To think that shouting at me to keep that bloody child quiet as he has to work tomorrow an unreasonable response to me and child being covered in child's vomit

sigh... hope he's apologised.

He's knackered. So are you. But in this case it was him that was unreasonable. No point in playing the blame game IME - people behave badly when exhausted. He's apologised. Leave it at that.

From someone who has been known to walk out the door and down the street in the middle of the night in her dressing gown after one too many early hours wake-up calls

give him right of reply, would be interesting to hear his point of view - we wont bite, well not unless you ask us to . Like i say, tiredness is a evil thing

no you're not he's been very v. v. v. unreasonable, my DH doesn't do a huge amount around the house BUT when DS's have been sick, including travel sick it's always been a joint effort in cleaning up and comforting (ok i do more cleaning and he does more cuddles when clean). My DH has even picked DS2 up to comfort him when he said he felt sick knowing full well he was about to get covered...both then went in the shower together while i tried not to laugh

good luck in convincing your DH that parenting is for both of you!

Agree with lucyellensmum about tiredness. When DH was away in the Navy he could only phone me at night for a while and about the 5th night in a row that he rang at 2 in the morning I woke up the next day aware that I'd woken up to the phone but could only remember saying "just f* off and leave me alone". When I managed to speak to him again a couple of days later that was apparently all I'd said to him then hung up

Outrageous! but i know how tiredness can make people. DP and i bitch and snipe at each other so much now simply because we are exhausted (20m dd still not sleeping through). Did he actually use those words? Shut her up? if he were my DP, he would be dead!

baby would end up in bed with him i'm afraid whilst i slept on the settee.

Yes, he is being unreasonable. It is part of being a good parent. Has he dealt with a child being sick before.

I have to say Dh has always been good when dd has been sick in the night he deals with stripping her of in the bath and cooling her down while sort out her bed.

Although having said that he has had to deal with her when she was ill last month, as i am 5mths pregnant and cannot deal with any sickness so he has had to deal with sorting her out and room and me .

That's crappy, let him have it.

LMAO @ Agnes! Straight to point!

Just read OP out to DH - he said "what sort of bumhole's that!"

To be fair he is very good when dd1 is sick at night. He doesn't clean up the sick but he does tend to her and gives cuddles so can't really complain too much.

I had both my boys with a bug and nasty coming out of both ends and my washing machine broke down .
It was also the weekend of my conformation and DH and boys missed it and MIL had to take a bag of bed lining home with her to wash

Like others, sick has always been a two man operation so far. Not now obviously, but in the past there would be one dealing with the mess (usually me as it doesn't make me gag) and another dealing with the child.

You husband is clearly a bit of a tosser on this score.

Agnes

DS2 chucked up badly a while back.
DH1 cleaned DS2, I got the clean bedding and new DP put the bedding in the wash.

That's what you do.

what a shit!!

OMG, how did you manage not to kill him?

I'd have lobbed the sick covered clothes and bedding in his direction and told him to sort it out.

Have you spokent o him yet? Sick is definately a 2 person job if there are 2 pairs of hands why deal with it using 1 pair?

Do not let him get away with that mh. If my dh had said that to me, he only would have said it once, believe me!

best of luck with the teacher training btw.

Dealing with sick is a two parent jobin this house - one deals with the clothes/bedding the other with the child....I'd have been seriously peed off.....

I would have removed my sick covered clothes and sick covered baby and plonked them both on DH whilst declaring what a selfish sod he was and then say baby is all his for the rest of the night and go in to spare room. But DH has not done this yet, so fortunately I can only get wound up on your behalf!

That is sooooo mean! People do act badly whilst tired,but it's no excuse!

I thought you were going to say that it was a neighbour!! Hmm - dh defo gets all D&V jobs from now on. I remember the one laugh I had in approx 2 months of newborn ds (ist child) was when dh was putting on sudocrem VERY CAREFULLY and ds farted it all over his face......I was v stressed but it gave me a good belly laugh - dh not so amused! I do have to point out though that dh is a fab dh and father and would, in the same vomiting circs, be in the shower with child, trying to make them laugh...he's lovely.