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To want to give stuff away to the most 'grateful and deserving cause' ?

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Gameboy · 21/05/2007 14:31

Was thinking about this when I started another thread about wanting to pass on some baby/ toddler books.

Is it just me, or when you give stuff away, do you want to feel sure that it has gone to a 'deserving cause' i.e. someone who really needs it, and will appreciate it?

Sometimes it seems so hard to 'find' that person/ cause though?

When I've put stuff on Freecycle I feel like adding 'tell me who it's for, and how it will be used' !

I've been annoyed a couple of times to see stuff I've given away (for supposed personal use) then sold on eBay.

However I love it when I've freecycled something, and the recipient e-mail afterwards and say 'thank you so much, the kids adore it' etc

Is that wrong? Am I just being horribly smug and wanting to feel good myself about giving stuff away???

OP posts:
rabbleraiser · 21/05/2007 14:41

I'm pretty needy, Gameboy

MrsBadger · 21/05/2007 14:40

I say again - women's refuge...

EvilSmellingBugger · 21/05/2007 14:40

I'm in the process of giving a car seat to a mother of twins on freecycle.
I'm receiving a travel potty from there too.
We freecycle and ebay mostly, I have given a fair bit to charity too .

earlgrey · 21/05/2007 14:39

No, you're not mad!

I have religiously hung on to every stylish things dds have worn since they were about 6mo. And I don't mean 'stylish' in label terms, just stuff that mum has beautifully made them from Liberty print fabric etc.

I just want to find someone who'll appreciate them.

Ditto books.

That's why our house is a bombshell!

Gameboy · 21/05/2007 14:39

Mrs Badger - the charity shop thing worries me too though, since I found out from someone who works in one exactly how much stuff gets dumped straight into the skip due to full shelves/ wrong season (don't store stuff)/ don't like or appreciate value/ 'don't do kid's books' (or suchlike).

I know it's pathetic, but I want someone to say to me, "yes please, I'd love your gently used baby clothes/ pram/ baby toys, and I'm ever so grateful, because we can't afford things like this otherwise... etc etc"

I just wish there was some way of identifying genuinely 'needy' people...

OP posts:
rabbleraiser · 21/05/2007 14:37

You're not being at all unreasonable. Putting your donated stuff onto eBay is as low as it gets.

donnie · 21/05/2007 14:36

I htink it is entirely reasonable to want your stuff to be put to good use and ' do good' for someone. I feel the same way as do many people I think.

Agree that refuges or somilar are a good place to donate.

MrsBadger · 21/05/2007 14:34

This is the joy of giving things to charity shops - even if some mercenary numpty buys it and puts it on Ebay, or uses it for a week and bins it, the charity have already made a couple of quid.
Or send things to a women's refuge - people there really need them.

fryalot · 21/05/2007 14:33

I answered a freecycle ad for a large tea pot - dp had bought me one as a joke a few years ago. I had visions of it being given to an old age pensioners drop in centre or something. I dropped it off for them as I was passing, and it was for a pub. To make money out of. Why couldn't they have bought their own?

I know exactly how you feel, I felt like taking my teapot back and telling them not to be so tight (but I didn't because I didn't have the nerve)

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