How do people feel if the man you are with is looking at other women ?

It's just rude.

It's vile behaviour and totally unacceptable in a committed relationship.

You really deserve better, OP. Please don't let him get away with this.

I notice attractive men, a small glance or whatever. I expect DP notices attractive women too, but I haven't noticed it.

What your DP does is really creepy, it's not normal at all. I know all types of men, including ones who are always looking for the next fling, and even they don't double back in the supermarket.

And Argeles you really need to seek some anger management, what you are saying is completely unhinged. That woman that you want to beat up really doesn't want your creepy husband looking at her anyway...

My ex did this.

My current partner doesn't. I've mentioned it to him. He says it's a choice to ogle other women. All men certainly don't.

Argeles if your daughter got her face smashed in by a woman whose boyfriend had looked at her despite no invitation whatsoever, would you still feel the same ?

Good question, or even if argeles herself got beaten up.

I remember her because she posted like this before and everyone was horrified. So she's stuck in my mind. It seems she suffers from irrational levels of jealousy. And that's an understatement. She said if she's out and she sees a woman who has a certain look that she thinks her husband likes, even when out on her own, she gets irrationally angry about the woman, hates her and wants to hurt her.

IMO men who do this are viewing women as objects which is totally unacceptable. It's natural to look at someone and find them attractive but ogling is a big no.

What is he doing isnt normal. If someone attractive walks by its hard not to look. It's natural instinct and I don't see anything wrong with it. My.husband doesnt tend to stare but if someone catches his eye he will glance then look away. As do I. I don't see the harm in it at all. You can't walk around with your eyes closed. However, going out his way to pretend to do something to get a better ogle, is going too far.

you can also run the aesthetics in your brains , as well as your brians...

Argeles if your daughter got her face smashed in by a woman whose boyfriend had looked at her despite no invitation whatsoever, would you still feel the same ? That she deserved it ?

Nope, not all men do it. Some people are easy on the eye, and as a married/loved up peoples it doesn't mean you suddenly stop the aesthetics running in your brians.
We're married, not dead.

But going to the lengths of your man OP to ogle another women is pretty poor behaviour and disrespectful.

Another one for the "everybody looks, only creeps ogle and backtrack for a further ogle".

Sorry OP, your husband is bog standard creep material.

I’m sure DH finds other women attractive, but he does not do what you describe. Because he’s not a creep.

Argelesif you truly feel that way you need counselling or anger management therapy. It must be so exhausting living like that, and it is not remotely appropriate.

Normal human reaction!

A second glance is a normal hum reaction.I'm on the fence about what your partner has been doing. he is trying to take another cheeky look at a pretty girl and not trying to be obvious to you or her. However, now that you have told him that he isn't being discreet and you know what he is doing and don't like it, he needs to stop while he is in your company.

Argeles your response is abnormal.

Argeles utterly irrational.

DH doesn't as far as I am aware.

The only men I know who do are misogynistic twats.

Argeles has some issues. She's posted in this vein before. Just the sight of a woman who she thinks her partner might find attractive makes her want to kill them and she gets "the rage".. She's been told many times on here it's abnormal behaviour.

doubling back to look at someone though is pervy and unsettling and disturbing, and not normal. Noticing someone is quite attractive as you pass them and that's it is not.

And yes, in my admittedly limited experience, my abusive ex who did it did it as a means by which to control me and make me insecure.

eg walking back in the shopping isle to pick up some more bread or whatever, when he clearly wants to have a closer look,

Your partner is a letch and a creep.

As said by many, of you course you notice attractive people but you do not walk back aand ogle them.

Urgh. You see those threads on here with 100s of posts of women sexually harassed and assaulted in the street? This is the thin end of the wedge. I couldn’t spend time with someone who makes excuses to go and leer at women doing their shopping or whatever. His attitude towards women as a group is fucking terrible, although he may be nice to you.

The pp who has a dd and wants to hurt women your partner ogles? What is wrong with you? If you’re unhappy with your partner your issue is with your partner, not random women who have no control over who looks at them. When it’s your dd that starts getting ogled (posters report from about 10 girls are considered fair game) will you blame her for how men act towards her?

Very attractive people catch the eye - I notice beautiful people, it's human nature.

Ogling, back tracking to get a better look is creepy as fuck.

Argeles- you should really think about what you posted. It's deeply unhealthy. If your friends all agree then honestly, think about who you are mixing with. It's totally illogical the way you e expressed it is weird as hell.

I think you're minimising this. Having a quick glance as you go about your business is totally normal, doubling back or hanging back to have a proper look is friggen Pervy and down right weird and I don't know any man who does this. And doing it with your partner there is horrid.

Your partner is a creep. No two ways about it. Your call if you are fine with this. I certainly wouldn't be.

(Mind you, DH had a bit of a crush on DS's Year 2 teacher. That took some major adulting on my part to tell myself that crushes are normal and to not worry).