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TO OBJECT TO DH DRIVING OUR DDs IN HIS NEW...

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noonar · 05/05/2007 19:39

...soft top sports car? (its an old alpha romeo spider, for any car buffs out there).

he bought it for 7k, without discussing it properly with me first. it has no rear belts yet. he plans to get them fitted. it is v small. it has a tiny benach seat in the back. it has no roll bar. he says it has a 'strong windscreen'. fat lot of good that'll be in a collision.

i doubt he'll even get the booster seats in it, tbh, but supposing he can fit them properly, what would you say?

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unknownrebelbang · 05/05/2007 22:51

What a fab car.

Sorry, yes I'd be annoyed with him for spending the money without consultation, but no I'd let my children get in it.

And I'd be in like Flynn in the morning.

chocolatedot · 05/05/2007 21:13

We have an open top car dating from 1936 and we travel in it all the time. We have had seat belts fitted though. Also have a 1955 cinquecento. Our children adore both cars and we have great fun going out and about in them.

kimi · 05/05/2007 20:48

Noornar I would have it back on Ebay or loot .
DH1 went and got a 4x4 jeep thing, he brought it home on Thursday and I sold t on Saturday, it was too big and too expensive to run.

I would not put my children in a soft top full stop, even one with seats and seat belts.

tribpot · 05/05/2007 20:43

I'm afraid I forced my dh to sell his beloved S2000 when I was pregnant with ds, on the (reasonable) grounds that it has no back seats. He still has his 'secondary' sportscar (a Honda Beat) but only until it gets old. If he was well and if we could afford it, I would have no particular objections to an Alpha. But it would be for us two only, would never put a child in it, and would be extremely unhappy at him not consulting beforehand. Would he like it if you spent 7 grand on something without asking?

BandofMothers · 05/05/2007 20:38

7k is alot to spend with out asking you first. And to put dd2 into it was reckless.

But maybe he was trying to do something romantic for you both to do together. [reaching]

After all every couple needs time alone without the dc's.

lemonaid · 05/05/2007 20:34

With proper seatbelts and age-appropriate seats/boosters, yes. Without, not a chance.

But buying the car against your wishes and expecting you to be happy is unreasonable.

scatterbrain · 05/05/2007 20:28

Ahhh - I see !!

You'll love it !

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noonar · 05/05/2007 20:27

i dont want to go in it because i'm still annoyed with him for making an executive decision with our money, and for buying a car that i dont feel that we can enjoy as a family.

no, he has another car, too. i hate that one more, but for different reasons. (it's too antisocial to name on MN )

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scatterbrain · 05/05/2007 20:22

So romantic and well.....classic !

FioFio · 05/05/2007 20:22

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scatterbrain · 05/05/2007 20:22

Classic cars are fantastic - why are you not wanting to go in it ??

FioFio · 05/05/2007 20:21

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noonar · 05/05/2007 20:21

fio, alpha- his parents have lots of classic cars. it must be genetic.

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Aloha · 05/05/2007 20:20

Can't you afford it?

scatterbrain · 05/05/2007 20:19

I would - quick risk assessment and then YES !!!

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noonar · 05/05/2007 20:19

lol! he's 35, so a bit young for a mid life crisis.

he's now got got the hump with me, cos i've refused to go out with him in the morning in it, while my mum has the girls.

he bought the car. against my wishes. and somehow I'M the unreasonable one. wtf.

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Aloha · 05/05/2007 20:17

Well, I would. Car sounds lovely. Obv with seat belts but otherwise yes.

Itsnoteasybeingcheesy · 05/05/2007 20:16

Sounds like a mid-life crisis

at the fake pony tail!!!!

VeronicaMars · 05/05/2007 20:11

Did he purchase a fake ponytail to wear while he is driving it.

moominsmummy · 05/05/2007 20:11

wouldn't it be tragic if it got stolen?
not that one can arrange these things..........

BandofMothers · 05/05/2007 20:01

Is he having a midlife crisis???

VeronicaMars · 05/05/2007 19:59

Defenitly not safe for the kids. Is there another car or is this it?

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noonar · 05/05/2007 19:52

thansk, BoM. tbh, i'm not really v happy about HIM driving it either, even when he has no passengers. why is the silly sod refusing to admit that it cannot possibly be a safe choice of vehicle.

its parked outside, has been for 5 days. am still refusing to go and look at it properly.

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BandofMothers · 05/05/2007 19:48

Um, most accidents happen within 5 miles of home, and she is too little for a booster. Smack him round the back of the head and tell him not to be so fucking irresponsible.
That is his daughters life he is playing with and while he could be the most responsible, wonderful driver in the world, you don't know which arsehole is going to be driving at the same time as you.

You can not trust drivers these days.