My SIL recently decided she and her partner were getting married. They told us about it 2 weeks ahead of timeit was a sudden decision. The problem is that the date clashed with my mother's visit. My mother, who does not live in the UK, and is from abroad was visiting. It is her annual 3 week visitwhich is the only time she comes to see us as it is expensive and a major hassle (as she is older and does not speak Englishso she is always in a state of panic when she is travelling). My SIL knows my mother does this, and knows what a momentous thing it is for my mother to visit. She knew my mother was visiting when she planned her wedding date. To compound things, SIL decided she would have wedding in France. SIL told us my mother was NOT invitedeven though it was a casual wedding and a low key reception. I offered to pay my mother;s way as I felt it was unfair to my mother on what she felt was her time with her graandchildren. In the end, DH had a "talk" to her, and my mother came along. But SIL is still angry with me. Was I being unfair to bring my mother along? She is a elderly woman and to leave her behind in hotel is just not done in her/my culture. She sat quietly in a corner, and tried to be as positive and chirpy to SIL as possible--who made it clear to her she did not want her to be there.