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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

in being angry with dh for killing and poisoning?

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Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:10

I found a dead rat curled up in the compost bin. When I told DH about it he admitted that he knew there were rats down there so he put poison down the hole he found under the compost bin to kill them.

I'm upset, but he's angry that I'm upset. You see he reckons I should be pleased and grateful that the big hunter/warrior (him) has protected me and the kids from the terrifying invader (rats). However now there's a rat's body in the compost and who knows how many more in their hole.

He says he'll dig them out and sort out the bottom of the compost bin so no more holes can be dug in it but my point is, why didn't he do this to begin with? Then they'd have gone away because their food supply was cut off, surely.

Now we have poison in our garden and compost as well as dead rats.

So. AIBU? Or what?

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Songbird · 04/05/2007 13:14

Ah, I love it there. We live about 45 mins away so dh and I are seriously considering getting a season ticket this - it's such a lovely day out.

Spidermama · 04/05/2007 11:19

Thanks songbird. Good thinking. I've been to that place near Machynlleth. In fact I'm going again this summer because we rent a cottage nearby. They are the compost kings.

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OrmIrian · 04/05/2007 09:58

I think that rat shit is better for compost than warfarin anyday. Having said that we have 2 pet rats and they are lovely. So I find it sad to think of any rats being killed and may not be an impartial judge.

Nbg · 04/05/2007 09:56

I'd promise my dh a lifetime of sexual favours if he killed a Rat himself.

We had one earlier this year and the destruction it caused was unreal.
When the Rat man came out he failed to tell us that the poison actually makes them really thristy so the bloody thing bit through plasterboard into our kitchen and chewed its way through the dishwasher water pipe and the cable and flooded the kitchen

Rats are evil dirt vermin and must be destroyed!

Songbird · 04/05/2007 09:45

But wouldn't rat or any other kind of crap add to the organicness(?!) of the compost! It's all natural baby! I personally loathe them but I'll admit rats probably get a bad press.

Songbird · 04/05/2007 09:20

Right, I'd forget being narked at dh, and think practicalities (I don't know what was in my brekkie this morning - I'm proactive girl today for some reason!).

You need to find out how much poison he used, how much is likely to be on the compost, how much may be in other parts of the garden and how all this might affect pets, organic loveliness, oh, and the children! I doubt it will cause a serious problem to be honest.

IME the Centre for Alernative Technology in Machynlleth, mid Wales are the Gods of all things composty, but there must be tonnes of other advice out there (just tested that link and there's a 'compost doctor' on the front page!!). I remember something about how to avoid attracting rats to your compost heap - no cooked food was a biggie I think. But there are child and pet (but not rat!) friendly ways of catching rats as well - there are a couple in the yard of dd's nursery.

edam mentioned the National Poisons Unit - try them if you're still worried about health matters. My brother and I were rushed to hospital when we were little, I think I was about 4 and he was 6, as we'd eaten some grain that my dad thought may have rat poison on it (it was in the back of his pickup - he was a farmer at the time). I was given medicine to throw up as I'd only eaten a grain or two, but my bro had his stomach pumped as he'd eaten about a handful! I think they were just making sure.

Hope this helps. Feckin' hate rats! Eurgh, it's the tails! There should be a [shudder] emoticon thingy.

filthymindedvixen · 04/05/2007 09:05

now i can't get UB40 outof my head (there's a rat in me compost...etc

I don't know whether you're being nreasonable...
I'd hate to have to deal with the rat issue myself.
I'd be narked about the compost but, as someone else sad, would already be tained with rat excretions.
I'd be secretly thrilled if dh had tried to be a mighty hunter and protector (let's just say it doesn't come easily to mine )
But I also get the feeling that whatever he did would have been wrong, because you're having a sticky patch.

WideWebWitch · 04/05/2007 08:58

Ewww, I'd have thanked my husband for doing this, rats are vermin.

We had one once and it gnawed a HUGE bit of the kitchen door off trying to get in there. Vile.

whomovedmychocolate · 04/05/2007 08:55

We had a tupperware pot eaten overnight and teabags shredded so we went out and got a mouse trap. Heard a horrid 'snap' in the night and next morning braved coming downstairs and found a mouse with very big ears in the trap.

Later found out it was a rat

Where are the bleeding cats when this happens? Curled up in their lovely warm beds that's where

edam · 03/05/2007 23:08

Sorry Spider, was just caught a bit on the raw. Am sure it will be fine, what self-respecting moggy would eat a dead rat, anyway? Cats are hunters, not scavengers. But do read dh the riot act about having warfarin around the kids without telling you - it can kill humans (used as clot-thinning drug, if you haven't got clots it can make you haemorrhage. That's how it kills rats).

Spidermama · 03/05/2007 23:05

No invisible shield but am trying to be transparent. Failing though.

I haven't done any confronting and I don't know if I ever will. I did with my dad a while back and I'm still not sure it was the right thing to do.

Anyway I digress. LondonM that's the whole point I'm NOT dealing with rats and what's more I'm critisising my husband for dealing with them.

Oh well, I think I'll sleep on this one.

Night.

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Blu · 03/05/2007 23:02

Rowan - fear not - I hahve not seen a rat in Brockwell Park for about 3 years - and anyway they were at the bottom of the hill - we are meeting at the top.
And it wouldn't be the full Brixton / Brockwell Park experience without a hint of potential rat menace.....

Londonmamma · 03/05/2007 22:57

Spider - how come you have so many rats around you??? On the pillow???? I would have died and gone to heaven by now had I had as much contact with rats as you and your friends have! Thank God you're woman enough to deal with them!

MrsApron · 03/05/2007 22:57

That is the thread indeed. Hope your invisible sheild is up and full strength.

My mother avoided me for ages recently followed by me being so infuriated I lost the head and said "things that should not be spoken of".

ALl a bit inconclusive really not sure if I feel any better long term it just took me off the boil.

The festival sounds good though bit of chilling hopefully.

handlemecarefully · 03/05/2007 22:57

That was completely my nightmare scenario Spidermama - the thoughts of them getting into the childrens bedrooms!

A friend's pup died from leptospirosis contracted from rats last summer.....they are not my favourite small furry mammal....

Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:56

Lol yes rowan. He does seem to get a bit flooded with testosterone when we're not getting on. Also he has been working with Sky TV football type people for the past month and it has rubbed off a little.

Now he is back to doing proper art this month so perhaps he'll re-balance a little.

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Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:53

Good God HMC!

I remember my friend saw a rat on her sleeping son's pillow when she was in her flat in Kennington.

But my compost bin is a long way from the house so I don't feel particularly threatened at that distance.

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Londonmamma · 03/05/2007 22:53

'ppot' because I feel so strongly about this !!

rowan1971 · 03/05/2007 22:52

Blu - rats! In Brockwell Park! For our meet-up!

Spider - maybe the me-big-man-you-rodent attitude goes hand-in-hand with the not-getting-on? I know my DP goes a bit Tarzan when we're rowing. Or he tries to, bless him. He's a lot smaller than me.

Londonmamma · 03/05/2007 22:52

Oh Spider! Don't let your relationship go to ppot over some bloody rats, PLEASE !!!

Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:52

What mother thread MrsA? You mean the oldie starring greensleeves and lots of others working through mother stuff?

My mum's coming to visit on Sunday. Our relationship is, erm, quietly raw at the moment so it should be interesting. < Gulp! >

I've got loads of stuff on at the moment too and I keep thinking I'll post about some of it then finding it's all too big and complicated.

I'm planning to go to a festival at the end of the month with my dd and my baby so that's keeping me going.

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handlemecarefully · 03/05/2007 22:51

Totally.

Try having rats moving around in the loft above your head whilst you try to sleep, and hear them scuttling through the cavity walls and gnawing on God knows what electrical cables...and then see if you still feel the same way

mateychops · 03/05/2007 22:50

(Spidermama, must confess, have had horrible experience of rat, and therefore am totally irrational about them.)

mateychops · 03/05/2007 22:49

ME!

Spidermama · 03/05/2007 22:48

I would wager a bit of rat poo decomposing is better for you than an liberal scattering of highly toxic material.

I'm not expert though. But matey you should have seen it's ickle fluffy face all curled up and dead. Now what brute could do such a thing?

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