My friend is getting married Aug 08 and I am one of her 6 bridesmaids.
When she asked me to be bridesmaid she said that my kids would of course be invited to the evening part of the wedding, and I told her there and then that I wouldn't be taking them.
As her bridesmaid, I am possibly going to have to stay at hers the night before the wedding, and I am also then planning to stay in the hotel on the night of the wedding. I don't live very far from the hotel at all, but I want to be able to relax and enjoy myself and so want to stay over.
My mum has already agreed to have the kids (i am a single parent) but now my friend and her mum are saying that it's such a shame I won't take the kids to the evening bit, as they'd have a nice time.
I feel really mean but I have never been a bridesmaid before, and I want to be able to enjoy it, and not have to chase Ds around the room, spend half the night on trips to and from the loo or have Dd2 sit like she is superglued to my lap. Plus as I would already be at the hotel, my mum would have to get the kids ready and my elder brother collect them and bring them to the hotel.
My friend asked me again the other day, and I repeated that I would not be taking them and was made to feel so mean, and she said she'd keep their names on the list anyway incase I change my mind.
So aibu ??