Daddy and daughter date nights?

Er yeah calling it a date is well creepy. Dp always takes our dds out on a saturday afternoon for daddy time but if he started calling it a date I would put a stop to it. And probably leave him. Weird.

What the hell are you on about Dave?

Date nights sound horrific. Dads spending time with their DD's on the other hand is lovely. My DH travels a lot with business and when he is in the cities our DD's live in he takes them out for dinner and spends time catching up with them. Nothing wrong with that but he isn't taking them on a date!

"The idea that a father must show his daughter how a man ought to treat her, so when she stops guarding her 'purity' and marries, she chooses a husband who will slot into those fixed gender roles with her (paying for everything, getting her coat, pulling a chair out for her and so forth)."

I had no idea this was a thing. No. Idea.

Exactly ThymeLord.

Spending time with your children, wonderful.

Trying to instill sexist, regressive, patriarchal bullshit into your daughter under the guise of a nice meal out? Dangerous.

"Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. "

"Dating may also involve two or more people who have already decided that they share romantic or sexual feelings toward each other. These people will have dates on a regular basis, and they may or may not be having sexual relations. This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement."

The last thing you want is your daughter ending up in a state school knocked up at 18

Oh hello again Dave. Treating us to a little more of your world view?

I'm on the fence about the word date, but meant literally as an organised day of the week then no problem
We have organised time like this as our dd is a boarder, time is usually organised the week before, or even months in advance for school holidays.
We look at what work we accept over this time and our world revolves around us all spending time with dd.
We also have sibling date days/nights, mum and daughter days/nights.
I think it's great to organise time together, some families hardly see each other and CBA to organise anything, just allowing their dc to sit in rooms on social media.

Perhaps it's an age thing. Before the whole hearted embracing of all things American nobody used the sicky term "date" to describe going somewhere with someone. A date was 4th January or 22nd October or 12.12.1988 (my pet hate is "I'm excited for [insert occasion or inanimate object]" instead replacing "I'm excited about [thing I'm excited about, usually Christmas or a birthday]" with "excited for" retaining a distinct meaning used to express sympathetic excitement felt on behalf of another human "I'm excited for DC, she's about to go on her first school trip").

Now going "on a date" has an implication of romantic love it's a nauseating term to use about a parent taking a child to a restaurant. Language does matter.

Shame nobody drilled any etiquette into you isn't it Dave.

It wreaks of those horrific looking father daughter dances in the US. Usually frequented by the sort of men who make their daughters wear promise rings and say no man's ever going to be good enough for daddy's princess. Vom.

It's the date angle .

Me and dc will have a movie night for example watch a couple of films and have junk food Or we have a fun day out or lazy pj day . Things that are over and above the normal time we spend together . There definetley not dates .

WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam Totally agree with you, it very much smacks of the father/daughter purity thing to me. That the daughter belongs to her father, ready to be handed over (having been primed on 'dates') to her new owner.

It's nice for any parent, mother or father, to have one-on-one time with their child/children. Why does it need dressing up as a date for daughters? It doesn't.

Does anyone remember the poster who came on for opinions in starting a business in this? She was going to book a motorway hotel (for easy access for dads) and arrange a dinner-dance kind of evening for dads and daughters

I don't need to tell you the responses she got but she was completely serious.

If it makes any difference I'll be having dinner dates with dd too when she's old enough. Date is merely a marker in the diary for me - same time every week.

People who don't understand the wider implications of this and can only view it as a 'what's wrong with spending time with your child?' probably don't have a lot of awareness of other cultures and the religious contexts a lot of these things originate from.

It's like purity balls. Where a father takes his young daughter, in a white dress, so she can pledge to stay a virgin until marriage. Because her sexuality and body aren't her own. They belong to her father.

If you don't know about this stuff you're likely to spout 'gosh, trust you lot to have an issue with a father and daughter going out dancing!'. It's ignorance, in the true sense of the word. There's plenty of info out there you can google to educate yourself on something you don't understand, Dave!

I think its this anerican trend of adding Dates to everything.

When i was a kid it wasn't playdates it was goimg round to play or even dinner/tea

I spent a lot of time with my dad and step dad having quality time, it wasnt a date it was purely spending time together

Why can't people not just spend time with their kids? Why does it have to be'quality' time or 'date' night. Complete nonsense!

I used to go for dinner with my Dad, always a treat to spend time together as I have a handful of siblings. Neither of us would have branded it a date. That's grim.

I also don't "date" my husband.

The idea that fathers need to be on some pseudo romantic date with their daughters, rather than just spending time with them like an actual parent, turns my stomach somewhat.

No one is mocking the idea of a parent spending time with their child, just the unnecessary use of the word ‘date’.

The date part makes it sound creepy in my opinion.

But then again the expression "quality time" makes my skin crawl!

Trust you lot to mock the idea that a man can spend time with his daughter, it’s all a bit sad really.

With all due respect, that doesn't seem to be what people are "mocking", rather the term "date" which makes it sound creepy