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Oh probably, but I need to have a whinge (warning, I'm very grumpy today)

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Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:18

This morning I invited one of dd2's friends to come over and play today. Dd2 has been to her house probably half a dozen times but we've never invited her back (not to do with her, more to do with me and our family setup!). Anyhow, invite well and truly overdue.

Grrr. She has only been here half an hour and I'm already really irritated. I have already had to tell her that making mud pies is not allowed (I've just had the garden sorted out yesterday and I don't want to have to clear up that kind of mess before ds can go out there), between the two of them they have woken ds up twice and now he is crying and won't go back to sleep . I have had to remind them not to go into next door's garden (not as bad as it sounds, it's open between the two and my kids are allowed in there, but the playhouse in there has fallen down so it is dangerous), and for the last 10 minutes all I have heard from dd2 is "nooooo, X, we aren't allowed to ... " so I hate to think what she is doing now.

And yes, I could go out and supervise, but the puppy will howl and ds will cry, and they are 8.5 FGS so surely they shouldn't need me to sit 10 feet away to make sure they behave????

This is going to be a long day ...

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Spidermama · 29/04/2007 11:42

Remember it's also your dd's responsibility to make sure her friends know the house rules. That's part of the whole learning experience for both girls.

Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:40

Thank you all

I find it very difficult having other kids round at the best of times. Maybe my expectations are too high, I don't know - but I tend to think that when an adult says "don't do x", then you don't do it? Partic. at the age of 8 (exceptions made for younger children!). I have zero tolerance today (and wish I had realised this before making the invite )

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Spidermama · 29/04/2007 11:38

STOP watching them. Ignore them. They're keeping each other occupied so this is your chance to do something for yourself.

They're not going to do much harm. Let go and give yourself a break.

Saturn74 · 29/04/2007 11:34

I hope the weather stays fine!
It is frustrating when another child visits and seems incapable of sticking to a few simple rules.
I know that feeling well - of politely explaining something for the umpteenth time through a forced grin!
Good luck for the rest of the day.

Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:30

Nooo, if they come in then I haven't a hope in hell of getting ds to go back to sleep! He will be vile for the rest of the day.

I am watching out of the window and they are behaving now. dd1 is out there too and is keeping an eye on what they are doing.

She is not being naughty as such, she is just one of these kids who have been brought up to do exactly as they please rather than follow rules. Plus I am grumpy so it is doing my head in.

Can't get mum to collect, she has gone out for the day. I will put the fear of God into her if she puts a toe out of line again though

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saadia · 29/04/2007 11:26

ditto LoveMyGirls

LoveMyGirls · 29/04/2007 11:24

OMG make them come in and do something quiet or tell the girl you will phone her mum to collect her if she cant behave!

Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:23

nobody cares either [sob]

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Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:21

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

It wasn't water, it was bloody SAND from the SANDPIT

All over my LAWN

AND the pond is all muddied up. OOOOOOh I am furious now!

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Miaou · 29/04/2007 11:19

I asked them NOT to disturb the pond (we have tadpoles) and have just looked out of the window to see them watering the garden with water from the pond

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