Toddler nudity

Dd always wore a little one-piece swimsuit but only because it made her less slippery . It would never have occurred to me to put a bikini top on her, that would have been wierd and faintly icky tbh.

My daughter is tiny (10 mo) and she has a swimming costume. The last time she wore a swimming nappy it kept falling off. Plus she looks cute in the swimming costume. On the beach she can wear that or a t-shirt or be naked. I don't think I would buy her a bikini until she starts to get breasts and a waist. Little girl tummies and flat chests in bikinis look stupid IMO.

wonder what they would make of ds2 then? his hair is long, his face is quite feminine and, although we havne't yet been swimming, he will be in trunks. DS1 would only wear pink swim nappies when he was younger.

If i did have girls i think i would have a swimming costume. I don't know wy though.

When i was pg with DS2, i used to go swimming in bikini but with t shirt over the top. Usually ok but one day there was an arse of a life guard and he made me take off my t shirt.(its outdorr wear blah) I had 1 week left to go and argued that it was for the benefit of other swimmers not me. needless to say,he took one look at the spaghetti junction over my extremely large stomach and changed his mind

Republic of Ireland. We like laws that are good for us and don't cost the government anything - smoking ban, plastic bag tax and swimming hats. I think it is probably to keep bits of hair from floating round pools, and to keep 'product' from getting in the water. And we look cute, like elves.

NO compulsory swimming hats here.
Where are you ?
and why?

dont think you are unreasonable

however i have always put my dds in swimsuits because i thought swim 'pants' were just nappies and not a whole outfit iyswim? didnt give it much thought beyond that.

Have compulsory swimming hats arrived in UK yet? They give pool attendants something to worry about, and a source of income from those who forget them.

i'd probably be upset at being asked to cover her up too; but if i had a girl, i'd put her in a one-piece really (SO many cute ones out there too!) not to mention pervs at swimming pools :I
not judging you, btw. we all get upset over things others wont deem 'ok' to get upset over!

I think it's awful that you were told to cover her up. Personally I think the bikini tops for children look much worse than leaving them topless. My DCs usually wear the all in one UV suits but that's more about protecting their skin than covering up.
I'd complain to the manager. Children should be allowed to be children.

but 3yr old boys and girls look the same in terms of they both have flat cheasts with 2 nipples.i don't see the problem? if this person sees not wearing a top a sexual thing then he seriously has something wrong with him!

Rather than reporting it in a 'get this person sacked' sort of a way, it would be better to check out the pools policy. I can imagine a young lad (18 / 19yrs ish) making the statement just to try and be doing the right thing and keep his job, misinterpreting the situation entirely.

I'd report it, only dirty minded people worry about things like this

...and what, pray, is 'acting like a girl?' I have two girls. Sometimes they wear frocks (indeed one of them set off to the park the other day in a fairy dress, trainers and a zipup hoodie); sometimes they wear jeans; sometimes they wear a configuration of leggings and skirts and tops, none of which quite match. But when they start being self-consciously girlish, I despair.

I remember swimming in a secluded lake with my Mum and younger sister when I was about 7.

Sis and I just had bottoms on and this
lady in a rowboat actually pulled up to tell my mother that it was "indecent" to let us swim that way. My Mum told her to mind her own business and that her daughters were not going to be made to be ashamed of their bodies when they were mere children, but she was really upset about it at the time and I remember it to this day because it really shocked me that someone had thought we were "indecent".

at word 'feminine'

How old would she need to be to cover up, mp? 70? 80?

LMAO at the image of makkapakka's 50 yr old dd swimming topless

Please say that was a typo!

my dd (nearly 50 always wears swim pants, wouldn't think of covering her up top till older

The attendants at my pool seem quite happy to ignore all policies on any subject. A blue whale could swim past and I doubt it would cause a break in the youth club meetings they appear to be having by the side of the pool.

No you are not. Attendant needs to get a grip. What exactly is a bikini on a toddler supposed to be hiding?

its sad that he was probably just worried about who would be watching.

i find it quite depressing that childhood is constantly being looked at as sexually explicit simply because of the actions of a few very sick adults.

I agree that at 3 there is NO need for a little girl to wear a top. However, I do feel sorry for the attendant here! He's probably just doing as he's bben instructed - I doubt very much that it's his policy as opposed to the pool's - but some people seem to be implying that he's some kind of paedophile. Isn't that a little harsh?

I used to wear by brothers swimming trunks when I was younger....

Quite often asked if I was a boy, which was funny as I always had very long hair..

Have to admit that DD has swimming costumes, but don't think I would have a problem with her in just bottoms.

I don't think it's girliness, per se, Jonut, just that quite often girliness is used as an excuse for stopping little girls from doing anything that isn't considered 'nice' or 'ladylike', such as climbing trees, rolling about in the mud etc.

My dd is totally girly (don't know where she got that from!) but I have never stopped her love of a big frock from letting her do whatever she wants. However, there are times when a dress is restricting and so I do put her in jeans if we're going to softplay/tumbletots etc.

I think that the OP's swimming pool people are a bunch of dirty-minded gets, quite frankly. If they think there's something inappropriate about a tiny child's chest, they need to examine themselves rather than tell the child to cover up. Esp. if the boys don't have to! As for the (infintesimal) risk of a paedo getting his/her rocks off over it, they can do that anywhere, why the hell should you have to cover up your child just in case?

This has horrible echoes of the 'In the News' thread about the bombing of 'slags' - that what you wear somehow defines your sexual availability. With women, it's insulting. With children - wtf??? It's enough to make you weep. Sad world we live in.