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For being peed off that shop assistant made dd say thank you beofre giving her her sweets

393 replies

twobabies · 12/05/2007 15:45

Hi All

I really would like to know if IABU or not, so dd is not yet two and only just started talking. She can say thank you (well she says cue but we know what she means .

We went to the shop today for her treat as she has done really well with her potty training this week and we promised her a little choccy bar. We walked down and when I let her choose she was so excited, picked one and we went to the till. The shop was packed so she had been holding it for about 5 mins before we got to the till then I took it of her for the lady to scan and dd had a small winge.

The shop lady then says to dd loudly "well if your going to be like that your not having it back until you say thank you" whilst holding it out to dd? I said she doesnt talk actually and dd is quite shy around strangers so I knew she wouldn't. The shop assistant just looked at dd and said "well are you going to say thank you" dd is now hiding in my legs looking at me really upset. I said to the woman look she isn't going to say thank you and she said "oh i'm not sure you really deserve this then" before handing it over to me.

I think the reason i'm upset is because dd was so excited as she hardly gets sweets/choccy at all and I really thought this witch had spoilt it and made it look like dd had no manners to everyone else in the shop.

Please tell me if i'm just being hormonal or if this woman is actually mad?

OP posts:
madoldcatlady · 12/05/2007 21:04

Toff blokes or a bit of rough. Gimme the rough every time.

electra · 12/05/2007 21:01

In reply to the OP - you are certainly quite right to be angry. I would be livid. I think I have encountered situations like this with my dd before. I deal with them by saying "Don't worry dd - you don't need to take any notice of her". If people talk cr@p and stick their noses where they shouldn't just undermine them

madoldcatlady · 12/05/2007 21:00

If Easter eggs are a measure of class, we must be the pits. We got 32 between 5 of us this year!

NotanOtter · 12/05/2007 21:00

i would be pleased if a shop assistant did that!

flightattendant · 12/05/2007 20:55

Twobabies - the woman was pig ignorant about children, totally agree with your OP! And about the breastfeeding, agree there too.
I dunno why exactly but I am single, on benefits and get looked at strangely that I Bf'd DS for 16 months and plan to do similar with this one...
even the other mums at preschool are like, 'Eugh I didn't wanna do that'...WTF?
Cheaper, healthier, great if you hate washing up...I could go on for ages.
Your HV sounds a bit weird to make assumptions like that.

ninja · 12/05/2007 20:54

I came from v middle class family - no sweets (an easter egg had to last 3 of us for weeks and was the highlight of the year!) As a teenager I binged dreadfully, was quite overweight with food issues and I'm sure there's a link. I think a health attitude towards food is what counts and that's to do with family traditions more than class.

I can't believe I'm, getting sucked into this.

ScottishMummy · 12/05/2007 20:53

OI jennylee that visitor better no be my man or u will be in soapy bubble

Mercy · 12/05/2007 20:51

lol at Scottishmummy et al!!

Xenia claiming she's not backtracking

"Slim healthy middle class children don't have sdweets at all never mind as rewards"

"listen and learn"

Actually I would lol if you weren't so patronising Xenia.

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:51

huv visitor so am of for the noo

ScottishMummy · 12/05/2007 20:50

aye banana fritter ta

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:49

fo sho is the case...wait a minute...I am okay now...mmmmmm whats for afters? or even....what shall I get ..FOR A SWEET? lol can't think of any other workie terms for dessert, pudding, an so on

banana fritter anyone

catsmother · 12/05/2007 20:47

Twobabies did NOT ask if she was being unreasonable for buying her daughter a "little" bit of chocolate, she asked if she was unreasonable to feel upset by the attitude of the shop assistant.

And no, she was not at all unreasonable.

Far from implying that a very young child had no manners, the stupid, bullying bag would have demonstrated to anyone within earshot that she was appallingly ignorant, very rude, and clearly had no experience of dealing with children.

It wasn't her place to frighten your daughter (hiding in your legs), nor to imply that she was badly behaved ...... and, FFS, you had bought the bloody chocolate, and she had no right to retain it. It wasn't even as if the stupid woman had handed DD the chocolate already ..... and still, at that point, had I been her, I would not have expected, nor felt offended at, a tiny tot failing to say than you - though I'd have hoped that whoever was with them would have done the usual "say thank you" ...... but you were never given the chance.

What a rotten old cow.

ScottishMummy · 12/05/2007 20:47

chip shop owning family, own lots of chippies in edinburgh

and yes i think it is just us all mithering on bout wilkies erse wondering if mine needs to pay double on the bus being scottish and all

Wilkie · 12/05/2007 20:47

One is most flattered

Wilkie · 12/05/2007 20:46

Thank you (I assume that was aimed at me??)

nightowl · 12/05/2007 20:46

jennylee cant you speak proppa cos u av a kabab in ya mouf?

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:46

of yer wean

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:46

cute profil pics by the way

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:45

LOL i think that might be the case

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:45

lol I don't knwo what it is either is it an ice cream?

Wilkie · 12/05/2007 20:44

Is it just you, me and J left rambling to ourselves now???

Wilkie · 12/05/2007 20:44

SM???? You have lost me with your scottish speak. WTF is a crolla????????

ScottishMummy · 12/05/2007 20:43

wilkie - are u a crolla then
twa pickles please

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:43

come adn av a go if you think yer lard enough

Jennylee · 12/05/2007 20:42

aye am not spelling right as a protest agains been edercated donir kerbab

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