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To not want an older sibling at my dd's birthday party?

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 12:55

Ok. This may be a long one!
It's dd2's 3rd birthday in a fortnight. Its a joint party though with dd1. Dd1's birthday is just before christmas and a party then is unfeasable so we said they could have one together.
Anyway, I booked soft play for them. Now, dd2 knows quite alot of dd1's friends so we set out a list. One of these friends has a 12 yo older sister and her father insists thst she should come! This girl is not very nice to me tbh, I find her impolite. She used to be fine but I caught her out telling lies. So I basically don't want her there. AIBU??

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dionnelorraine · 27/04/2007 13:07

Yes! Or just turn down the invitation for the 5 yr old!? sounds a bit harsh , I know but what would you rather?

lulumama · 27/04/2007 13:07

definitely

or let him pay £15 extra....sounds like he is looking to offload the kids

does he know you caught his daughter out telling lies

slimmerjim · 27/04/2007 13:06

At 12, couldn't she be left at home anyway for a bit while he picks up/drops off his younger child ?

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 13:05

Harman, soft play booked exclusively for my dd's Party. I think I am going to say if he wants his 5 yo to come fine, but not the 12 yo. If childcare is an issue then he should send his 5 yo with another parent? yes?

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dionnelorraine · 27/04/2007 13:04

Takes the piss abit doesnt it! The cheek of him! Why would a 12 yr old want to go to a 3 and 5 yr old party? Bizarre!!
I would put my foot down and say no! Limited space!

harman · 27/04/2007 13:02

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 13:02

dd1 is 5 btw, dd2 will be 3

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Pamina · 27/04/2007 13:01

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pinkspottywellies · 27/04/2007 13:00

No! He can organise his own party if he wants to decide who goes.

dionnelorraine · 27/04/2007 13:00

No you are not being unreasonable! How old is your dd1?
I would explain to the father that there is a limited number of people that can go

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 12:59

yes I could accept younger children, there are a couple of babies coming as younger siblings.
The place is booked exclusively for 15 kids, and any older than babies extra i will be charged £15 a head for!

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hana · 27/04/2007 12:58

of course not
I've had parties for dd1 at home and I've said to parents the invite was just for dd's friend, not their siblings. House just not big enough to accomodate

adath · 27/04/2007 12:58

No not really, I could maybe undersatnd a paretn bringing a younger child who they may not have anyone to look after or something but a 12 year old at a soft play party I would put my foot down and say no.

katzg · 27/04/2007 12:58

i think the dad is trying to get afternoon off by leaving both children - its your say no if you dont want her there

NuttyMuffins · 27/04/2007 12:56

No you are not.

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