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to expect neighbour to return my ds's toys from accross the fence and not keep them for her child!

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:43

My dc jump on the trampoline with their footballs and a few have gone into next doors garden this has been going on for over a year now. If we go ask for them she sometimes opens door and returns them but most of time she ignores us. Then i have to deal with my 2 ds asking me to get there stuff back from next door which they can clearly see her ds playing with from their bedrooms. I know she is a single mum on benefits even tho bf is around constantly but not reason to take what doesnt belong to her. If dc threw cat poop over would she keep that?? i dont think so.

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slimmerjim · 30/04/2007 09:23

Buy the cheapest balls from poundshops.

Don't let your kids bounce on trampolines while playing with them.

Don't expect any of them back if they do stray.

This advice applies to single and married neighbours alike.

anniebear · 29/04/2007 20:48

lol we have next doors football

I havent kept it for my children though! Just am annoyed at a leather football flying over every day and landing on my plants!!!!

Or may hit my DD's

I also kept the cat bowl, plank of wood with a 4" nail that came over last week and the golf balls lol

so....I would be annoyed if your ball kept coming over regulary, but.....I woulnt be giving it to my children to play with!! very cheeky!

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:13

lol? the poor child was hysterical she dropped him round at 10 in the morning no nappies ( as he wasnt potty trained) no clean clothes nothing. Yes i'll be honest i cant stand her we put our fence up because we were sick of her just standing there watching us never spoke to us or answered when we spoke to her just watched. so yes your all right next time a ball goes over it can stay there!

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joash · 29/04/2007 17:11

METHINKS YOU DOTH PROTEST TOO MUCH!!!
If you've been a single mum - is this then more a case of you projecting what you were like as a single parent onto her. As in, expecting her to resond as you would have done?
Sounds more like annoying neighbours with no respect to me.

speccy · 29/04/2007 17:08

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:08

speccy have done that and while we had him she buggered off out till 11 at night! so no we didnt offer again.

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:07

very constructive critism there!

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speccy · 29/04/2007 17:07

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NotlookingGood · 29/04/2007 17:06

What a load of Bollox,

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:05

we live in a cul de sac and most of the neighbours have tried getting her out because she is so loveable.

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edam · 29/04/2007 17:03

Glad I don't live in your street, tbh.

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:00

the kids have thrown the ball a couple of times because the little boy has asked have told 3yo not to. and from now on rather than picking up all the fag butts that come over i shall just throw them back over to be neighbourly!

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littlelapin · 29/04/2007 16:59

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:58

Ok, I do actually see your point, but how is this relevant to getting your balls back? You need to tell your children if they go into her garden they are lost forever, as clearly you aren't going to get them back.

speccy · 29/04/2007 16:57

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mrsflowerpot · 29/04/2007 16:57

You could always try to make sure they don't go over there in the first place...

sorry, but I would be fed up with you after a year and probably wouldn't be in any hurry to return them either.

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:56

ok she is a single mum who is also a drunk she has her kid out till 3 in the morning whilst talking to her bf friends who sit outside drinking beer. The fact is we dont knock till after 4 as we know she wont be out of bed. im not some stuck up cow down on single mothers i used to be one and was for 5 years but hubby and i work hard to give our kids the best she can afford things for her child but prefers to buy cans of stella. Most of her windows are smashed from rows with her bf.

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littlelapin · 29/04/2007 16:56

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edam · 29/04/2007 16:56

If you used to be a single mum yourself, why are you using the term as evidence that your neighbour is somehow less worthy than you?

And what on earth are you on about, anyway? First you say your kids are throwing the balls accidentally (or give that impression), now you seem to be saying they are throwing the balls because her kids have no toys. Which one is it?

speccy · 29/04/2007 16:55

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:55

how are they throwing them over "Because the poor child has nothing" if it "Isn't done purposely"?

SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2007 16:55

its a good job you don;t live next to me, as any balls that come over and aren't 'rescued' straight away, get ripped to pieces by my dog. I have had to rescue many a ball.

motherinferior · 29/04/2007 16:54

Given how fed up I get (I work from home) with taking the neigbours' deliveries that would be a yes.

colditz · 29/04/2007 16:54

Why are this woman's benefits in any way relevant to your issue with her?

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:53

my ds' are 3 and 4 1/2 with eldest being deaf as a post and they have thrown their balls over because the poor child has nothing. they dont throw them daily its happened about 8 times in year hardly regular. and it isnt done puposely.
joash i used to be a single mum so WTF yourself!

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