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Daddy and daughter date nights?

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ILikeMyChickenFried · 01/05/2018 12:22

How long has this been a thing? An advert for a local Daddy daughter date night has just popped up on my Facebook. Seems a bit bizarre.

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LittleLionMansMummy · 01/05/2018 12:28

I have dinner dates with ds. It's a standing weekly date where we have dinner out together. Not sure if this is better/ worse/ the same, but actually don't care much what others think either.

catinapoolofsunshine · 01/05/2018 12:28

Homebrew why use the word date? That's the weird bit that deserves a good mocking.

MarthaArthur · 01/05/2018 12:28

I think its beyond creepy and sexist. Take your kids out one to one for dinner is lovely. Specifically taking a daughter out alone is creepy. Theres not a daddy son date night. Why? I bet men would take there sons somewhere else meaning its a weird way of teaching their daughters the way they expect they should.let men trat them.

Idontdowindows · 01/05/2018 12:28

mock the idea that a man can spend time with his daughter,

No, we're mocking the idea of men going ON DATES with their daughters.

WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam · 01/05/2018 12:27

It's an American thing which I wasn't aware has made its way over here.

It has its roots in conservative Christian culture, the idea that a father must show his daughter how a man ought to treat her, so when she stops guarding her 'purity' and marries, she chooses a husband who will slot into those fixed gender roles with her (paying for everything, getting her coat, pulling a chair out for her and so forth).

In itself, it's not a bad idea, if it were purely phrased as a parent spending one on one time with their child, regardless of gender. But calling it a 'date' and insisting it is 'daddy daughter' not 'daddy son' or 'mummy son' betrays exactly what it's about: approximating the dating relationship a father in that culture wants for his daughter when she grows up. As she cannot be allowed to make her own choices.

See also: "lists of rules if you want to date my daughter" (never 'my son').

It's icky.

BlueSapp · 01/05/2018 12:27

Completely weird American nonsense.

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Trinity66 · 01/05/2018 12:26

the odd part is adding "date" in there, why? it makes spending some quality time sound a bit sinister

Ohlellykelly · 01/05/2018 12:26

The mother and son date night is weird too.

clumsyduck · 01/05/2018 12:25

How weird Confused

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 01/05/2018 12:25

I'd question the use of the word date but nice idea to have some quality one to one time.

Idontdowindows · 01/05/2018 12:24

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

ThymeLord · 01/05/2018 12:24

Yeah it's a thing. A grim as fuck thing.

Waggingmyginger · 01/05/2018 12:24

Grim

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