to be annoyed that someone fed my 6mo chocolate?

I would have been really annoyed. It is ridiculous to feed someone elses child without asking and anyone who does it is an idiot. For all they knew she could have been allergic to it and had a severe reaction.
An old woman on the bus tried to offer my dd a chocolate button a month ago. I told her to not offer her sweets as she didn't even eat food yet
YANBU

I would have been really annoyed......a "friend of your parents"???

she shouldn't have done that to your 6 month old,

Erm I gave my DS chocolate when he was 8.5 months and I swore I wouldn't. He was screaming his head off and I had a Twix finger in front of me I was dying to eat. I let him suck it and he loved it bless him.

But I'd have been really annoyed if someone else had done it so you're not being unreasonable.

YANBU.
On DS1's first birthday we had a party which his grandad came to and when i looked away for a second he just popped a big chunk of pork pie into ds1's mouth. i was on the other side of the room and wanted to cry out noooooooooo and snatch the pie from DS1's mouth but had to sit and seethe in silence instead.
So i understand how you feel.

Your DD was fine but knowing me, if someone had done that to my 6 month old, I'd have been a bit arsey with them and said how did they know whether DC had any allergies. It annoys me when people don't bother to ask before giving your kids something. My MIL is famous for saying "is it alright if I just give them? ".........whatever it is.........as she produces it from her bag and gives it to them. It's always in their mouth before I can say no.

YNBU at all,

I'd have been seriously miffed too. What you choose to feed your child is exclusively your business and should be respected, even if there are no allergy concerns. A lot of the older generation in particular know nothing about nutrition yet insist that they know best. I know my MIL would have started DD on chocolate, ritz biscuits and coke from the age of 5 months if she'd had her way. She's also got a problem with the fact my DD doesn't eat meat and is dying to pop a bit of salami in her mouth. Luckily my DP supports me as he remembers the total crap he was fed as a child and DD is never left alone with his mum.

The friend really should have asked, and I totally understand you being annoyed.

When we had our first child we told everyone that we did not want her to have any sweets (in any shapes or forms) until she was minimum 1. In-laws did not like this and even sent us a picture of them feeding her her first icecream ever. We are her parents and it is our decision. Plus now I have missed out on watching my daughter's face when she has her first taste of sweets.

Problem is that we told them we found it rather distasteful, that they were so blatently disrespectful of our wishes and to this day they still mock US about it. They are openly telling us how silly we were that we did not want her to have sweets before she turned one, and how funny it was then that they gave it to her and have pictures of it.

I would have been annoyed, very annoyed especially now I know that ds has a severe egg allergy. I was lucky that nobody fed ds without my knowledge as I didn't let him out of my sight for this very reason. I still don't let him out of my sight in these situations unless we are in a setting where I know that everyone understands the consequences of him eating egg. I probably bored everyone to death, but I would always say to ds in a loud voice(so really saying to everyone else in a roundabout way) "oh look what a shame you can't have any of that cake/pudding/whatever because you are not eating dairy/wheat/eggs etc etc yet. Another x no of weeks until you can have that ds. etc etc

It's difficult though. I just admit to everyone that I am a neurotic mother in a joking manner before they think it themselves. It sort of diffuses the situation a bit I find.

my brother wandered off with DS2 (6 months at the time) at a family gathering. Came back into room with DS2's face smeared with brown and white stuff with a look of glee on his face saying

"OOOOOOO he loves chocolate and cream!"

I was at the time

but look back and laugh now

i think its all about putting it in perspective... when you look back on this in a year or so, you probably won't see the big deal in it. but they should have asked you or your partner's permission first before offering YOUR child anything.

God no - my lo is not far from the 4 month stage - people are already desperate to wean him and are horrified at the 6 months weaning thing - THINGS CHANGE DEAL WITH IT! I'm gonna wait as long as poss just to piss em off! And I know cos they know I'm a bit of a foodie and health freak (in the loosest sense of the phrase) that they'll be dying to stuff him full of chocolate and crap - why when it's just not necesssary - I know it won't harm him but that's not the point.

DOSE!

BTW my parents also does DS (3) up with biscuits etc. which I do ask them gently to restrict, as I try hard to save things like that for bribery purposes, and am terrible at feeding him proper food anyway - mixture of my hatred of cooking and his reluctance to eat decent stuff!
Still he comes back biscuits in hand. They do help with him a lot though so I have to allow them some indulgence, and they feed him good stuff as well...

I don't think you're being unreasonable to feel miffed. Definitely keep an eye next time and perhaps mention to your parents how upset you were as you're trying to be really careful.
I guess this woman didn't know about that and was being silly, still it's a liberty to take with such a small child...I have a friend who will hardly let me touch her 6mth old baby, even though I wouldn't dream of giving him anything except a cuddle!
She ought to have had more respect for the mother's feelings, just a bit misguided and I'm glad it hasn't caused you DC any major problems. Hope the next baby she gives strange food to is as lucky!

You might just want to tell her on the side that it is very dangerous to feed foods to a young baby without checking with the mother first as they might be allergic to them and die. She probably didn't even know of or think of that aspect of it. Dh was forever sticking things in the kids mouth to taste despite my warning him that we really needed to be careful as there are lots of food allergies in my family. It was fine with ds, but one time he gave dd when she was 7 or 8 months a bite of egg. She came out in a terrible rash all over her body. She was also on antibiotics at the time (for and ear infection) so we didn't really know whether it was the egg or the antibiotics. She is now 4 and has had both since on many occasions without a problem. But at the time, the shock of the reaction was enough to convince dh to never take food risks again.

My sister gave my dd some breamy pudding thing (poss with alcohol in it?) at 4 - 5 ish months, BEFORE I'd started weaning. Needless to say I wan't too happy. Diary, possibly alcohol and her first taste of food. Actually it was the last bit that got me the most as I was so proud of getting her to 6 months. Suspect MIL also gave her icecream a couple of weeks later when we were on holiday with her (she was desperate for me to wean plus dd 's nappies suddenly went v dodgy)

I think you have every rifgt to be annoyed - even if only because YOU should be the one to introduce the joys of chocolate to your dd (at a more suitable age).

When it comes down to it, why did she feel the need to do that?

i would be too. but a tiny bit wont hurt her

Does your friend have children of her own? Because to be honest in the past I wouldn't have understand what the big deal was.. but that's before I was a Mum and being on the brink of weaning my ds I totally understand how you feel.. my gran in law asked me with a straight face if she could give my ds chocolate buttons for Easter - he was 3 months old at the time!!!! But at least she asked...

Remember what our mothers fed us? Mine gave me formula and (later) white bread, overcooked cabbage and v little fresh fruit. Was consequently permanently constipated as a child.

Bloody hell! people giving gin, whisky and wine to 3 month old babies? They'd get a slap for that! Maniacs.

I would have been really annoyed too...I would have been absolutley furious with the wine licking friend! Can't understand anyone giving food to someone elses baby without being invited to.

I'd be annoyed too. Unfortunately, I think it's a generational thing - my grandparents think DSs are deprived because I don't have a tub of smarties in the kitchen for handing out. They think I'm nuts because I have told them that DS1 (3) is only allowed one biscuit when we visit them (they'd have the whole box open for him to help himself, and it's always shortbread covered in chocolate). I think it's because they became parents in 1945 and everything was rationed that it was impossible to have too much sweet stuff.