06/2018 19:12

Really, why are you posting about SANP on here?!

I mean, leave if you want, or if you can't trust the admins to make the decisions they think are best for reasons you don't always know about.

Or stay if you like the support.

It's a Facebook group, there are always times of drama and times when it all settles down again.

Medea13 · 13/06/2018 19:11

what is natural parenting? (what would be unnatural parenting?!)

Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 19:08

The sexuality has nothing to do with it. There are male femail relationships going on too and people who are in 3 part relationships.

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UpstartCrow · 13/06/2018 19:06

Thats not a support group, its a clique. Just leave, you wont remember who they are in a months time.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 13/06/2018 19:00

What is natural parenting and what has that got to do with anything? Ditto everything else?

If you feel some people are being picked on and you don’t get anything out of the group, then leave. You don’t have to explain yourself to strangers on the internet.

dinosaursandtea · 13/06/2018 18:56

How is it different than if there were straight people in the group who were in relationships?

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