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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

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Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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Pinguine · 13/06/2018 20:30

I am desperate to see this group but can't find it anywhere?

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:30

OP, can you explain the Nutella?

Zoflorabore · 13/06/2018 20:28

Watch all of the requests to join after this thread Grin

off for a nose myself

rainingcatsanddog · 13/06/2018 20:28

SANP apparently. (I'm assuming N P is for Natural Parenting)

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:28

I bet this is like 'I fucking love science', when they, er, don't actually know any fucking science.

BangPippleGo · 13/06/2018 20:28

I'm so intrigued...

Namebot · 13/06/2018 20:27

I left that group because despite being science aware they don’t apply science to biology Wink

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:27

Oh my god!

niugboo · 13/06/2018 20:26

It’s called science aware natural parenting. It’s got about 1100 members and is basically an online cult with two borderline psycho leaders that regularly rip people off with their drama. You’re better off out.

AstoriaStormborn · 13/06/2018 20:26

YANBU. Sometimes people can get very attached and invested in FB support groups, and feel like you've really made friendships with people in the group.

It can really hurt when you discover the group isn't what you thought it was, and you see people you liked and cared about behaving in really spiteful, vindictive bitch ways.

Its OK to be upset but if its really upseting for you then leave. Plenty of other, better sources of support than that vipers' nest.

Oswin · 13/06/2018 20:26

Oooh shit. This thread better not get deleted.

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:26

I think so Leah!

Oh shit, check ouy the new members with the cult names.

This is so bizarre.

FatBarry · 13/06/2018 20:25

I don't know about leaving the group, I am going to have to leave the thread as I have absolutely no idea what is going on.

Science aware natural parenting Nutella eaters?

🏃

ShirleyPhallus · 13/06/2018 20:25

WHAT IS THIS GROUP PLEASE SOMEONE MAKE SOME SENSE

LeahJack · 13/06/2018 20:25

Is this the group with 257 members?

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:24

'natural parenting'?

attack dogs turning up within minutes to savage you?

'science-aware'?

absolute batshit crazy bunch of loons.

Get out now.

www.encourage-cult-survivors.org/

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:24

No one is forced to be on there

Ok, but that's what you would say if it was a cult though...

I'm joking, I'm joking. The nutella thing IS weird though. Is it a euphemism? Wink

sanpsnakesodoff · 13/06/2018 20:22

Oh you poor thing being picked on after the hideous thing you did to a vulnerable person.

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TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 20:20
  • 3-way relationships and everything grin

Is there a leader? Is he a very fertile man? Does he wear a robe?*

Almost spat my coffee out then.
Thanks for the laugh!

DiddimusStench · 13/06/2018 20:18

Wait... Nutella addiction you say?

I knew it.

pannikin · 13/06/2018 20:16

Ok or maybe the OP is deliberately twisting facts, and telling half truths on a forum that she knows a lot of the group members also use, to try and get a rise out of people? It's a Facebook group, not a cult. No one is forced to be on there. a lot of the members are very clued up on things like autism and it is nice to have somewhere to ask questions and know that people have the knowledge to answer and support you.

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:16

3-way relationships and everything Grin

Is there a leader? Is he a very fertile man? Does he wear a robe?

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:12

This is amazing.

You've posted about what sounds like a grade A cult, and by page two you have numerous cult members members on here defending it.

RUUUUUN OP!

Mamabear4180 · 13/06/2018 20:11

FB groups are a massive waste of time and energy. I recommend FB pages relating to your interests, that way you get good info and scientific articles etc without the closed group cliquey mentality. I agree with an above poster-mumsnet is the same sort of thing. I came on mumsnet to read an old thread about autism as it came up on google which is usually how I end up back on this site. After a few minutes I tend to realise I'm wasting my life..Natural parenting is going to be cliquey because you're being a 'type' of parent instead of just a parent. All these cliques go wrong because everyone has a different idea what it means anyway.