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To not want an older sibling at my dd's birthday party?

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 12:55

Ok. This may be a long one!
It's dd2's 3rd birthday in a fortnight. Its a joint party though with dd1. Dd1's birthday is just before christmas and a party then is unfeasable so we said they could have one together.
Anyway, I booked soft play for them. Now, dd2 knows quite alot of dd1's friends so we set out a list. One of these friends has a 12 yo older sister and her father insists thst she should come! This girl is not very nice to me tbh, I find her impolite. She used to be fine but I caught her out telling lies. So I basically don't want her there. AIBU??

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mumeeee · 28/04/2007 12:21

No you are not. A twelve year old is to old to be coming to a 3 to 5 year olds party. Her father should not expect her to come. Most softplay areas have am upper limit of 11. So just tell him that she is to old.

kitbit · 28/04/2007 09:58

oh...didn't read carefully, just realised Fillyjonk said exactly the same thing...

durr

kitbit · 28/04/2007 09:58

Tricky if the younger kids are too little for the parents to leave them as the parents also have to take care of older siblings and obviously can´t be in 2 places at once. But if it´s soft play and you are not expecting the parents to all be there as well to supervise and help, then it´s not unreasonable to say no as he will be able to leave with older child in order to look after her himself.

3sEnough · 28/04/2007 08:23

Agree that a firm 'no' is the way to go - no excuses, no made up age limits - NO - not invited. Be ready for her to turn up on the day and have dh (if there) primed to intervene and catch dad before he leaves - we've had this! His dd, his responsibility.

Fillyjonk · 28/04/2007 07:53

to OP

no not unreasobable if kids are being left

if parents are needing to stay with kids, IMO you always need to accomodate siblings too young to be left

think a 12 yo could be left though anyway

heifer · 28/04/2007 07:06

not calling you mean 2Shoes.... I should have typed meant....

2shoes · 27/04/2007 22:10

sorry i am keeping him .........dd loves him too much

stleger · 27/04/2007 21:29

I want your son 2shoes, if he is at a loose end! I am his no. 1 fan and stalker here! (My dd2's friend paid dd1 to go to a party and put makeup on 6 year olds once. Bad idea).

2shoes · 27/04/2007 21:25

hiefer are you calling me mean??

themaskedposter · 27/04/2007 18:07

G'day your royal heifness!
how are you today?

heifer · 27/04/2007 17:39

hell mean 2shoes - not Stoppingat2..

Yep, south coast, must pass this way surely..

Hope the soft play is big enough to cater for all these extras?....

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 17:36

well, Heifer, 2shoes ds will be coming from the south coast if thats any help....

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heifer · 27/04/2007 17:35

TMP - if you put your DD on your end, can you detour here, I will put DD on and they should be fine together..

Just make sure you pack enough fruit shoots to keep them going on the long journey..

In fact, SA2 can you send your 15 yr old down to babysit on the train?....

themaskedposter · 27/04/2007 17:32

well, I was gonna send her first post to your home the day prior - however the train is probably more responsible!

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 17:30

Put P on the train too!

{has a quick count, takes shoes and socks off....}

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2shoes · 27/04/2007 17:29

lol by the way you are not unreasonable. i once wouldn't invite one of dd;s friends as her dad would have come(sn) and I don't like her dad

themaskedposter · 27/04/2007 17:29

Hey Spooky!!

well done organising the party and everything

I am still trying to decide what to do for my dds and the date is fast approaching

ARGHHHHHHHHHHH

hope the day goes well, but no doubt I will speak to you before that

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 17:25

he can wash up

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2shoes · 27/04/2007 17:24

he is 15 though

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 17:21

2shoes.. I am gonna be at Sheffield station a fortnight tomorrow awaiting mnetters' children.. so yes!!

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2shoes · 27/04/2007 17:03

can I put ds on the train?

heiferCROCloather · 27/04/2007 16:12

Far enough Spooky,

Hope your DDs have a great birthday and you get to rest while they play....

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SpookyMadMummy · 27/04/2007 16:02

Heifer... Put her on a train

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heiferCROCloather · 27/04/2007 16:01

Well done Spooky, you did well to get it sorted..

By the way - I don't want to bring DD, I want to stay at home while she goes.... so if you could come and pick her up the day before and bring her home the next after te party that would be great...

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