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to expect dh to respect my wishes

27 replies

Aaaarrrrggggghhhhh · 17/05/2007 19:22

Right, we have a bad habit in this house of leaving the backdoor open when the weather is nice, Our back gate is very easily acessable from the street.
In light of recent events I have become very paranoid about someone snatching our daughter (she's 4)and I'm worried that dh tends to go up to the loo leaving lo downstairs backdoor open etc. So on Sunday I put a chain and padlock on the backgate. DH looks after lo at home all day on Tuesdays and Thursdays, both days I have come home to find the padlock off and the door open , I asked him about it on Tuesday and he said they had been in and out of the gate all day and quite frankly the padlock is a pain.....
I have been suffereing sleepless nights and nightmares since poor Madeleine went missing, so am I being unreasonable asking him to do this one little thing, and would I be being unreasonable if I go completely bollistic at him when he gets home from work tonight?

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MrsDiorKeanuReeves · 17/05/2007 20:18

Plus, she could easily wander off on her own and get run over! He is being silly really. Not much to ask is it.

Elasticwoman · 17/05/2007 20:16

You are not being unreasonable and has he considered that he is invalidating the house insurance in the event of a burglary - which frankly is far more likely than lo being snatched. (Madeleine was asleep and parents not in same building as I understand it.)

The q is, how to get dh to toe the line. Have you tried stamping your foot and pouting? Cutting off his beer supply? Hiding the tv remote? Threatening to tell his mother? Deaf & dumb breakfast?

Sleep well tonight.