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AIBU?

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to not want to adopt my DH's son?

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 13:05

My DH had a torrid secret affair several years ago - now the OW claims to be dying from cancer and wants me to adopt their son! AIBU to say no?

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ipanemagirl · 01/05/2007 21:59

hell, just threatening to divorce Brian would be a fabulous punishment!

inanidealworld · 01/05/2007 15:20

HmmHmm

Blandmum · 01/05/2007 15:10

I understand that Usha is a good solicitor.

Very understanding, and practically on your doorstep.

Does Brian even think about the support that you need to give you mother coping with 'Jeck'. You like isn't all websites and the WI, is it?

obimomkanobi · 01/05/2007 15:06

Jennifer, you know and I know that eventually you will agree to look after the boy.

ipanemagirl · 01/05/2007 14:44

How much is dh worth Jennifer?
Get yourself a solicitor.
5 million?
10 million?
15 million?
He deserves it!

slowreader · 01/05/2007 14:02

Jennifer, if you take my advice please do not do it tonight as I will be stuck at Brownies. Wednesday would be good, or Friday poss. but would prefer not to have to wait until Sunday to hear of consequences.

suejonez · 01/05/2007 14:02

I don't think you should touch Eddie Grundy with bargepole - ake a leaf out of your DH's book and go for a younger model.. I hear Eddie's son Ed Jnr is a bit of alright.

piglit · 01/05/2007 14:00

lolol!

Siobahn · 01/05/2007 14:00

I am on alot of drugs. I am clinging to life by a thread. Sorry if my spelling isn't perfect.

The truth is I was typing while on the phone...

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 14:00

I am, martianbishop - a jolly boring programme about Elton John. Unfortunately I will have to switch off now and make some soup for a late lunch.

You are all so kind and helpful (except that bitch) thank you so much.

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LittleSarah · 01/05/2007 13:59

I'm afraid you have, as would I had I not listened to a certain Radio 4 programme last week, tis on in 1 minute.

Blandmum · 01/05/2007 13:58

jennifer, stop posting and listen to radio 4 now!

MissGolightly · 01/05/2007 13:58

I think you should have an affair with Eddy Grundy, it will help heal your wounds. And up the ratings.

mamatres · 01/05/2007 13:57

i dont get it. what on earth are you lot on about? have i missed something?!!!!

piglit · 01/05/2007 13:55

Oh yeah. Durrr. Didn't spot that.

And another thing Siobhan - stop the simpering phone calls.

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 13:55

slowreader, I have to admit that thought does occasionally cross my mind as I toss and turn all night. My DH used to suffer occasional blackouts so it could probably be arrnaged to look like an accident.

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Blandmum · 01/05/2007 13:54

it isn't, is is Ruureggghhaarr

Blandmum · 01/05/2007 13:54

jennifer I think you are safe re your mother knowing. She was busy mourning the loss of her cat at the time, so forgot to turn on.

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 13:53

(She can't spell Siobhan either, piglit)

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 13:53

Siobhan, you bitch, get off my thread!

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FioFio · 01/05/2007 13:53

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piglit · 01/05/2007 13:53

Siobhan - some mother you are. You can't even spell your son's name. It's Ruari.

Blandmum · 01/05/2007 13:52

Oh get away with yourself. You were after Greg the gamekeeper first! and when you couldn't light his fire you turned your attentions to Brian!

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JenniferAldridge · 01/05/2007 13:52

martianbishop, I hope you're not implying that my mother knows - the shock would kill her!

Her DH (who is also very wealthy as it happens) has dementia and she is nursing him so patiently; she knows that my DH has always been something of a ladies' man but would have no idea that he was capable of this level of deception and betrayal

littlelapin, I don't understand what you mean about my DD?

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LittleSarah · 01/05/2007 13:51

Phew, who knew that random radio 4 listening would do me such good?!

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