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AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

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Scienceawarenaturalparent · 13/06/2018 18:54

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

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TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 20:52

Strangely, this cult is becoming more and more compelling...
I'm feeling drawn to it.

But as Groucho Marx once said (paraphrased) 'I'd not want to be any part of a cult that would have me as a member!'

CadyHeron · 13/06/2018 20:52

strike out fail Blush

Idontevencareanymore · 13/06/2018 20:51

Haha op. You're a sweetheart aren't you.

it's just a Facebook group. Just a bunch of people who ask advice and some know each other irl

Oh and also donated money and food to vulnerable members to stop them and their children starving. Disgusting behaviour!

CadyHeron · 13/06/2018 20:51

This is amazing.You've posted about what sounds like a grade A cult, and by page two you have numerous cult members members on here defending it. RUUUUUN OP

genuine Grin run, run far away OP!
Now wanting to know what the group FB cult is as it sounds like it puts the Neighbourhood Watch type town group gossip that mine is to shame lol

userlotsanumbers · 13/06/2018 20:51

Anything else the lucky remainers in SANP can share with us?

AstoriaStormborn · 13/06/2018 20:51

The group used to be a really great space for people who were into attachment parenting, breastfeeding, slings, cloth nappies . but were also pro-vaccines and pro modern medicine

It went down hill, and become almost like a high school popularity contest. With less popular members being attacked and jumped on for asking the simplest of questions. Meanwhile the popular members, or those who were in with the admins (sometimes literally in with,as in body parts being inserted into other body parts in with) could play out their bullshit dramas all over the board and manipulate people into collecting money for them- one member in particular has probably been given thousand of pounds over the years.

HamishTheTalkingCactus · 13/06/2018 20:51

back in the day I was a member of a parenting forum with a similar sounding dynamic (apart from the dodgy mods). I met a few fabulous lifelong friends through it, and kept very far away from the shenanigans. If you've got to the point of posting on MN slagging it all off, it's time to step away, as it's not fun anymore.

HellenaHandbasket · 13/06/2018 20:49

I used to be a member back when it first started, it was a refreshing change to HEMP et al. However the vociferous few and a couple of admin got right on my tits so I left.

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:49

"Is this the one? Wonder if they'll let me join?"

There is no link in your post, They clearly suppressed it. Their reach is everywhere.

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 20:49

Talk like that could get us removed at any mome...

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OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:48

IT'S NOT A CULT FFS

It totally is

DextroDependant · 13/06/2018 20:48

I love Nutella please add me to the secret cult.

TornFromTheInside · 13/06/2018 20:47

The first rule of science-aware natural parenting is that you do not talk about science-aware natural parenting.

Sssshhh, they're watching us.
They're everywhere.

Stinkywink · 13/06/2018 20:47

Is this the one? Wonder if they'll let me join?

AIBU to be upset about a facebook group
CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:47

Although, to be fair to kool-aid , they actually used Flavor Aid.

In this country I guess you'd go with SunnyD.

ChocolatePecanPie · 13/06/2018 20:46

Have to say I’ve not been in there anywhere near as much as I used to. I seem to have missed the 3-way/admin gossip..... need to know more......

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:46

Perhaps they have drunk the kool-aid now.

OkMaybeNot · 13/06/2018 20:45

I think Science was referring to another member of the group who indeed got a boob job and couldn't make rent, and asked the group for financial assistance, which they provided.

I'm gripped.

Fuckedoffat48b · 13/06/2018 20:45

It has vanished.

How were they sexually adventurous with each other? Did you all live close to each other?

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:44

The first rule of science-aware natural parenting is that you do not talk about science-aware natural parenting.

FlyingElbows · 13/06/2018 20:43

NuttyElla. Ok. Well they want to sack her off and go with Nutella because it's more interesting.

Science, I found 5p in the tumble dryer so you I'll donate that to your rent Wink

Aeroflotgirl · 13/06/2018 20:43

It sounds like an awful clique, and I would leave it.

igotout · 13/06/2018 20:41

It used to be great. Rather like Mumsnet, but with an identity behind the posts.

Pro cloth bums/breastfeeding/mooncups/instant pots/vaccination, but accepting of choice. Lots of LGBTQ members and interesting educational debates around these issues.

Then there was a change of admin and it all turned veeeeeeeery cliquey.

Especially when admin became sexually adventurous with other members.

Was fun while it lasted. I won't miss what it's become.

userlotsanumbers · 13/06/2018 20:40

3-way relationships and everything

Is there a leader? Is he a very fertile man? Does he wear a robe?

Wins the Internets this evening, thank you very much Grin

CaitlynsCat · 13/06/2018 20:40

ooh, they've just taken their Page down from public Facebook, how many shills do they have posting here as well?

madness.