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For being peed off that shop assistant made dd say thank you beofre giving her her sweets

393 replies

twobabies · 12/05/2007 15:45

Hi All

I really would like to know if IABU or not, so dd is not yet two and only just started talking. She can say thank you (well she says cue but we know what she means .

We went to the shop today for her treat as she has done really well with her potty training this week and we promised her a little choccy bar. We walked down and when I let her choose she was so excited, picked one and we went to the till. The shop was packed so she had been holding it for about 5 mins before we got to the till then I took it of her for the lady to scan and dd had a small winge.

The shop lady then says to dd loudly "well if your going to be like that your not having it back until you say thank you" whilst holding it out to dd? I said she doesnt talk actually and dd is quite shy around strangers so I knew she wouldn't. The shop assistant just looked at dd and said "well are you going to say thank you" dd is now hiding in my legs looking at me really upset. I said to the woman look she isn't going to say thank you and she said "oh i'm not sure you really deserve this then" before handing it over to me.

I think the reason i'm upset is because dd was so excited as she hardly gets sweets/choccy at all and I really thought this witch had spoilt it and made it look like dd had no manners to everyone else in the shop.

Please tell me if i'm just being hormonal or if this woman is actually mad?

OP posts:
ScottishMummy · 13/05/2007 17:00

oi Kimi - LOL its like the secretary in brittas empire with the kids in the drawers and cupboards so let those kids out thee cupboard now its been long enough , if they are unruly put em in the fridge like i do -soon cool the jets literally and metaphorically

allgonebellyup · 13/05/2007 16:52

Xenia. lol, you are a funny one..

foxybrown · 13/05/2007 16:44

Yes, Kimi, let them out for good behaviour. Get them a Big Mac as a treat.

Gingermonkey · 13/05/2007 16:41

DD had a fruit shoot today and some ice cream Helloooo Kimi, are those kids still in the cupboard? Did you leave them in there with a 2 litre bottle of coke?

Judy1234 · 13/05/2007 16:40

ah.. that might explain why I haven't got a boyfriend - the hidden penis puts them off.

kimi · 13/05/2007 16:33

Can I let my kids out of the cupboard yet??

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 13/05/2007 16:28

Xenia rises about the insults fired at her... because "she" is a bloke.

FlossALump · 13/05/2007 16:27

I'd like to try and argue, but as I find the whole class system totally baffling especially with regard to where we fit in to it, I won't. As I'm not entirely sure what angle I should be coming from! FWIW a system as simple as working, middle and upper class has to be rubbish really, and theories based on it similarly so. It is just to oversimplified with too many overlaps.

FWIW I think the OP is not being unreasonable!

JoanCrawford · 13/05/2007 16:21

Xenia, I disagree with most of what you say on mn BUT, I must tell you how I'd admire your grace. You always rise above the, increasingly personal, insults.

Judy1234 · 13/05/2007 16:01

I have heaps of personal faults, don't worry. Just like anyone.

Jennylee · 13/05/2007 15:43

yeah a bit much really, she is a snob and a bit sour but even a Scottish person would not involve her real personal life in this bag o' mince

twinsetandpearls · 13/05/2007 15:32

veraduckworthshandbag I think that is out of order actually. I didn't think personal insults were meant to happen on here. By all means disagree with Xenia I often do (although I am working class and fat and do gives dp too many sweets! ) but please don;t sink to such depths.

Judy1234 · 13/05/2007 15:02

A lucky escape for him may be.

veraduckworthshandbag · 13/05/2007 14:55

xenia, do you ever wonder why your a single parent??????

God help the poor man who saw fit to leave you.

veraduckworthshandbag · 13/05/2007 14:54
Hmm
whomovedmychocolate · 13/05/2007 14:46

Xenia - so you hate the word chav but don't mind taking folks to task for being working class so prone to fat unhealthy lifestyles? Just because you don't label someone doesn't mean you aren't applying unfair sterotypes.

allgonebellyup · 13/05/2007 13:54

What does Xenia do for a living??

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 13/05/2007 13:28

LOL at Xenia and her ideas about what consitutes "fundamental parenting error". She has "fundamental social issues" which is something of a worry considering what she says she does for a living..

ScottishMummy · 13/05/2007 13:19

hello everyone i see queen xenia still dispensing her wisdom to all in MN kingdom

on the subject of svelete scots i hear the pussycat dolls were going
to record dont cha wish yer girlfriend was scottish like me but is was too XXXXX rated and racy

Jennylee · 13/05/2007 13:16

understanding (working class so can't spell)

Jennylee · 13/05/2007 13:15

Xenia at 12;10

'The lovely thing about the internet is you speak to people you might otherwise not and it helps break down barriers and aid understanding '

I think we can stop worrying people she is clearly just trying to aid undestanding

Jennylee · 13/05/2007 13:13

Xenia re your other post, lol yes you really seem to be breaking down class barriers with your use of the internet, we all feel so warm and fluffy now having read your posts, in fact I feel the urge to hug a rich person ..right now

foxybrown · 13/05/2007 13:12

My children were playing shops one day.

One pretended the doorbell had rung, the other called "the shoppings here".

suejonez · 13/05/2007 13:09

I hate shopping online - you have to hang around waiting for ages, not to be recommended with a 17 month old and they usually charge you for delivery which I don't have the spare cash for. Besides my DS will have to grow up and live in the real world, I don't see that 40mins in Tesco once a week is such a problem myself.

Jennylee · 13/05/2007 13:07

it is the same thing, just using different words. stop backtracking