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In not really liking my mum singing Christian songs to my baby?

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theUrbanDryad · 11/05/2007 12:45

I probably am being unreasonable, but i hate the way my mum sings Christian songs to my baby. he's only 4 months, so unlikely to be indoctrinated anytime soon, but i have made it clear to her on a couple of occasions that we won't be bringing up ds in a Christian faith or in any religion at all.

the problem is that by her own admission, she is on a "mission" to convert people. which includes me, dh and ds. i grew up really resenting my strict Christian upbringing and i don't want ds to do the same, especially since neither me or dh are Christian. also, when i realised how much of a swizz the whole Christianity thing was (when i was about 16) it took me a long time to trust other things my mum said, as after all if she was wrong on this major thing, she could easliy be wrong in other things too. i want ds to trust his grandmother and not have his childhood troubled like mine was.

dh and i have already agreed that if he wants to find out about religion when he's older then we will be fine with that, but i would like him to do it on his own terms, and not have it rammed down his throat from birth, however lovingly.

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Ellbell · 11/05/2007 12:54

Not totally relevant to the thread (FWIW, I think YAB a bit U - a few songs won't harm him, though it does sound as if your mum knows it'll wind you up...), but reminded me that my MIL always kisses my dds goodnight saying: 'Goodnight, God bless'. One day dd2 (who was about 2.5-ish at the time, and obviously hadn't picked up exactly what MIL had said) replied 'Goodnight. Cobblers'! Luckily MIL is a bit deaf!

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 11/05/2007 12:53

lol at inbdoctirnate a baby

FrannyandZooey · 11/05/2007 12:53

No YANBU

of course it isn't ok for anyone to indoctrinate your ds against your beliefs

there are plenty of songs in the world without Christian words

I suggest you learn a few Satanist songs and sing them cheerily to her

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 11/05/2007 12:51

lol at chillax

vimfuego · 11/05/2007 12:51

chillax

Taylormama · 11/05/2007 12:50

yep - you are. Babies love singing of the christian or non-christian variety and it is nice that his gran sings to him. As you say he is way too young to be indoctrinated ...

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 11/05/2007 12:50

YABtotallyU

get oevr it

themildmanneredjanitor · 11/05/2007 12:49

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singingmum · 11/05/2007 12:48

I wouldn't worry.My parents are JW's and I had same worry.I am now however ok with it as they only show my DC's what I agree to and then I sit with them and tell them about how religion is a choice and that when they are older and can learn about and make decisions on religion then they can chose for themselves.
It works out in the end as remember that your childs main influences are you and your dh.