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AIBU?

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in being angry with dh for killing and poisoning?

59 replies

Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:10

I found a dead rat curled up in the compost bin. When I told DH about it he admitted that he knew there were rats down there so he put poison down the hole he found under the compost bin to kill them.

I'm upset, but he's angry that I'm upset. You see he reckons I should be pleased and grateful that the big hunter/warrior (him) has protected me and the kids from the terrifying invader (rats). However now there's a rat's body in the compost and who knows how many more in their hole.

He says he'll dig them out and sort out the bottom of the compost bin so no more holes can be dug in it but my point is, why didn't he do this to begin with? Then they'd have gone away because their food supply was cut off, surely.

Now we have poison in our garden and compost as well as dead rats.

So. AIBU? Or what?

OP posts:
morningpaper · 03/05/2007 22:17

Hmm I think you are being unreasonable

He did you a favour as far as I can see

Yu can hardly look up the Pied Piper in the Yellow Pages

Londonmamma · 03/05/2007 22:16

Oh Spidermama, I would have been SO grateful for a DH to deal with rats without my knowledge 'cos I hate them. Don't be too hard on him, please !

powder28 · 03/05/2007 22:16

LOL @ 'once hes got rid of the bodies it will be ok'

Mrsjm, are you still talking about the rat?

PeachesMcLean · 03/05/2007 22:15

I mean, can DH clear it up sufficiently for you to be more relaxed about it?

Nightynight · 03/05/2007 22:15

It isn't that easy to get rid of rats, ime, they might not have gone just if you closed the compost hole (eg they might have access to your neighbours compost and choose to stay).
Its a bit odd that he had rat poison on the premises without telling you though. That would worry me slightly, I must admit. Does he often do things without consulting you?

PeachesMcLean · 03/05/2007 22:14

The best rats are dead ones.

The poison in the garden thing is another matter though. Can you clear it up?

MrsJamesMartin · 03/05/2007 22:13

You can't really risk it with rats though you do need to kill them to get rid of them, once hes got rid of the bodies it will be ok.

rowan1971 · 03/05/2007 22:13

Oh dear. Did he know that you would have objected to the poisoning technique? Was he being deliberately secretive in the hope you wouldn't find out, or was he just not thinking about what your response might be?

UCM · 03/05/2007 22:13

Would you have dealt with it if he hadn't. If you would have then, no you are not being ABu, but if you wouldn't then you are Cos I know for sure that I wouldn't fucking touch any of in a day of sundays if there was dead stuff. Yeuk