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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

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Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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Medea13 · 13/06/2018 20:11

yes can one of the numerous members of this group who have posted here please say what is natural parenting?

(Also, is this the "science aware natural parenting" Facebook group with the incredibly pixelated, poor doctored banner of periodic table elements? SUCH a cringe picture...)

ShirleyPhallus · 13/06/2018 20:09

What is natural parenting?!

igotout · 13/06/2018 20:07

I'm done.

It's like Scientology. The way ex members have been gossiped about and turned on makes me uneasy.

ScipioAfricanus · 13/06/2018 20:07

I’m a Nutella addict. I don’t need to join NutAnon though because I don’t want to quit.

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 13/06/2018 20:07

I reckon all the members have read this and know who the op is by now so might not be an issue for too long Confused

TheFirstMrsOsmond · 13/06/2018 20:06

They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts Hmm

Esarosa · 13/06/2018 20:06

SANP is one of the most supportive communities I've had the pleasure of being apart of. All groups have occasional drama. This latest bout is being caused by ex members. They're ex for a reason; or those are my feelings after all this.

afrikat · 13/06/2018 20:05

Oh and yes YABU

afrikat · 13/06/2018 20:02

I'm in the group and I love it. If I didn't I would just leave. Which you should possibly do if you are this worried about it all

Idontevencareanymore · 13/06/2018 19:54

It's just a parenting group that don't tend to believe coconut oil and breastmilk soothe everything and aren't anti vax like a lot of other parenting groups that aren't what you'd call mainstream.

It's actually not as drama ridden or cliquey as op would like it to sound. Some members know each other irl, they have whip rounds to help when people are having bother and generally have some pretty good advice.

teaandtwigs · 13/06/2018 19:54

Oh lordy. You'd be better off just leaving and not starting Mumsnet threads about it, you know that'll be the next kick off

Yumyumpigs · 13/06/2018 19:52

Ooooooh SANP on mumsnet! Again leave of you don't agree with it but it's a great and supportive resource imo

MissusGeneHunt · 13/06/2018 19:52

That's not a group, it's a freaking cult! 'Natural parents' who are addicted to Nutella, have dodgy relationships / mess with emotions, and sideline those with mental ill health.... Nice. Not. Steer clear! There's better support groups elsewhere.

choli · 13/06/2018 19:51

I noticed similar behavior on two US based natural parenting groups i used to frequent a few years ago. Much cliques and bullying if you dared to express an opinion that differed from that of the queen bees. Seems to go with the natural parenting territory.

LellyMcKelly · 13/06/2018 19:50

Stop getting the notifications. That way you can dip in and out without being reminded of it all the time. Chances are you’ll forget about it after a few months.

CatsCatsCats11 · 13/06/2018 19:45

Really want to know what this group is called to join Blush

pannikin · 13/06/2018 19:43

Why are you even bothered to be posting about SANP here? If you don't like it, just leave. Not difficult.
also bet I can guess who wrote this

RideOn · 13/06/2018 19:42

Seriously though do you feel you are doing a good job supporting people in the group? Do you need support now?

If not, then just leave!

RideOn · 13/06/2018 19:41

Natural parenting? Is this the same as gentle/attachment parenting?
Science aware? Does this mean not anti-vaxx?
Nutella addicts? Is this a joke?
LGBTQ experimenting couples? Does this mean having affairs?

ichifanny · 13/06/2018 19:32

Most groups like that end up being a pain in the arse , cloth nappies , slings , attachment parenting most tend to attract people who think they are special snowflakes because they go against convention which ends up lots of strong personalities clashing . Horrible .

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 13/06/2018 19:32

So its a Parenting group with the parents bunking up together? Sounds fucking weird but it takes all sorts I suppose.
It's only a group. Leave it if it doesn't make you happy. I'm on a similar sized group (yep searched the name above 😂) and have been for 10 years, have made some amazing real life friends that I couldn't be without so I get that it can transfer over into real life but seriously, just fuck it off if it's making you miserable. They've probably all read this now anyway.

yougogirl150 · 13/06/2018 19:28

My name is yougogirl150, and I'm a Nutella addict

flopsyrabbit1 · 13/06/2018 19:28

sounds like great entertainment,what are they called Grin

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 19:25

This is typical of many large forums, Mumsnet included.
It's a reflection of human nature I'm afraid, and groups of friends form cliques, often unwittingly. Equally newcomers who have any hint of paranoia can soon feel as though everybody else is out to get them.

It's nice when people remind others of what it's like to be new.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/06/2018 19:23

What is this all about? Natural parenting?

This sounds rather icky tbh.

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