Daddy and daughter date nights?

I can see you're being wilfully obtuse, dancingleopard.

Thyme honestly if you see that a father taking his daughter out on a daddy daughter date is sexual it’s you that has the problem.

Dh treats me great - as I do him. So yes that’s naturally setting the standard. He also, as do I, have a independent relationship with our kids which I think is important . There is nothing wrong or creepy with picking out a date and planning something lovely with one of your kids and putting a label on it.

Dancing and others in favour of this - have you not noticed that this is an event advertised as a Daddy daughter date night. Not one individual parent going for dinner with their child and using the word date because they reserve the time evey Tuesday. It's an organised event only for fathers to "date" their daughters. Nobody else, no fathers and sons, no mothers and daughters, no other combinations.

It does sound exactly like that creepy American shit in the links.

The debate over the meaning of the word 'date' is derailing

It is not the language used but the purpose of the event that is creepy

(And the concept of an innocent daddy daughter date is also unsettling because the underlying assumption is that daddy is not a hands on parent who is naturally spending quality time with his child)

I don't like the use of the word 'date' in this context. I have 3 children and I spend time with each of them individually, as does my husband. We just say "going out with Dad/Mum". The 'date' thing is weird.

I also don't like it when longstanding couples say they're going on a 'date' night. If you're not yet an official couple, you go on a date. Otherwise, you're just going out to dinner, the cinema, the theatre or whatever.

'Date' makes my husband taking out my daughter sound seedy, whereas they're just going to the local noodle bar for a chat and a laugh away from the usual craziness of the household. My son goes out with him too, obviously. That would sound even weirder! "I'm taking my son on a date"!

Great.....er..well done?

Maybe read the links so you can understand the wider context.

I don't know why it can't just be called 'fathers being active parents to their kids' though...

Well some fathers are all ready very active with their kids. And that is a bit of a mouthful rather than two words.

We also have mummy daughter dates - I don’t care if you find it cringe. Dd enjoys it so we do.

Mood hoovers!

The level of anger in some of those posts is actually amusing.

You must have a pretty dull life.

Gosh people on here are a little...uptight. The level of anger in some of those posts is actually amusing.

I take my kids on dates, just me and them, 1 on 1. But then I didn’t know a date means you have to have sex with someone, I thought it was a chance to get to know someone more and go somewhere nice. So the word date works fine for us with that meaning.

No projecting from me ta.

Surely he helps her set the standard of what to expect in future relationships by the way he treats you? Not treating his daughter as a date?

Oh Christ, dancing, read the thread. It's not about your husband's and daughter's relationship, believe it or not.

If you choose to find issue with the word date it’s your problem tbh.

I say to my friends - ‘it’s a date’ when we plan something - nothing sexual going on there

Dd has daddy a daughter ‘date’ and there is nothing sexual there. And yeah she does see him as one of her hero’s as he is is bloody good father and hopefully will set the standard of who she allows her self to be treated when she meets some one.

I think some of you are just projecting your own issues IMO

The thread was doing so well not feeding the troll!

Sorry walking 😖

Date night is a very weird and cringy name but there's lots of evidence to support the theory that one on one time between fathers and daughters is incredibly helpful for building up self-esteem and fostering positive relationships in girls. I don't know why it can't just be called 'fathers being active parents to their kids' though...

Being called 'father daughter evening out' would not make the concept less creepy

Erm how about just saying it's fella taking his kid out somewhere??

A man would not say they were having a daddy and son date.

I also agree that turning this into a debate over the word date is complete derailing. It is absolutely clear what this daddy/daughter shit is about, and innocent it 'aint.

Have you not read any of the links posted in this thread JerseyGirl. It is quite clear that this isn't innocent in the slightest. It's creepy behaviour, sexualising a normal relationship between a father and daughter in the guise of 'teaching' her what to expect from boyfriends in the future. It links very closely to the idea that a father owns his daughters' virginity. It has been asked many times but why do fathers need to take their daughters on dates (which are what people who want to get romantically and sexually involved go on), why does it need to be about "modelling for your daughter the way any boy should act when she goes out on any date at any time"??

DannyLaRuesBestFrock

The thread was doing so well not feeding the troll!

Jersey Girl, maybe try reading the thread?

The debate over the meaning of the word 'date' is derailing

It is not the language used but the purpose of the event that is creepy

(And the concept of an innocent daddy daughter date is also unsettling because the underlying assumption is that daddy is not a hands on parent who is naturally spending quality time with his child)

cat 'excited for' has had me RAGING on here before but you're the first person to share my rage.

'Excited for Friday!'...'Why? What's happening to Friday??'

Everyone going "you're creepy for sexualising it" needs to go look at the photos on that link.

Like hell it's "not sexualised". It's sexualised as fuck and it's vile.

I think its comes from americs and the land of chick words and more softer soppy tones to words we use.so date night to them is with the giirrrrlfriends the mom even the pet.and is so innocent.so its like on a hallmark move having a date night with pops.its all innocent.
but having it be brough over and to words and meaning we have for things just doesn't work.
equally though.we should be sensible then and see past it to a parent not having sinister notions towards their children most of the time.

OVienna

Oh my life! That's one whole world of fucked upness.

Anyone that would sexualise a saying like that needs to look at what the word "date " means in the thesaurus. Some people have different interpretations of words fair enough, but slating a parent for using an innocently meant phrase is a bit sick and says more about the person thinking it.

Gag reflex stimulated. Boak.