To not be able to live up to DH's level of romanticness/obsessiveness?

He sounds insecure & although he will probably be a great dad he will find it difficult once the baby comes along as children take up so much time & energy. Although he is fine with you going out with your friends at the moment I forsee this changing....he will continue to say he is happy for you to but will in some way make you for guilty about it. I say this from experience. You need to sort this out now before your baby arrives. It is stifling & you will always be made to feel bad for not loving him enough.

Ahhh now you have said he was overweight before then l wonder if he is extremely self conscious and has low self esteem Op ? If so he may be petrified of losing you . Get to the bottom of this asap , ask him to talk to you because it needs sorting for all your sakes

It sounds like he's afraid of losing you and feels lucky to have you.

The problem is it's not healthy for him to not go out with friends and have other interests. It just becomes too intense.

Tell him to reduce the texts while at work. Tell him you need the money for the baby and there isn't need for flowers so often.

Be sensitive when you say it or I can see him getting upset.

It's sounding terribly suffocating.

Firstly I could not stand this behaviour. However I wonder if he's just got a bit carried away. It certainly isn't healthy and he will struggle when the baby is there. I'd be worried about the baby too. I know someone who is like this about their daughter and it's creepy. Not in a sexual way or anything but he's just too weird and full on, I genuinely think he just adores her but it's borderline utterly weird sndvas the child gets older she's beginning to shrug him off and dodge him.
You need to set some boundaries fast to try and see if he can manage himself better. The money should be a factor, he needs to stop wasting money on you.
I hope he is just over excited and getting it a bit wrong and you can chill him out.

NOPE. NOPE. NOPE.

You’re heading for trouble OP. He has serious obsessive issues and I’ve got a bad feeling that this won’t end well.

Intensity of this level is not normal and can turn ugly.

No clue how to fix it apart from running a mile. Sorry.

How old is he? I would wonder a bit about why he never had a girlfriend, even a casual fling before you? You definitely need to address his behaviour before the baby comes, he might struggle to deal with a ' rival' for your attention. It sounds obsessive like others have said, not loving. Being loving and thoughtful also involves considering what the other person wants and needs from you, and what they enjoy. He is completely ignoring your wishes, it's all about him.

Yes, very weird, obsessive, and it sounds like it's either controlling, or rapidly moving towards being controlling.
I would definitely try couples counselling. Or even just counselling for you, but it's his behaviour that's a problem.

He's controlling you OP. it's all about him. That's why he won't back off if you tell him politely. Sounds narcissistic. And wanting a big family is part of that. To keep you dependant on him. Make an agreement with him that if you have more children he will stay at home to parent while you work. See how he takes it.

I found it difficult to read the whole opening post. I'd not allow this behaviour to continue because I personally could not be in the room with him because I'd feel so suffocated. I certainly wouldn't reply to his texts at work and I'd tell him if he buys more flowers they are going in the bin.

Could you be more frank with him. He also needs to see friends. It's not normal and is nauseating. Physically nauseating.

He messages me from work constantly to check up on how I am doing. If I don't reply for 30 mins, he gets nervous and calls. This is intense as I am still working.

This alone is ringing alarm bells. It is not "sweet" or loving, it or verging on obsessive. You owe it to yourself and your unborn child to nip this behaviour in the bud. Please try and start some couples therapy before your baby is born. This is not healthy behaviour.

He says there's no point in him to socialise anymore as he wants to be a full time dad/provider/husband and that his friends are childish anyway.

Fucking terrifying :( (Obviously I mean in the context of this guy, I’m sure some guys saying this would make their partners very happy!)

What happens at the weekend when he gets out the photobooks and you say 'sorry, no, I want to do something different. Why don't we...'Because his reaction to you telling him no will tell you all you need to know.

Please try this, OP. Honestly, this sounds like a car crash to me. Aren’t you horribly pissed off with his suffocating behaviour?

Do you have to sit every weekend and coo over photo albums? Absolute max, I’ll show the dh a couple of photos from my FB memories, any more and it’s like in the 70s, when the neighbours might want to show you their slide show pics of their exotic caravan holiday in Wales!

Disclaimer: I love Wales!

I'd encourage him to get in contact with old friends, family members to.socialise without you. Advise that you both will need support circles to call upon as you become parents. Maybe tell him that you'd far more appreciate the money spent of flowers and gifts be put aside in an account for baby things.

He doesn't 'want a big family' because keeping you pregnant is a good way to keep you at home, does he? And then you'll have to be a SAHM because childcare will be so expensive... and he'll always know exactly where you are. Your chances of meeting another man would be slight (always a queue of children in tow)...

Aw. He sounds just like my boyfriend...THAT I HAD WHEN I WAS 18!

He is creepy and weird. I couldn’t stand it. It’s controlling under the guise of romance.

I think you know something is wrong, or you wouldn't have posted this thread. The bit about him being hurt if denied attention and sex is particularly worrying. I don't know what to advise though - right now I'd just say try to live with it. He might turn out to be a tremendous asset when the baby is born.

You have already adapted your behaviour not to upset him. He's entirely in control and this is all to meet his needs, not yours.

Normal people if their husband pulls out the photo album for 90 minutes of obsessive reminiscing would say 'not now, love, I'm watching the X Factor'.

Normal people, when asked if they'd like another massage, or sex offered again for the third time that day can say NO, I just need to chill out a bit.

Normal people don't get cross, anxious, stressed or pull sad faces and emotionally blackmail you by their niceness.

He's not nice, by the way. Try saying no to sex more frequently, or just read your book and ignore his attention-seeking ways and see how nice he stays.

Does he have a reason to be so insecure? Does he feel you are out of his league? Are you the more attractive/lucrative/outgoing of the couple? He sounds a bit obsessed but maybe he is unsure of your affection?

Sounds awful and controlling. Tell him he can still be a good dad and husband and see his friends.. He needs more than you in his life, everyone does.

I'd feel quite worried for a person, male or female, that has sacrificed their whole social life/hobbies/interests to dedicate their time to another person. Its not healthy and probably at some time in the very near future, something will have to give. That baby is going to be like a nuclear bomb to your current situation.

Aside from the totally controlling and suffocating behaviour, I'd be furious if my dh wasted money on fresh flowers every day.

Very far from normal op sorry, and he's treating you like a personal object
Very unhealthy

You mention him wanting a big family. What about you? What do you want?

He sounds like someone who would feature on a documentary like "When couple kill" or "Partners turn to stalkers", totally obsessive nutjob, not one bit romantic or sweet just totally batshit, in scary way

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