for being a SAHM

It is never unreasonable to do what you think is best for your family

fair enough - but i wouldnt have cared if it was the prince of persia who posted the comments about neo nazism.. I would have said that the Prince of Persia talked a load of shite. Say it as i see it, thats all.

I just think it is disrespectful of peoples feelings when others think it perfectly reasonable to state "Xenia you talk bollox" or "Xenia, piss off!"

Extend her the same courtesy she does to others who don't hold the same opinion of her. If you search her threads/posts you will have a pretty hard job finding any that Xenia has been deliberately rude or just plain bad mannered to.

Anyway I'm not Xenia's bodyguard, I just find it plain rude & very bad manners to speak to someone in that dismissive tone

I haven't commented on what the thread was started about, as I was reading it & got a bot peeved at the outburst to Xenia. We are all allowed to go off on our rambles now & again, linking something to information we picked up somewhere, but as soon as it is Xenia, she is jumped on.

Anyway, I need to go to bed now Night xx

fff = fwiw it is the first post i think i have made to xenia and the first thread on which we have both commented, I didnt make the comment cos i thought it was the norm to, simply because she really got my bacjk up by inferring the decision to stay at home had its rooted in neo-nazi facism, which i found offensive, unnessesary parrell and completely irrelevant to the thread.

Perhas I could have toned down the language a bit but the sentiments behind my post still stands.

just want to add, everyone has to do what is right for them , for me it was to be a SAHM and this was agreed with DH before birth of first dc, however that does not mean that DH does not wish he could role reverse sometimes and probably resents the fact i am with the dc's more than him, I'm just trying to say that men sometimes struggle with their feelings of having to go out to work when in modern life it's acceptable to take on a more even role and they get, for want of a better word, jealous. it doesn't mean they really wish you worked. perhaps he wishes he could take your strain a bit more? or if he's had a bad day at work, thinks your day has been really easy as you're at home lol i've had that one!!

Why does someone on every thread Xenia posts on, be rude to her???

It's very bloody boring after a while.

FGS, everyone is entitled to opinions.

I like reading Xenia's comments, and so what if she trys to bring intellect to every thread, that is who she is!!

2shoes, I know exactly what you mean, I get the same from my sister. Lots of pointed remarks that are obviously aimed at me about people who don't work and how nice it must be to have so much time to do things. It would be funny if it wasn't so annoying because she only works four days a week! I just pretend I haven't noticed the digs because I don't like feeling I have to justify myself and I don't want to get into a row.

2shoes you sound like you're a great mum

I respect any mums choice WAM SAHM quite frankly it has nothing to do with me. I choose to be a SAHM, I left my nursing career in the military to do so. I miss it but I don't regret it, it is a complete lifestyle choice

AFWIW I'm not even sure I will go back to work when the children all at school. I have a while before that happens though!!!

[Howareye, Wotza?]

TN - I wondered what had happend as I didn't see you around in the midnight hours. Glad you are back...thought you might have nchanged.

I left [de-registered ] to concentrate on real life for a while, missed MN and certain people so came back.

However I seriously don't see my added value on this sight at all so will perhaps return to my other life again.

I'm too sensitive and not too bright and prone to depresson, so a bad combo for MN methinks

Sorry for hijack 2shoes, and for what it's worth you are FAB!

I also leave threads when my ability to construct grammatically correct sentences fails me, [grin}

"usually LEAVE it"

TnOgu - me too. I frequently take extended breaks from MN , which is a shame cos there are some great people who have given great advice to me in the past.

Nonetheless I do accept that it is a public forum for debate, but when threads descend into petty squabbles I usually it or try to see the amusing absurdity of it.

And in answer to your question 2 shoes, NO, you are not being unreasonable, at all!

To be honest Rantum I'm reaching the point where I feel like avoiding every debate on here

do we need 'justification' to be a SAHM now

None of my children have special needs - sorry

TnOgu, I agree completely, but these "debates" on MN rarely seem to remain objective - people throw underhand, very subjective judgements about other people's choices into their superficially "objective" and "intellectually motivated" discussion.

Fair enough if you don't mind that, but if you do these threads may be best avoided...

I think debate is good and healthy, but I find it depressing and sad when women try to put other women down about their choices regarding staying at home to rear their own children.

It just shouldn't be something that is passed off as the easy option but instead it should be supported and recognised as worthwhile and selfless asd bloody hardwork

2shoes - you are not unreasonable, possibly insane for starting a thread with that title on MN, but not unreasonable...

2shoes, what are you doing on an AIBU topic.
Daft bint! You are never unreasonable, you should know better...

ffs

2shoeswhoismshadowsnumber1fan - hello darling why should you habve to justify yourself and ur SAHM choice i hope some eejit has not upset you

imo happy mummy = happy child. every woman is entitled to make the individual choice of how to raise her child whether its SAHM or work or study - up to u

oi come here for a bloody big hug u work all day with ur child well done