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Why are mothers such bitches?

63 replies

GinUser · 04/03/2018 22:20

Mine has told me over the years:
She was very annoyed to be pregnant with me
I shouldn't have children
She was surprised I was having a wedding
I am a manipulative cow

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AskingForAnEnemy · 04/03/2018 22:37

Mine falls out with me on a regular basis for petty shit and has told me she wished she'd never had kids, has told me im "not too old to get a hiding" from her, in fact she's said all sorts of horrible shit to me over the years and I've put up with it because I'm soft and felt sorry for her, til now. Frankly she can fuck right off.

Deshasafraisy · 04/03/2018 22:34

My mother can be mean to me too. I’ve realised that the problem isn’t me, it is her, she had choices and she made bad ones. None of it is my fault and I won’t let her blame me. Enjoy your life, she’s had her chance to enjoy hers and she blew it. Not your problem.

MereDintofPandiculation · 04/03/2018 22:33

A mother can be brilliant and still sometimes say hurtful things. My mother over the years has come out with some real gems. She's also been a good mother to me and given me a lot of skills, experiences and attitudes that have helped me have a good life.

edwinbear · 04/03/2018 22:33

I'm NC with mine for similar reasons. Life is much happier.

DalekDalekDalek · 04/03/2018 22:32

Sounds like you would be better off without her in your life. Flowers

Don't judge all mums by yours though, mine is amazing.

greenbeansqueen · 04/03/2018 22:32

My mum is AMAZiNG, in almost every way. Just is. An all round fab human being. Lots of people are. Some, less so. The labels don’t help. And don’t call women ‘bitches’ or ‘bitch’, it’s crappy and makes it hard for people to see beyond the word. As in no one will take you seriously,
Stop swearing and use real words.

Lilonetwo · 04/03/2018 22:30

Your mum doesn't sound very nice Sad

My mum called me a stone once Grin because she never saw me cry when I had a miscarriage from an unplanned pregnancy (I cried in private, I didn't want people to see me upset)

TheC · 04/03/2018 22:28

My mum is my best friend. Yabu.

Idontdowindows · 04/03/2018 22:27

I'm sorry your mother was not a good mother, but just because yours wasn't a good mother, doesn't mean that all mothers are bitches.

One woman is not the template for all other women.

My mother is brilliant and I wish everyone a mother like she is.

HuckfromScandal · 04/03/2018 22:26

My mother is truly wonderful
I would be a much less well rounded human without her help and guidance
I am sorry your mother is a shit

Wakeuptortoise · 04/03/2018 22:26
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RickOShay · 04/03/2018 22:25

Are you ok?
You don’t deserve to hear that. I am sorry you didn’t get the mother you deserve.

Rewn7 · 04/03/2018 22:25

They’re not.

Mine was amazing. After she died I was lucky enough to gain an amazing step mum too.

I’m sorry that you’re experience was bad Flowers but YABU if you think all mothers are bitches. They’re not.